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Topic: valentine day
Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Tue 02/12/13 06:00 AM
Nope, no bitterness in this thread...

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Tue 02/12/13 06:32 AM Edited by GreenEyes48 on Tue 02/12/13 06:43 AM
I might have lunch out with one of my male neighbors on Valentine's Day. (Not necessarily because it's Valentine's Day. Our local Indian casino has two-for-one buffets on Thursdays. And they have the best buffets in our entire area.)...My neighbor is a widower who has been depressed lately. He missed his wife over the holidays and hasn't recovered yet...I'm a widow and not ready to date yet..So we make a good "pair" and feel "safe" together...It might be good to get out together on Valentine's Day versus staying home by ourselves...It doesn't have to be a day for "sweethearts" or "lovers." It can just be a day for friendship... We're going "dutch." This way we're both on "equal footing" with no hidden "strings" or agendas or any obligation for "pay-backs."

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Tue 02/12/13 06:42 AM
Everyone has their own way of dealing with holidays, due to their own life experiences. Friends have told me some of my ways are wrong. OHH well, they are right for me. Valentines Day, is my son's ACTUAL marriage anniversary. Agreed. I use to be bitter about Valentine's day but it dawned on me that I was being silly and jealous of others. I was being petty at best. Commercialization has ruined every holiday and that is sad. I would like to think of Valentine's day as a day that a couple take that time to say; "Hey; life is hectic and I may not show it or say it all the time; but I truly do love you. Let's make this day completely about us and shut off the rest of the the world". Valentine's day doesn't have to be expensive as that surely depends on the person you are with. If they are greedy person; then yep it'll be expensive. Love should never be bought whether it's Valentine's day, Christmas, or their birthday but unfortunately our society is so brainwashed that they think spending money is the only way to show love. How sad we are as a race. Great post! I like your idea about shutting the world out...My husband and I did this a lot. Our relationship wasn't based on gift-giving and making "big splashes." Or putting on "shows."

ScarlettMagnolia Joined Thu 01/24/13 Posts: 5	Tue 02/12/13 08:33 AM
As a single individual, I hate it! It is a reminder of a relationship I want but don't have and how alone I am.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Tue 02/12/13 08:38 AM
Everyone has their own way of dealing with holidays, due to their own life experiences. Friends have told me some of my ways are wrong. OHH well, they are right for me. Valentines Day, is my son's ACTUAL marriage anniversary. Agreed. I use to be bitter about Valentine's day but it dawned on me that I was being silly and jealous of others. I was being petty at best. Commercialization has ruined every holiday and that is sad. I would like to think of Valentine's day as a day that a couple take that time to say; "Hey; life is hectic and I may not show it or say it all the time; but I truly do love you. Let's make this day completely about us and shut off the rest of the the world". Valentine's day doesn't have to be expensive as that surely depends on the person you are with. If they are greedy person; then yep it'll be expensive. Love should never be bought whether it's Valentine's day, Christmas, or their birthday but unfortunately our society is so brainwashed that they think spending money is the only way to show love. How sad we are as a race. Great post! I like your idea about shutting the world out...My husband and I did this a lot. Our relationship wasn't based on gift-giving and making "big splashes." Or putting on "shows." That is why you were happily married as you get that love doesn't have to be bought. You two truly understood the true meaning of love.

mikaxel80 Joined Sat 10/06/12 Posts: 551	Tue 02/12/13 12:33 PM
A senseless day

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Tue 02/12/13 12:40 PM
Nope, no bitterness in this thread... Yep; lots of cranky and jealous singles.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14968	Tue 02/12/13 12:56 PM
I just received a Beautiful card from a Online friend I have known for a while. We met on a Paid site previously.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Tue 02/12/13 07:09 PM
A senseless day The greeting card industry needs the day.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Tue 02/12/13 08:46 PM
A senseless day The greeting card industry needs the day. Not really there is Easter, Mother's Day, Father's day, Birthdays, etc.

Unknow Joined Thu 04/01/10 Posts: 1482	Tue 02/12/13 08:57 PM
OMG!!!! I am so looking forward to Valentines Day. Walmart had the cutest Valentine socks so I bought a pair (ok ok three pair) and I can hardly wait to wear them on Valentines Day, now I only have to decide do I want to wear them with my black patent or my red Dansko clogs? decisions, decisions................

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Tue 02/12/13 10:28 PM
Single Awareness Day... that's about it, lol. But honestly, if I were in a relationship... I would do things unexpectedly, on days when the rest of the world was taking their relationships for granted. Any kind of gift or romantic gestures from me would be pretty frequent, and more "just because" than due to it being any given day of any given month. That isn't to say I wouldn't still do something on Valentines Day, but it's definitely an over-rated occasion. It wouldn't need to be Feb 14th for my girl to know I care about her, flat out. Good man!

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Wed 02/13/13 05:31 AM
I just received a Beautiful card from a Online friend I have known for a while. We met on a Paid site previously. Great that your friend sent you the card. Happy Valentine's Day!

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Wed 02/13/13 11:26 AM
Valentines's Day- the day when you give candy yo the last person on Earth that you want to see get fat.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Wed 02/13/13 11:31 AM
Valentines's Day- the day when you give candy yo the last person on Earth that you want to see get fat. hahaha...not if she feeds them to you ;-)

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Wed 02/13/13 11:33 AM
Valentines's Day- the day when you give candy yo the last person on Earth that you want to see get fat. hahaha...not if she feeds them to you ;-) I'd peel your grapes before I feed them to you. Hey, where did that "yo" come from?

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Wed 02/13/13 11:47 AM
If you're sad about being alone on Valentine's day, just remember.... No one loves you on the other days of the year either. This message was brought to you by a cranky old man.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Wed 02/13/13 11:50 AM
Valentines's Day- the day when you give candy yo the last person on Earth that you want to see get fat. hahaha...not if she feeds them to you ;-) I'd peel your grapes before I feed them to you. Hey, where did that "yo" come from? <<---<<< no kidding :-)

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14968	Wed 02/13/13 11:55 AM
I just received a Beautiful card from a Online friend I have known for a while. We met on a Paid site previously. Great that your friend sent you the card. Happy Valentine's Day! Thank You! I liked your posts here on how you and your husband were. That is Wonderful! Happy Valentine's Day to you too. Enjoy your outing with your friend/neighbor.

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Wed 02/13/13 12:06 PM
Just think "Candy goes on sale for half price tomorrow!" and dance!