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You're on a first date with someone and you're starting to feel bored. How do you handle things?...Do you try to switch the conversation around to a more interesting topic? (More interesting for you.)...How do you get a "long-winded" person (non-stop talker) to "wind-down" so you'll have a chance to talk and say a few things too? I get quiet, remain cordial, smile tightly a lot, nod my head up and down A LOT, and insist on going dutch when the bill arrives....The end... that's pretty much what I do, but if the person is really boring I find myself trying to make conversation and then find myself over compensating (otherwise known as talking to much lol) when I realize what I'm doing (over compensating ) I look at my watch and say Well, I've got things, to do nice meeting you and either it's been arranged pre date to go dutch and if they insist that they pay, then I pay the tip.................. |
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In this lifetime, I have never met ANYone from whom I have not learned SOMEthing. So I would have to say, only the truly boring get bored. You just start digging, until you turn up something to talk about. Even silence can be companionable. I don't worry it. I have known so many people that I took an instant dislike to, for being bland, stupid, angry, negative, overbearing..only to find out, there were mitigating circumstances. 'Walk a mile in their shoes..' I don't often make that mistake anymore. Gotta agree.....I always learn SOMEthing from everyone I meet too...even if it is nothing more than the fact that I find them boring ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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In this lifetime, I have never met ANYone from whom I have not learned SOMEthing. So I would have to say, only the truly boring get bored. You just start digging, until you turn up something to talk about. Even silence can be companionable. I don't worry it. I have known so many people that I took an instant dislike to, for being bland, stupid, angry, negative, overbearing..only to find out, there were mitigating circumstances. 'Walk a mile in their shoes..' I don't often make that mistake anymore. Gotta agree.....I always learn SOMEthing from everyone I meet too...even if it is nothing more than the fact that I find them boring ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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oh oh double post, this subject reminds me of the t-shirt I once bought (but don't have the guts to wear it out in public but ya never know) It has this lady holding out a cup of coffee and in a bubble says "How about a nice hot cup of shut the frick up" substitute a u for the r and i lol. Maybe I should wear it when I over-compensate (ie talk to much ) for a boring date.........hahahaha
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This has happened to me a couple of times and I found myself starting to wonder if there was a window in the ladies room that I could crawl out of?
I stuck it out and just never went out with them again. I learned that first dates should always be action dates....but surprisingly another good first date tactic turned out to be road trips. Something about being in a car and on an adventure leads to great times. I was with a fellow once on our way to a local pow wow, and in following the GPS we ended up stuck in a small back road in the mud. We started taking pictures in the woods while waiting for someone to haul us out. Best date ever. It never went anywhere relationship wise, but we're pretty good friends to this day. Skip the coffee dates and go have an adventure! ![]() |
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This has happened to me a couple of times and I found myself starting to wonder if there was a window in the ladies room that I could crawl out of? I stuck it out and just never went out with them again. I learned that first dates should always be action dates....but surprisingly another good first date tactic turned out to be road trips. Something about being in a car and on an adventure leads to great times. I was with a fellow once on our way to a local pow wow, and in following the GPS we ended up stuck in a small back road in the mud. We started taking pictures in the woods while waiting for someone to haul us out. Best date ever. It never went anywhere relationship wise, but we're pretty good friends to this day. Skip the coffee dates and go have an adventure! ![]() |
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"Skip the coffee dates and go have an adventure"
I soo agree! |
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Edited by
HeadnHeart
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Wed 03/13/13 05:39 PM
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I add a little tabasco to the conversation and see if she responds, If its just not happening, I try to liven it up somehow, many choices there, and see if she will come out of her shell or I chime in if shes talking up a storm. I try to lend something to the conversation and If not, I try to learn something and then tell her, in a nice way, its no bueno...and see how she responds. I still do what I came to do, which was meet her and try to make it as fun and easy as possible. If its not a good fit, then I move on...
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I once went out with this guy who told me jokes non stop all night long. Funny but that gets tiring after a ccouple of hours. I endured it for a few hrs and my face was so sore. ![]() Small penis on board? Guessing here...an educated one. |
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Wed 03/13/13 06:29 PM
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You're on a first date with someone and you're starting to feel bored. How do you handle things?...Do you try to switch the conversation around to a more interesting topic? (More interesting for you.)...How do you get a "long-winded" person (non-stop talker) to "wind-down" so you'll have a chance to talk and say a few things too? Why would I want to say anything to a person who is a non-stop talker? If this "non stop talker" is only interested in himself or his job or his topics, he is not going to be interested in listening to you. Hence he will not learn anything about you and you have the opportunity to learn everything about him. (Unless of course he is just lying.) At some point in the conversation, he is going to want you to respond to him so he can gauge whether or not he has impressed you enough that you would let him jump your bones. He will realize that he knows very little about you. He will then ask you something about yourself. Note: he probably does not care about you, or your interests, so at this point you will find it very easy to turn the conversation back around to him, which he will love. If you start talking about yourself, he will probably get very bored. Lesson to learn: People are mostly interested in themselves. |
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I add a little tabasco to the conversation and see if she responds, If its just not happening, I try to liven it up somehow, many choices there, and see if she will come out of her shell or I chime in if shes talking up a storm. I try to lend something to the conversation and If not, I try to learn something and then tell her, in a nice way, its no bueno...and see how she responds. I still do what I came to do, which was meet her and try to make it as fun and easy as possible. If its not a good fit, then I move on... *nodding head in agreement* Yup, uh-huh...I know what you mean by the tobacco. That's a common tactic of mine in everyday life, let alone my dates. I'll throw in a controversial political or religious lure, and it usually results in a good heated debate. |
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