I did not realize eloping was still going on a lot these days.

omg...am I still in the christian neighborhood here? Whatever happened to that sweet heavenly vow 'for better for worse' You guys are making it sound like its great fun to be married today, & start looking forward to divorce from tomorrow. Is there anything that is even remotely close to christianity? Just saying...

It no longer amazes me how many marriages end in divorce. Those that claim to take their so-called 'vows' seriously seem to only stick around for 'better,' and leave ya hanging during those 'worse' times. Hardly anyone takes marriage seriously anyway these days.

I say go to Vegas..invest $25 (and 5 minutes) at those drive thru windows and you got yourself a wedding.

Then go through drive thru McD's and you have your reception without even getting out of the car!

i blame the women...

...PMS, right?

That is what I'd like to know.

i just blame women... i leave the excuses to them...

I am a Christian too. Born-Again Believer of Jesus Christ and it does not matter and I am not hiding. Eloping is not something you hide.. You can bring guests if you want.. Check websites about elope weddings in other countries or even down South or even up here in NIFalls.

You still can have a pastor to come along or a pastor from that area to wed you. My missionary friend said if I ever find someone in Costa Rica, he can wed us. He is from there. So, see?

Let me explain what a church means. Go read somewhere in Matthew chapter 18. Jesus only wants you to fellowship with other believers even just 1 or 2 others joining you. That builts as a church, not a building. I do not believe in a building, but a group of believers together to hear God's word.

I know this may will end up as religion or Christian section of forum but I am trying to make a point that the wedding can be indoors or outdoors. Let me ask you a question. What if your right man is from another state and that is about 800 miles apart.. will you marry over there or in your town. What if his family is big and wants you to marry in his town/church? That is almost as if you are eloping!! If you want your family and friends to know you are getting married somewhere else, you can! And still elope. Elope to me today means you want to get married without trouble with too much wedding planning and still can have family and friends involved. I heard of couples got married and had their families and friends down there. You can still have reception in your town after getting married somewhere else. It is gaining trend that way. I am more of outdoorsy type to enjoy a wedding on a nice day rather than indoors! Thanks for understanding.

I think sometimes people elope to avoid all the 'expectations' that come with inviting people to weddings,,,


and some do it to avoid family members who may be embarassing

and some do it because they just dont want to wait to make it official

Ya'll in this forum be having me rollin'...BTW this is the definition of elope:
e·lope (-lp)
intr.v. e·loped, e·lop·ing, e·lopes
1. To run away with a lover, especially with the intention of getting married.
2. To run away; abscond.


... but I bow to your wisdom oh wise one

I am not concerned about what others think of My love affairs. It is personal between Me and the Man I love. The committment is between the Couple not a group of people, whether family or friends. I would Elope.

I would think what happens between two consenting adults is strictly their business. I would say damn anyone that tries to stand in the way of your happiness which is why I think people elope.

And again you are correct. I know the feelings because of embarrassments most of the time. Maybe a family member is too much of a drunk or social status, or a mean stepmother who hates your own mother.. (that one is true in my case and my father and his 2nd wife whom I never called her "Stepmother" or "mother" did not come to my wedding I had with my then wife.

Not only that.. maybe even some couples that they thought they love each other so much and their parents are so against it. That is true case I heard through a friend whose sister did elope against her mother's wishes.

Political and social as well as economy are factored into eloping. Not everyone can marry like the two political consultants who are so opposite and they married each other.. haha. I heard that one was an elope too.

Social/social class--makes sense.. like celebrities, they gotta get out and keep secret from the sicko media from being "invited themselves" into a wedding to take pictures and all. I know.. because I have a friend who is a celebrity and I was sort of.. long story... you want a stalker? Noo..

Social class also not mean money.. it means your ethical group. For example, Deaf people are so easily jealous and it is best you keep your gf secret from them and marry secretly. I did that with my ex because the Deaf have successfully destroyed my 5 relationships. So, I learned to keep my mouth shut! :D

So, you are right, it is more than just they wanna elope. Also for some, who are very shy.. or not want to bother with getting money as gifts or the ugly dishes you do not want to get.. lol.

I would elope this time for sure.. My mom passed away and family getting smaller.. I would go for elope then.

Political--yes.. I forgot to add.. say, you want to marry a pinay (woman from the Philippines), and you want to live there.. and buy a house.. you can not unless you marry a pinay and then she can buy it for you. Or you want citizenship there/be an ex-pat, you can marry a foreigner. Does this sound familiar? Yeah, we do that here bringing people over here..just to live here..not for you. Sad, really. What is happening in the US, I am exploring that option to leave. Really.

it lessen the chances of their other spouse finding out

Aye, this... what's it matter what two other people do?

Elope tends to imply that they're running, yes?
Let's let them run... find out for themselves if they were running away from something or to something.

As for me... I just don't have the time to hear everyone's "story".
But but for me to assume one thing over the other seems wrong.
So, I'm comfortable believing that they'll be okay in the end.


Mind yer own business and live yer own life... let others do the same.

On another level... very interest topic, "running...".
Should we laugh... or offer a cuppa water?

I think as long as the couple have each others back, then opinions are null and void. Afterall, you never see anyone break up with someone just because their parents may not like em as much.