If love isn't a game, then why are there so many players?

bcoz every 1 searching right person for him or her... some1 gets 1st time der right person & some1 trying to find better 1.
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Yeah; I would like to know the answer to that one too.

Oh don't hate the player, hate the game.

what's his name... I'll beat him up for you!

Am I the only one who heard the words Security!!! when teebee posted this... Love it!

As to the OP question I think a lot of it is because both men and women are afraid to be up front, honest, real talk about what they are looking for. Whatever it is. Because if most were 100 percent honest they would scare off someone they think may be a good match. The majority of women knows if she says straight up she is looking for an ATM hookup or a substitute baby daddy and not a relationship of some type, she probably won't get that guy to open his wallet. A guy knows if he says he just want to get it, hit it and quit it, without any other desired commitment that the woman is looking for he isn't going to get it from that particular woman. Yet to be sadly honest that is what a whole bunch of men and women are looking for. Having an established relationship of some defined type is only a means to achieve their primary objective.

So they keep those cards very close to the vest to a later date, hoping to hook them by other means. Only to discover the other person was doing the same exact thing to them. So what they thought was real and promising ends up being a tragic game. And every game there is a winner and loser.

Then you have those who are always looking for one or two better than the one they have, only to let the one they have slip away from them. Like playing checkers they keep their hand on the one piece not committing to the move while exploring other options. But when one get hurt it was a game because you told him or her you loved them but not like the partner truly wanted to be loved - they moved on and now you mad they moved on. Again both men and women play this game.

I hate what you went thru and I truly hope that one day someone will see what you truly have to offer and embrace that and you completely as you want to be.

More than once you have mentioned about women wanting men for money; well wake up sunshine as it goes both ways. I have met guys that were nothing more than mooches because I own a home. I have met guys that thought if they hooked up with me; I would babysit their kids; or pet sit their pets. Met younger guys just looking for a place to stay and for money. You see; it truly is a two way street.

Prayers Lust not love.

oh yeah.. security will need to be called!
Toxic you do talk about gold diggers a lot! ..are there a lot of gold diggers on here? To the point.. I still say men playing "the game" are more detrimental than gold diggers.
a woman thinks she has found the one ...only to find out she is number 3 of his girlfriends!
Its painful.... not that men cant be hurt but come on?! If the chick is asking for Minolo's or Jimmie choos after the 2nd date..COME ON!!

If you don't want to play the game, walk away from the table and stop trying to win the jackpot.

Players aren't after love.

Here is a name: Shawty Lo. He fathered 11 children with 10 different women.

hahaha

It definitely can go both ways. You have zero disagreement from me there. And when it is done by either one in my opinion it is just plain wrong.



Does paying the rent, mortgage, car payment, or buying the kids clothes because the babies father won't count too?

teebee thankfully I can honestly say no to the gold diggers question on this site. This has been the most low key site I have been on. But I have been on some sites since 2000 and dealt with people that it is cray cray for real. I can just tell you as a man - even if it means me losing my man card - I have been in the exact same situation you and navygirl alluded to - thinking I was the one she really wanted to be with when she was playing the game. When she didn't want me but the house, be the baby daddy, etc. If it was just one woman in my life, it would be one thing and I wouldn't even mention it. I have seen and experienced it many times.

Is every woman a gold digger? No. Just like every man is not a dog and is not playing games. A lot of what I believe we call games are really the result of inadequate communication of desires on both the woman's and the man's part.

Some people think they are international playboys and they belong to all women. For real. I've met woman like that, visa versa international play girls.

Is every woman a gold digger? No. Just like every man is not a dog and is not playing games. A lot of what I believe we call games are really the result of inadequate communication of desires on both the woman's and the man's part.


This is where we disagree Toxic.... no amount of communication is going to "change" a player/ dog! Some gold diggers will put it out there.. you've got to have a J O B if you want to be with me! Some wont be up front.. she'll just suddenly remember that her rent is due and she is $200 short! Easy fix here... a real independant woman... will not bring a man into her financial affairs. Point blank and to the period.

The dog..is way more subtle. He'll bring the charm and the sweetness to get what he wants. He can even keep this up..until you let down your guard then...BOOM.. you are walking down the street and some hood rat is trying to fight you over this loser!

Now, tell me what could I have communicated to him that I don't bare knuckle fight for any man..and that I don't share men with other chicks?? And like you if this was a one time thing.... I say fix a dent and forget it! But this has happened more times than Im comfortable with telling this forum! And I tell all usually!

This is very True. IMO

And here's the magic moment of this.... SOme women are ok with dating an international playboy... As long as they know it.

Hell, I'll go out with someone who is a playboy, if he takes me somewhere fun ...as long as there is no expectations!

and the winner is the one who fools the most...I loathe games

Many people here are looking for someone for a serious relationship.
Others are here to play games and find money.
The one's looking for a relationship it's a little more difficult, because it's a relationship were looking for and it's not easy opening up to a stranger. If people could open up and see that time is needed to be spent with each other than maybe something serious will come out of the struggle. It's like someone above posted something similar to this THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE, not their exact words.