If "Separated" is your marital status, then what prevents you from getting divorced from whomever you are legally married to?

The stupid 60 day waiting period. So close and yet so far...

Legally separated: (Divorce is filed but is not final)

A signature. For me, I had to get it signed.

In the absence of a signature, (if you can't get one) you have to publicize the desolation of the marriage and probably have it signed by a judge.

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Just separated:

Husband out of town.

Good question, but no answer.

She never left... my heart.

Maybe that's a nice way of saying we might get back together? I am unsure. I know prior to my divorce being finalized. I was divorced. cause there was no chances..........

I know a lady that has been separated for 9 years and her husband lives here in the city. I think many people hope for reconciliation. But usually one or both spouses are dating during those long separations and really, you are not married, if you are with someone intimately other than your spouse. You should get divoced legally.

My divorcr is all ready signed by judge. But it will not be
Final till we live apart for one year. Because of minor children.
That is the way Louisianna.

money

the complication of our marriage, that we are citizens from seperate nations and were married in his country and have a child together, makes it a costly process, a minimum of 1000 for just the retainer because of the difficulty of serving him at an unknown address in another country, and his own non interest in cooperating with such a process

it could linger on for a while , and just the retainer, in my current financial circumstances, is not something I have to spare for papers to tell others what I already understand

I am a single mother with no partner/husband in my life,,,or my childs

David, good one!

Here's the deal: When in the military, and in Japan, we are covered under the SOFA act - or the Status Of Forces Agreement. Long policy made short, it is ME that is the basis for sponsorship; MY name is on and in everything from the lease on the house, to car registration, the kids' registration in school, drivers' licenses, ID cards = everything. If we ever actually get divorced, her way of doing business/job would change greatly as her car would lose it's "Y" status, and her getting on base would require a letter and/or frequent sign in. Also when it's time to re-register her car every year and pay the various taxes, it would cost a good bit more. I don't want the outdated USFSPA forcing HALF of my retirement + current pay + alimony. She actually agrees with me in that it is not completely fair, and both of us are not (currently) going to put each other through the hassle. I am doing the right thing and paying 75% of all child-related expenses as well as putting money away - monthly - for their college education.

So with all that, money & convenience are our justifications for not getting divorced - or at least that is what I believe. Either way, there is no getting back together for us. She says I have been a d!ck since day one, and I found out she had a significant other which still makes my heart & soul ache. For all I know she is just marking time until the 20-year mark, where she rates her own ID card, and other things. Sigh.

That really sucks.

You sound like you are keeping up your end of responsibility. Marriage sometimes is not a good thing for the woman who wants a divorce. When children are involved, it is more complicated.

religion

you might hate their guts and live apart from them because you can't stand looking at their face...but on those extremely horny days you can still have sex with them and it's not fornication

So "fornication" is unmarried sex? mmm I didn't know that.

I think I know someone who has done that.

It's a slow process when the other one is not always cooperative

Nothing now!!! Wooohoooo!!! The house is sold.....and I'm on my way doing the all the single ladies dance!!!

All the single ladies... Now throw your hands up!! Whoa hooo hooo!!!

married sex is called "Chores"

hey honey, after you finish slopping them hogs come on in here and take care of your bedroom chores, you know it's wednesday, and I'm almost finish soaking the corns off my foot