I have read quite a few posts here about cheaters. Seems like men are the most guilty of it, but of course women do it too. I think it is the most horrible thing anyone can do to anyone else. I affects everyone close to the cheater in ways you can never imagine. When my ex decided that my rich (and also married) friend was better than me I took my 12 year old son and went on a little road trip just to get away for a few days. He later told me that he had to fight the urge to just grab the steering wheel and steer us in front of an oncoming semi. I cried everynight for months, it hurt everyone on both sides except the selfish people that just didn't care about anyone else. DON'T cheat, if you are not happy have the guts to end it like an adult, it will still hurt someone, maybe just a little less.

I agree...cheaters are cowards...Be fair and end the first relationship before starting a new one!!!!!!!!!

well said!!!

wanting1forlife........I agree whole-heartedly with you!!!

If you'd take a bath, I might consider you as a prospect!

Jeebus Wanting........Makes me thankful my kids were younger when me and my wife split. And Yes My wife cheated on me as well.although I did try to save the relationship for my kids for my kids it it did not work,See the Dirty Details in the Welcome section.... Thinks his luck his lucky stars he is not going to explain that to his kids when there old enough..

Deffinately well said...

wanting I am sorry for your son the most and I agree with you all the way.

cant you see that he did take a bath? a mud bath? ... lol

Well said....at least have the guts to end the first relationship before starting another.

i think cheaters are those persons who are cowards.....

I wasn't married to the guy but he told me he was single and looking for long term. So we started dating. 9 months later, I stop by his house to check on his animals, he was supposed to be working in another state. There was another woman there. She didn't know about me either. To make along story short, he also had a fiance in another town, and numerous girls on dating sites. I loaned him $ and helped him buy a tractor cause he couldn't get a loan. I feel so stupid for believing all his lies. He told me he hadn't been with anyone for a long time. Are there any honest ones out there????

There are a few honest ones left amd some of those are on here

my ex hubby cheated before during and after we got married and i put up with his crap for over 2yr and even during our marriage. which didnt last long. i kicked him out of the house 4time and the 4th was the last.. i would consider him to be a coward.

It is easy to end it like an adult ,But sometimes it cost alot to,I'm not talking money ,Sometimes it plays on the mind and gives you a bad taste,About both men or woman,It makes you want to hurt people for no good reason,thats why we have to be sure it is what we want.

when I married my husband he was 19 and had never been with anyone other than me, then later in our marriage I put on some weight and he blatantly told me he would like to "do it" with someone that was thinner than me. I like a fool said go do what you have to do and when you get done come home. He left and he ultimately came back home, and yes I never forgot that and was devastated that I was put in that position. It plkayed on our relationship right up until the day he died what a waste of time and energy.

A few random observations here that might help. When you are the only one in another persons life I have found that there is no place else you would rather be, there is no such thing as an inconveinient phone call, you never want to be somewhere else for no apparent reason, always happy to see eachother, and sad when you have to be apart. I am sure there are many other signs to show you are the only one, but these are some of my favorites. oh, btw..cheaters you get what you deserve most of the time. The piece of s**t that my wife left for, he cheated and left her too. Funny thing, I just felt sorry for her.

well, all my life i thought i was already married.....but after a year of marriage there was this woman who just appeared in front of our house and claiming shes the first and original wife,documents was with her to show me all the proofs and when I asked my "fake husband" he did not say anything just a "sorry " word and thats it,thats how I ended up our 5 years relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend and a one year fake married couple......well, though it hurts, Im still grateful coz inspite of his being a cheater he made me feel what love is really all about?And I have learned a lot from him,maybe we just found each other at the wrong time....and thats life some wins,some loose.......

There are honest people out there. I'm right here.

All I'm asking is the opportunity to prove that statement to someone.

Still waiting in Tennessee. Patiently. Hopefully. Lonely.

knoxman

If I'm in a committed relationship with someone & he cheats, as far as I am concern, the relationship is over.

Ohhhh believe me there are allot more than just a few out there that are not cheaters. But your right it is something men and women boh neither is beyond it. Myslef I don't believe in it heck even when just dating its one on one with me have never even dated 2 guys at the same time. But I know allot of people see nothing wrong with dating more than one at a time.

But cheating there is no excuse and the pain left behind is very real and damanging to more than just the 2 involved.