Keeping a date is a nice thing,but is for folks that re not crazy busy.

January 12th!!

Dinner....risque conversation that he refused to end!! Then at the end of the night he tried to rape me.... date did not go well!!

Im done.


Only looking for platonic friends now!

2006

It ended up six month ago. Since then I have changed my goals..,lol

I have a simlar story

what is it with dinner? ya I really LOVE eating in front of a total stranger and talking with my mouth full....lol

The only dates I'm familiar with are the ones that grow on trees...
Dates on the internet? I would wonder at their quality...
A bowl of dates do make for very poor conversations...well, perhaps if you are a ventriloquist; that could liven matters up a bit

Over a year ago. No wait....I had a date last summer...

The guy kept talking about his race car (dirt track)
He was only two years older than me, but looked about ten years older
He tried attacking me with his tongue
I think I prefer being single

I went on a date on friday,felt great to meet somebody new.this stranger enjoyed himself

Wow after dinner he tried that..**** that is whacked out crazy ****.he might have been receiving extremely mixed signals.

Over half year.

That' hilarious talking with your mouth full.have fun feel free and do your simple amusment pleasures

Wow this thread is scary and depressing.

So many interesting and what I would see as desireable people it is really a surprise that so many of you deprive the world of your companionship.

Out twice last week I thought that was the norm. Once to take a mini class on tile cutting (an interest I suggested) and then lunch before excused myself and I went to the homeshow. One a person I have dated off an on over six years and the other someone I met for the first time after being chat friends for a couple months.

I don't understand how so many are sooooooh busy that they can't carve out a couple hours here and there to do something modest with another. Or going out on a regular basis with friends which leads to at least 30% of my dates. I would say another 30% is someone following back after a minor conversation where I selectively exchanged business cards where I am generally contacted by email. I loath talking on the phone and I do NOT text which I think sabatoages many dates.

I have better things to do with my money than use paid sites even though I have profiles on many as a non-paying member. Always surprises me when people do. People who are genuinely interested will look for you if you use at least one consistent photo and screen name thanks to the web.

lol Maybe it makes me nortorious or approachable but I have had people say they feel like they know me because I do try to put myself out there as who I am here and a few of the other standard sites. And I will say I rarely am available for the first invitation but you can make a person feel that you appreciate the invitation and make it fit your life situation if you are an enthusiastic negotiator. I have found that even with long "personal time out's" my dateing life doesn't seem to die out.

My belief is it is because I invest a little time in it virtually every day sending an note, making a treat for a picnic or as a dessert to a low key meal, Skimming the newspaper or computer to have a variety of subjects to talk about, or having something fun to share. I am not a beautiful person, even a bit frumpy, but a big smile and a firm handshake and a sound hug good bye puts people on the note that dating can be fun and I think that lends to good karma even if a love connection is not the outcome.

I have also always thought it was important and very rarely skip writing a thank you note or fail to reciprocate and invitation over time. And equally rare is someone I date only once; unless of course they have grossly misrepresented themself. I have no problem with abruptly excuseing myself from any situation that occurs in and I have rarely had it be a problem. Running away is just not my style but I am not an idiot and do it with out back up if I think I need it. Probably why I ALWAYS make first dates on known territory. And yes that is just the price of interacting with people occasionally. I don't take it personally.

I don't see myself as anything spectacular. And yes I have flubbed dates. No person can be on their game everytime and I have found genuine apologies go a long way as does seeing the people you date as people who matter if you continue to date regularly or only rarely. And learning with out over reacting from the failures.

Laughinly to admit I have danced at alot of weddings over the years seems important. Mainly because for every person I have ever fixed up I have met at least three other nice people so trying not to see not being selected as a loss or being just a friend is useful.

That I NEVER EVER kiss and tell specifics about my dateing life may have something to do with that. Believe dating is defintely one social interacction where your Reputation preceeds you and follows you. So if you dearly would like to brag, rub someone's nose in your victories, do a hatchet job on an Ex, tell some idiot off, not show up, or make a sceen, whine, boohoo, or get even because someone interloped grit your teeth and throttle it. ESPECIALLY on line.

The only exception I would make to that is someone who is criminal in their behavior and I see that as something to be handled swiftly, feircely, and professionally through confidential channels. The price they will exact may seem slow and even difficult but there is a difference between being a victim and a survivor.