sounds like he DOES love her...as a wonderful and treasured friend. and if he's honest...then that's a good thing.

i wish, for your friend...that she would find someone to date, if she's wanting a relationship.

i wish for me...to find one of what she already has, heh.

Thank you, my friend would appreciate the well wishes....It will happen for all of us, when it's supposed to, I believe.


Here's something she just told me. He met this other woman about a month ago, but waited to take her out because my friend and he already had a week at the beach planned. They shared the same bed, had sex multiple times all over the condo, hugged and necked in the ocean..yada, yada.......Hearing this really ticked me off. I thought he was a stand up kinda guy, but after hearing this, sounds like he was using her. I just don't know anymore what to make of the whole thing...my friend is heartbroken, but she will survive, as we all will...

sounds like they had an agreement initially that they wanted to be friends and have casual sex without strings, and she ended up having more feelings for him as time went on, but he still feels the same. Sad that that happened, only she can help herself.

I think your friend needs to do 2 things.

1). She needs to realize that this relationship is over & move on.

2). Cut him loose completely. It doesn't have be to dramatic, but she needs to be unavailable for him for her sake. If she doesn't, then he will treat her as fall back girl and/or she will continue to fruitlessly hope that she still has a chance. Sadly, he probably won't even notice.

I honestly do not know if he truly cares about her not, but I think it is very telling that he did not have the balls to discuss this w/ her face to face. E-mail and phones are great, but somethings should be done face to face & this is one of them.

Tell your friend to Take Care & keep her chin up.
Alexia.

i think she should turn the tables and keep him as a pet....

that's all they're really good for anyway!!!

take em for walks and to the park...make picnics and if ya want, seduce them...they're so easy doncha know...


sometimes it's even fun to cook for them and pet them....

yea I know they are difficult to house train...it's from the lack of care and focus over the years with the breeders


intelligence has fallen to the side and looks are what we genetically import these days

if ya want a loyal pet ....some of the old school breeders still have them but they are a rare and dying breed...

must be environmental issues pushig them out of their natural habitat....

"My dog's faster than your dog,
My dog's bigger than yours.
My dog's better 'cause he gets Ken-L Ration,
My dog's better than yours."

the funny thing about this email is that....in the end he will probably want to go back to the first one, since she was so nice about it, but by then she will find a guy that really loves her and then he will end up on an internet dating site!!!!

Oh great. So what are you saying here, gyps??

jaded and emotionally unavailable, he will court the women here and find them open to new friendships but he will be unable to commit...because he secretly will long for that which he cannot have...

what a loser!

bad dog! no chew toy! au panier!

we will get the "leftovers"

Sloppy seconds, huh? No thanks.

I guess the other option is to become a lesbian.

The thought has crossed my mind but uhhhhhhhhh nooooooooo

i love leftovers!

Wow! This thing has taken on a life all it's own

I'm finding out more and more. Like, he told her he'd met someone else, via email and was thinking of calling this person but wanted to let her know first.....He KNEW she was crazy about him. She told him, many times......I think most of you are right......He's a dog. She should cut her losses and move on.....

He took her to beach anyway and played 'house' with her the whole week.......with every intention of dating someone else without ever mentioning it to her again.....who said it on here? Women do not think like men, and vice versa. Too bad we can't all remember that.....

It's easy for everyone to say, "kick him to the curb"... it's much harder to do.

I do think he sounds unhealthy for her, whether that is her fault, his fault or both... in a way it doesn't really matter anymore- any relationship where one person so obviously cares much more than the other person is going to harm them, don't you think?

So, yes she needs to leave but the worst part about having your best friend for a lover is that when it's over you can't talk to, get drunk with, take comfort from, your best friend.

Its good that she has you Babydoll. Sounds like she will need a lot of help covering up the void that will be left...

Sounds like he kept her around until he could the one he wanted so he could have his cake and eat it.

s1hand wrote " jaded and emotionally unavailable, he will court the women here and find them open to new friendships but he will be unable to commit...because he secretly will long for that which he cannot have... "

I think you may be right...I personally believe the one he can not have is the ex wife that walked out on him after 17 yrs. And my friend still doesn't know why, other than he said 'she got up on her 40th birthday and said she wanted a divorce' - I always found that odd..

Oh yea! Easier SAID than DONE, always...

She's on her way over now. Hopefully I can remember ya'lls words of wisdom and help her thru this.

good luck with your friend, I was sort of in a situation like that and it is really hard to not think there is more to it on the guys part. I remember thinking, if he could treat me like he loved me then how could he not and maybe he just doesn't realize it. Or he's just not ready to settle down so maybe when he comes around.. etc..

But she should really try to get rid of him entirely or it's just going to be an ongoing battle and teasing torment of her mind. If he does come around and wants to be with her in the end, if it's meant to be, it will find a way to happen. But she most likely deserves more then waiting around for nothing.

Good luck again!