Was talking to a nurse last night who has a small child. She has to be both father and mother to her child because she is a single parent. I find her to be a fascinating person even if she is married. I always have to watch out for those. We got on the subject of fake friends and real friends. She told me the difference for her since she has a small child is that a real friend is one she can trust with her child. That a real friend is a friend to her child as well. I found it an interesting outlook since my children have all grown up and left the nest. She explained to me that when her ex left her that he quit working but while they were together she helped to take care of the child the ex had with his former ex. Because of that she has to pay child support for the former ex and the ex doesn't pay child support the child they had together because he doesn't work. It helped me to see the package deal from a whole new perspective. She is a safe friend for me because she is already in a relationship and with people like her it helps me to work on issues that I am still dealing with.

Is it just me or are some of the exes you read about on here are just freaking horrible?

It's a shame when people use children as pawns to play their silly little games. You are a parent, deal with it! Pisses me off when I hear crap like that, sorry!

---Stepping off his pedestal.

I like the name you chose for yourself. I work with people are trying again to have relationships. Got a few success stories where I work. It really encourages me. Makes me think that there is hope out there.