If it seems too good to be true,it isn't!This is my second time on this site,and one thing is consistant:THE SCAMMERS.My advice to every man(especially the older ones) if a much younger woman messsages you just ignore it.She's just biding time until she can deliver a sob story and ask for money!Last time in was $500.00.And yes there was a Ghanin connection.Just say NO!!!I'm so pissed off,I'm about to delete my site altogether.Oh yeah,and You will be made to feel guilty for using your head.If I am serious about this,I'm going to join one of the pay sites.I haven't quite made up my mind yet.I am recovering from what is a very bad "aftertaste".Yuck!!!

I am more disappointed by number of players using online dating as a mean of hook up for NSA, FWB or whatever it's called these days.
They sound fine and act nice, but they never intended to be in a real relationship to begin with. That's why they are called players. It's just a game for them. Game of numbers.
I talked about this with my single and divorced friends... and asked them if anyone believes in love these days. NONE OF THEM SAID YES!:-(
So, if my friends laughed at me because of even mentioning love, what to expect from other people, especially complete strangers, men who can and will lie both online and offline just to get some freebies?
It seems that there are very few honest people who are not bitter because of their life experience and who want actual relationships.
Makes me wonder what kind of the world are we living in...:-(
Go ahead laugh if you think it is funny or call me whatever you like, but if easy come easy go has become a standard, no wonder there are more and more single people who gave up looking.

Journey, sounds like you have a lot of cynical friends. Sounds like you're quite a bit cynical about the whole thing yourself.

Having said that, I'm in the same boat myself. This is why I pretty much shut down my account except for just lurking on the forums.

I have to burst your bubble though, online is not the only place where players happen. Not too long ago (and most likely still) they hung around in bars and other social events. It's just now they live online more.

And, it could just be mind you, those guys have become just as cynical as you about relationships and marriage. So they're just trying to satisfy a physical need and leave emotions out of it. Men I guess in general are more equipped to handle that.

I understand, but my phone number doesn't begin with 1-900. Also I don't have an XXX web site. My friends feel that way they got burned and are afraid of being used and hurt again.
I had a pleasure of meeting one player too. That lasted shorter than writing this reply to you, but... it seems to confirm the friends conclusions. And yours too. LOL So, I am not cynical, but seeing (and naming) things the way they are - without pink glasses. ;-)

Lol yeah, my glasses are more of a dirty brown tint nowadays too, lol.

I agree with you. My friends both single and married also don't believe in love. They know full well there are many players out there. Men lie to get sex and women lie to get money; so there are players from both sexes. Me; I have lost faith in people and I Journey I certainly wouldn't laugh at you for saying what you said as its the sad truth.

That's true but there are also real people here.

I have been a member here since April 2014 and whilst I have been contacted by many scammers....they are blatantly obvious...I have also been contacted by many real women as well....far more in number than the scammers....

I firmly believe how you word your profile is the key to defeating these approaches....in my profile I stated I would not reply to hi, hello or any other one word or one sentence letters, neither would I reply to nudges, winks or the the like.....they all went in the bin.....
I went on to say that the only way to get me chatting would be to write something substantial that grabbed my interest.....this approach worked so well it lead me to finding the woman I am now forging a relationship with.....

Stillookin, and others.....don't give up.....be smart.....I have found mingle to be a very rewarding experience.....just keep your eyes open and your wits about you.....good luck and happy searching....

I agree with you Mickey,very rewarding experience.
I'm so thankful that I joined here last May 2014.

I like to tell the obvious ones that they are wasting their time, but only after I waste a lot of their time..

It seems that I am loosing a faith in people too navygirl.
The problem with female players is the one men will have to deal with. Not me. Since I am not into women that part of the society is not trying to play games with me. Men are. So men can speak of THEIR problems with female players. I am not a player either, so I couldn't care less. Either way, neither I am a causing anything, nor it's my problem.
Strange, but it helped me realize that living alone isn't bad at all. It's becoming easier every day and I am even beginning to enjoy it. When I think about it, love makes everything more complicated and I am much calmer and happier since I stopped looking for it.
Pure lust doesn't do a thing for me. It's even funny to see players so insulted when their attempts fail. LOL
Sometimes I wonder why don't they choose softer targets. Does it have to do something with ego or it's becoming harder to get what they want? Whatever the reason it doesn't really matter. It won't convince me that piece of cake is better than no cake at all.

While I was married I never looked for anything or anyone online or offline. I KNEW there were dating sites, but never even looked at them. If I found someone I would be out of here. But, since I am single and I've meet friends online, Mingle forums became a nice place for a virtual chat. I do not understand what are those who have found their other half still looking for on online dating sites. It's just me...so, whatever they are doing here is their business, not any of my business. Couldn't care less. :-)

Thanks for an idea mikeyspace4691!
Maybe I should try that instead of brushing them off.

Yeah I hear you. I found being single is a lot less stressful as I can be myself. When I dated; I felt I always had to tip toe around a man due to them being so oversensitive. I find these days that most people don't care about relationships but just want sex and throw you away like a piece of garbage when they are done with you. I was just telling my male friend that he treated me better as a friend than any boyfriend had ever treated me. Seems like once the honeymoon stage is over; its like a green light to treat a person like crap. Oh well, no point in worrying about it. There is a whole lot of fun to be had out there and one can certainly do it solo. Its all good.

Good you got away quickly, and you have also got a lesson from falling.. Anyways its the fact that genuine sufferers..

Cheers

They are the ones who get frustrated when you start asking them questions about why they are changing their story on some things....like he said he lived one place, then another chat he said somewhere else. He said to call/text him and I looked up his number on 3 different reversephone lookups and it said it was a landline. I said "you can receive texts on a landline?", he said "idk,,try hun". LMAO
I continued asking questions and he got flustered and finally said "i'm blocking you, you are severely retarded". LOL

Scammers are Skunks i can smell them a mile away....one told me that he would really like 2 phone me , but he got a female voice and it could cause confusion, his words...lol. How stupid does these guys think we are. In my experience in my 12 months of online chats i mostly got guys from Nigeria trying 2 scam me... ( sorry 2 da true and honest Naija guys here, they r really giving u a bad reputation)...Are there still ppl sending money 2 these guys?