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This can play to if a relationship can work or not. Lets take something simple like eating pork. Many people I know here in the south love to eat pork and use pork products in their cooking. Some people don’t eat pork; many for religious reason but ones like me don’t eat it for health reason. This can create a problem between couples because it is cultural for the most part.
I remember back in high school we read a Mexican story about a girl and her family told her not to marry an American. The reason was cause a family member married an American woman and did nothing but fight. After all American women are independent thinkers and will voice there mind and this cause problems from a home where women were not that way. It is good to learn cultures and respect someone past. However these is the importance of dating and try to come out with these things, or the very least study a culture before start dating someone of that culture. And it is some of these culture classes that why some choose to stay within their own culture, to avoid such conflicts. |
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Make your own heritage, or customs, or memories and traditions if you will. Remember the past, learn from their successes and failures. Celebrate that which made them great, not that which makes them old. If the "tradition" is worthy it will survive. If it is just a tradition then it will fade away. Your partner's love will manifest itself naturally, why do you wish to put artificial hurdles in the way? Great point! But hypothetically...If I speak perfect English, but the rest of my family mostly speak French. It would be hard for my partner to fully enjoy my family. He would probably feel like an outsider at family functions if he does not learn French and might not want me to spend much time with my family because of that. I would want someone to join my family, not estrange me from them. Right? Quite true, and thank you for making my point. If love is there he would never even ask that you be estranged. My in-laws speak fluent hillbilly. I did not like them. But I (we) visited them without complaint because they were her family. It was never a bone of contention. |
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Make your own heritage, or customs, or memories and traditions if you will. Remember the past, learn from their successes and failures. Celebrate that which made them great, not that which makes them old. If the "tradition" is worthy it will survive. If it is just a tradition then it will fade away. Your partner's love will manifest itself naturally, why do you wish to put artificial hurdles in the way? Great point! But hypothetically...If I speak perfect English, but the rest of my family mostly speak French. It would be hard for my partner to fully enjoy my family. He would probably feel like an outsider at family functions if he does not learn French and might not want me to spend much time with my family because of that. I would want someone to join my family, not estrange me from them. Right? Quite true, and thank you for making my point. If love is there he would never even ask that you be estranged. My in-laws speak fluent hillbilly. I did not like them. But I (we) visited them without complaint because they were her family. It was never a bone of contention. I get it! And know that Hillbilly is not an easy language to learn. |
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Thanks for playing guys. 
I'm Bavarian, French and Scottish. Do you think it would be too much to ask of a man to learn to make chocolate, while singing in French to the tune of a bagpipe? 
It's not mandatory. But I really would like to see it. 
ugh... yes |
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Thanks for playing guys.
I'm Bavarian, French and Scottish. Do you think it would be too much to ask of a man to learn to make chocolate, while singing in French to the tune of a bagpipe?
It's not mandatory. But I really would like to see it.
Ha! And I suppose that he would have to wear those silly lederhosen! Ich nicht! I'd much prefer the men's traditional Bavarian suit; those are nice; but then again so is a Ralph Loren Loincloth with studs from Neiman Marcus....
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Thanks for playing guys.
I'm Bavarian, French and Scottish. Do you think it would be too much to ask of a man to learn to make chocolate, while singing in French to the tune of a bagpipe?
It's not mandatory. But I really would like to see it.
THAT I think people would PAY to see
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Thanks for playing guys.
I'm Bavarian, French and Scottish. Do you think it would be too much to ask of a man to learn to make chocolate, while singing in French to the tune of a bagpipe?
It's not mandatory. But I really would like to see it.
Ha! And I suppose that he would have to wear those silly lederhosen! Ich nicht! I'd much prefer the men's traditional Bavarian suit; those are nice; but then again so is a Ralph Loren Loincloth with studs from Neiman Marcus....
I could adapt to the loincloth defo, but liederhosen remind too much of my little brother..... when it comes to culture / dating / adapting I think it has to be a 2-way street. I think it takes a lot of understanding and tolerance. But also we can't expect our partner to accept everything of our culture when it is particulary repugnant....like eating pork that metalsh. mentioned, or for example multiple wives or indiscreet mistresses that is acceptable in some places, but repugnant in the west |
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Edited by
Kahurangi
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Tue 02/26/13 12:11 AM
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How important is it to you that someone you’re dating know and appreciate the customs and language of your heritage? If the relationship became serious, would it be important to you that they learn and practice your customs with you, or speak your native language with you? I wouldn't expect him to...but he's more than welcome to knock himself out trying. Which is highly likely if he takes up the taiaha. Edit to correct an english word. :-| |
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