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I Can't take Being Rebuffed, so I always Prefer not 2 Spell it Out in Plain Words. I tease her when I Can and hope She Likes it and Me. Dat way We Both Slowly find Out we Like each other and... On the Other Hand, I'd Like 2 be told if Someone Feels dat way 4 Me, cos I Know I won't Make dem Feel Bad for Telling Me alright... so it's okay to mutually tease then right? Kinda like beating around the bush for a while until the both of you eventually come to a conclusion either way? |
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I make one pass and that's it. Okay, hippie... to get a man's opinion on this please... let's say you told a woman you're interested and she turns you down for legit reasons, will you give her a rain check for her to come to you later because she is interested and is now available, if you're not taken by then of course. No. This just happened to me and although I yearn for her I have no desire to be hurt again. |
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I make one pass and that's it. Okay, hippie... to get a man's opinion on this please... let's say you told a woman you're interested and she turns you down for legit reasons, will you give her a rain check for her to come to you later because she is interested and is now available, if you're not taken by then of course. No. This just happened to me and although I yearn for her I have no desire to be hurt again. okay, I understand... I'm sorry about you're "just happened"... that sux...  
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I would say give it at least 1 more try if this doesn't work ....move on baby
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I would say give it at least 1 more try if this doesn't work ....move on baby D hi nakedwithyou, nice to meet you... one more try, you say? yeah, he's worth one more chance... 
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I Can't take Being Rebuffed, so I always Prefer not 2 Spell it Out in Plain Words. I tease her when I Can and hope She Likes it and Me. Dat way We Both Slowly find Out we Like each other and... On the Other Hand, I'd Like 2 be told if Someone Feels dat way 4 Me, cos I Know I won't Make dem Feel Bad for Telling Me alright... so it's okay to mutually tease then right? Kinda like beating around the bush for a while until the both of you eventually come to a conclusion either way? Hhm! I Wonder, after Giving away one's "Method" per se, if it Doesn't Spoil One's Chances of Getting his Girl 
Yep! It's Okay 2 Mutually Tease, but better be Ready for the Outcome |
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I make one pass and that's it. Okay, hippie... to get a man's opinion on this please... let's say you told a woman you're interested and she turns you down for legit reasons, will you give her a rain check for her to come to you later because she is interested and is now available, if you're not taken by then of course. No. This just happened to me and although I yearn for her I have no desire to be hurt again. okay, I understand... I'm sorry about you're "just happened"... that sux...
It's the way life goes for me. |
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I Can't take Being Rebuffed, so I always Prefer not 2 Spell it Out in Plain Words. I tease her when I Can and hope She Likes it and Me. Dat way We Both Slowly find Out we Like each other and... On the Other Hand, I'd Like 2 be told if Someone Feels dat way 4 Me, cos I Know I won't Make dem Feel Bad for Telling Me alright... so it's okay to mutually tease then right? Kinda like beating around the bush for a while until the both of you eventually come to a conclusion either way? Hhm! I Wonder, after Giving away one's "Method" per se, if it Doesn't Spoil One's Chances of Getting his Girl
Yep! It's Okay 2 Mutually Tease, but better be Ready for the Outcome Better be ready for the outcome? It's just teasing... or flirting, right? What's the harm in that? |
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I make one pass and that's it. Okay, hippie... to get a man's opinion on this please... let's say you told a woman you're interested and she turns you down for legit reasons, will you give her a rain check for her to come to you later because she is interested and is now available, if you're not taken by then of course. No. This just happened to me and although I yearn for her I have no desire to be hurt again. okay, I understand... I'm sorry about you're "just happened"... that sux...
It's the way life goes for me. for all of us, hippie... believe me.. for all of us... |
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I Can't take Being Rebuffed, so I always Prefer not 2 Spell it Out in Plain Words. I tease her when I Can and hope She Likes it and Me. Dat way We Both Slowly find Out we Like each other and... On the Other Hand, I'd Like 2 be told if Someone Feels dat way 4 Me, cos I Know I won't Make dem Feel Bad for Telling Me alright... so it's okay to mutually tease then right? Kinda like beating around the bush for a while until the both of you eventually come to a conclusion either way? Hhm! I Wonder, after Giving away one's "Method" per se, if it Doesn't Spoil One's Chances of Getting his Girl
Yep! It's Okay 2 Mutually Tease, but better be Ready for the Outcome Better be ready for the outcome? It's just teasing... or flirting, right? What's the harm in that? The Outcome: Feelings dat are Bred. And Flirting always Breed Feelings |
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I Can't take Being Rebuffed, so I always Prefer not 2 Spell it Out in Plain Words. I tease her when I Can and hope She Likes it and Me. Dat way We Both Slowly find Out we Like each other and... On the Other Hand, I'd Like 2 be told if Someone Feels dat way 4 Me, cos I Know I won't Make dem Feel Bad for Telling Me alright... so it's okay to mutually tease then right? Kinda like beating around the bush for a while until the both of you eventually come to a conclusion either way? Hhm! I Wonder, after Giving away one's "Method" per se, if it Doesn't Spoil One's Chances of Getting his Girl
Yep! It's Okay 2 Mutually Tease, but better be Ready for the Outcome Better be ready for the outcome? It's just teasing... or flirting, right? What's the harm in that? The Outcome: Feelings dat are Bred. And Flirting always Breed Feelings okay.. thanks for the tip... I'll be sure and tone it down then, so I don't give people the wrong impression...  
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? Being the masochist that I am I would enjoy the fascination and desire but keep it to myself. Sometimes it is better quit while you are ahead. |
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? Being the masochist that I am I would enjoy the fascination and desire but keep it to myself. Sometimes it is better quit while you are ahead. aaww, now how much fun is that...
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It's the way life goes for me.
Same here. It's why I joined this site, but reading these postings and similar threads just depresses me more it seems. It is extremely difficult to make anything that might even be construed as 'a pass' as for most of my life, I've been turned down, so I learned to keep my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself. I'm trying to un-learn this or rather I'd love to un-learn this but to be totally truthful for once...I don't know how and it scare me, as I really do not wish to remain alone for the rest of my life. It has been bad enough already; I like the playfulness one poster mentioned; the teasing around, but then one needs a someone to play at it... I hate this; it is so embarrassing... 
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It's the way life goes for me. Same here. It's why I joined this site, but reading these postings and similar threads just depresses me more it seems. It is extremely difficult to make anything that might even be construed as 'a pass' as for most of my life, I've been turned down, so I learned to keep my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself. I'm trying to un-learn this or rather I'd love to un-learn this but to be totally truthful for once...I don't know how and it scare me, as I really do not wish to remain alone for the rest of my life. It has been bad enough already; I like the playfulness one poster mentioned; the teasing around, but then one needs a someone to play at it... I hate this; it is so embarrassing...
believe it or not, traumer, I'm very shy in person and don't speak out much either... but I decided to stick my neck out and be more outgoing, revealing more about myself within the confines of the dating sites I joined... because the way I see it... in real life I'm never going to get the courage to speak first, but online it's easier because there's no pressure to speak unless we want too... and if I don't speak out I will never be able to make the connection with people I'd like to know... it's risky to face being rejected on a daily basis... but the dread of being lonely outweighs the dread of speaking out... so I let the heavier dread compel me to follow it's wishes... hope this makes sense, and helps you to see this isn't easy for some of the rest of us either... |
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I recently had an experience where I bought something off of Craig's List from a person. I met up with him to make the exchange and talked to him briefly. We exchanged enough information about each other for me to know that he was single/divorced, employed and seemed to be a very nice, responsible person.
The day after I bought the item, I sent him a text message thanking him for providing me with a much needed product and told him that I had very much enjoyed meeting him. His response to me, "you're welcome. Glad you could use it." Okay...end of story for me. I won't contact him again. Should I have expressed more of an interest? Maybe. Do I know how? Hell no. I'm trying to figure out how I ever ended up married in the first place. In short...I feel your pain Athena. I wish I had wise words for you. Please....if you figure this dating stuff out...let me in on your secret. I feel like I'm afloat in a sea of complete and utter confusion. |
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Edited by
AthenaRose2
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Sun 02/10/13 03:53 PM
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I recently had an experience where I bought something off of Craig's List from a person. I met up with him to make the exchange and talked to him briefly. We exchanged enough information about each other for me to know that he was single/divorced, employed and seemed to be a very nice, responsible person. The day after I bought the item, I sent him a text message thanking him for providing me with a much needed product and told him that I had very much enjoyed meeting him. His response to me, "you're welcome. Glad you could use it." Okay...end of story for me. I won't contact him again. Should I have expressed more of an interest? Maybe. Do I know how? Hell no. I'm trying to figure out how I ever ended up married in the first place. In short...I feel your pain Athena. I wish I had wise words for you. Please....if you figure this dating stuff out...let me in on your secret. I feel like I'm afloat in a sea of complete and utter confusion. Shortfire... when it all gets said and done I fear my old fashioned ways are going to prevent me from ever making the advance required to get a man's attention focused on me. But, on the other hand, if the man I like doesn't like me enough to tell me first, then he's not meant for me. How did I end up married? That's easy... he saw me, liked what he saw, chased me until he caught me, hog tied, and made me happy... it's the classic boy sees girl, boy wants girl, boy goes after girl, boy gets girl... and I'll never be able to get hip enough to change the basic rules of attraction and capture... for lack of more modern terminology... I do wish the best for you Shortfire, and if I do get good news and you haven't run for the hills by then, I'll let you in on it too... |
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It's the way life goes for me. Same here. It's why I joined this site, but reading these postings and similar threads just depresses me more it seems. It is extremely difficult to make anything that might even be construed as 'a pass' as for most of my life, I've been turned down, so I learned to keep my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself. I'm trying to un-learn this or rather I'd love to un-learn this but to be totally truthful for once...I don't know how and it scare me, as I really do not wish to remain alone for the rest of my life. It has been bad enough already; I like the playfulness one poster mentioned; the teasing around, but then one needs a someone to play at it... I hate this; it is so embarrassing...
believe it or not, traumer, I'm very shy in person and don't speak out much either... but I decided to stick my neck out and be more outgoing, revealing more about myself within the confines of the dating sites I joined... because the way I see it... in real life I'm never going to get the courage to speak first, but online it's easier because there's no pressure to speak unless we want too... and if I don't speak out I will never be able to make the connection with people I'd like to know... it's risky to face being rejected on a daily basis... but the dread of being lonely outweighs the dread of speaking out... so I let the heavier dread compel me to follow it's wishes... hope this makes sense, and helps you to see this isn't easy for some of the rest of us either... It makes a lot of sense; what I've been feeling for most of my life, I really would not wish upon anyone, not even the worst possible person in existence. I've had this heavier dread for so long, it just seems...almost but not quite right. You are perfectly correct about 'speaking first' and if I do not, the the isolation continues. Hope you have good fortune and the blessing of 'Lady Luck' on your side! |
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I give up after the first no thanks. I will not "force" myself on anyone. Yes, it feels like forcing if I keep trying with someone not interested.
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It's the way life goes for me. Same here. It's why I joined this site, but reading these postings and similar threads just depresses me more it seems. It is extremely difficult to make anything that might even be construed as 'a pass' as for most of my life, I've been turned down, so I learned to keep my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself. I'm trying to un-learn this or rather I'd love to un-learn this but to be totally truthful for once...I don't know how and it scare me, as I really do not wish to remain alone for the rest of my life. It has been bad enough already; I like the playfulness one poster mentioned; the teasing around, but then one needs a someone to play at it... I hate this; it is so embarrassing...
believe it or not, traumer, I'm very shy in person and don't speak out much either... but I decided to stick my neck out and be more outgoing, revealing more about myself within the confines of the dating sites I joined... because the way I see it... in real life I'm never going to get the courage to speak first, but online it's easier because there's no pressure to speak unless we want too... and if I don't speak out I will never be able to make the connection with people I'd like to know... it's risky to face being rejected on a daily basis... but the dread of being lonely outweighs the dread of speaking out... so I let the heavier dread compel me to follow it's wishes... hope this makes sense, and helps you to see this isn't easy for some of the rest of us either... It makes a lot of sense; what I've been feeling for most of my life, I really would not wish upon anyone, not even the worst possible person in existence. I've had this heavier dread for so long, it just seems...almost but not quite right. You are perfectly correct about 'speaking first' and if I do not, the the isolation continues. Hope you have good fortune and the blessing of 'Lady Luck' on your side! to you also, Traumer... lots of luck... and confidence too... |
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