wow the nerve.

For the fact that a lady wants her man earning more money than her does not make her a gold digger,ok?

And yet, if I were to win the lottery, how many chicks would want to marry me without that pre-nup?

I don't know Goof...I bet you can be a real pain in the azz when your tired or hungry....

most chicks,, the prenup can keep any assets from being distrbuted upon divorce,,,


which I never really understood, because divorce laws already take care of dividing marital property, I wouldnt sign a prenup personally,

"Always talking bout what you got" here's a tip, don't go bragging on what you got in possesions and concentrate on what you got in personality, from my personal viewpont those they feel they have to let it be known about all their personal wealth have nothing to offer in the relationship but that. Then they start screaming "gold digger" when the relationship ends.JMO

There are Men gold diggers out there, I think they would be called a gigolo.

Yes there are. Many. I lost over $2000 to one.

Blame my chef! When he's not around, I don't get my morning bacon and eggs.

At your age, you should be eating oatmeal!


Did you say CHEF????!!!!

You leave my cream of wheat alone Leigh.

yes guys who biatch about women being gold diggers need to look in the mirror and make sure they are not solely seeking a woman for sexual pleasure or based on her looks alone, equally shallow....before casting the first stone.

if compatibility can hang solely on any ONE criteria,, people may want to take a better look at themself,,,,

Women generally want access to a man's wealth. That's why they insist on marriage. Even women that earn high incomes of their own still prefer men that make even more.

This is understandable because, for a very long time, marrying a wealthy man was the only way a woman was able to raise her social status. Also, a man with vast resources offers a woman's children a better chance of surviving.

The simple but elastic phrase "The best that money can buy..." applies equally to both males and females. Those with the wealth can purchase whom they want. Any doubts, please consult the Sultan of Brunei...and the women of his harem, or perhaps the King of Swaziland...

I think it's kinda sad when love and money are put in the same class.

True, true. The whole thang is kinda sad really. More than 50% of marriages end in divorce!? This is madness. Is there anything to be done?

Let's not assign blame - it's a rabbit-hole. Some will say "the women's movement" but the movement happened because of wicked men. Let's just be upfront with our feelings on our sleeves. Gotta try SOMETHING. One day in the near future a newscaster will report, "75% of all marriages now in end divorce" - what will we do then? SAD. Shame on all of us.

#rant:off

Ohh ohh, this was my sixty-ninth post! Woo-hoo! Too bad none of THAT is going on...(sigh)

The problem is when men take the extremes of women who have used gold digger like ploys on them, or women who have in their estimation just been romanced to get in the bed - and we then make it a broad brush to paint the whole other sex as being that way. Then make it the burden of the next guy or gal to prove they are not that way.

Are there men and women gold digggers. Yes. Is every man or woman one? No. Is it wrong for a woman or man to be concerned about a positive financial future? No. Should they they exploit that issue without any true and real commitment to the other person? No.

Are there men and women who just want sex and nothing else? Yes. If every woman or man the exactly same way? No. Just because a guy or gal complements your attractiveness doesn't mean the only they are thinking about is getting you in bed.

Be up front and communicate honestly.

My most recent gold digger. Someone that I met thru her cousin in Texas. She lives in Arkansas. He and I have been friends for 10 years, I just met her maybe 2 years ago. Single, couple of boys. Talked to her on phone primarily for business purposes. Eventually it changed to some personal conversations. Visited once on way to an out of town work assignment. Had dinner. It was painfully obvious to me that we were not a match on nothing more than work/social related issues.

Yet after her making sure I was single, the financial hits started trying to me made. She calls asking for money for her son's private football/track camp activities because the father won't pay it.
She calls asking to pay her phone bill - she can't be without her phone - will lose her job. She calls needing money to make a trip somewhere to put in an appearance. She needed help to move to a new apartment in the same complex she lives. She needed money for car repairs.

She calls asking me to fly her to my city and put her up in a hotel so she can go shopping. Of course she is going to be shopping with her own money unless I make the foolish mistake of going shopping with her.

Thankfully I saw through the "innocent" looking requests quickly and saw the bigger picture she was working on before I lost any significant money. So I called her out. Sure did. Of course one moment she denies it saying she needs somebody who can take care of her - (but we weren't even dating )and then being offended, then admitting she was out to get as much gold as she could from whatever man would give it to her. If he gave it - in her mind - she didn't dig it. Had the nerve to tell me well if you really single you should have money to give me whenever I ask for it. Trust me it got ugly then. Thought she was gone out of my life for good

Then out of the blue the infrequent texts start. Including me in on a texts that wasn't supposed to come to me. Then a call to ask for some help on some paper she is writing. But no money requests. Until...she texts me last week and asks will I be her special Valentine. What does that mean? About 200.00 sent to her as a Valentine's gift. Uhh no honey, you are definitely one of the reasons I am still single today.

When informed that I moved (thankfully she never knew where I lived) she wanted to know my address. When I asked her why especially since we were not dating and she had no need to send me anything her response was that she had a friend who was a real estate agent so she could check out the house, see how much it cost, how big. etc.

Now before you assume she was merely some chick from the street, she is college educated, working on her Master's and is active in her local church. But she still hustling trying to get the paper - ain't no love or feelings even up in it. It infuriates her that I called her out and turned her down. She still can't believe I rejected her - she admits this much. She is just looking for someone to take care of her. She don't care about looks, age, nada. Just $$$.

I have no problem with that if you are completely up front about it in the beginning. And if it means you may chase them away, GOOD. That is what you want.

A prenuptial agreement is usually introduced by a wealthy person in the event of possible infidelity. If this is breached, that then shows the person was only in it for the money. Kevin Federline comes to mind right now lol
The judge will divide the marital assets otherwise.