initiate sex? Was it usually at night? Day? Weekends only?

I would sitting there watching tv or reading a book and my ex would look at me and say "wanna fool around?" LOL

Just curious what others say...it always kinda bothered me the way he asked for some reason. I guess there was never a kiss or a hug or a touch on the leg or nothing...it was just "wanna fool around"

My ex would start what I called ......(FIDDLING) touching this touching that...kind of like searching for something in the dark

it was more like he was stating it in a rude way like you and him being a stranger and in a relationship.... that actually stinks

"Brace yourself".

finally someone agrees with me! I thought I was goin crazy! Yes it was rude....in fact i HATED when he said that. Thank you!

Just something that has been bothering me lately...don't know why. I've been divorced 8 years!

Same for me, I would be brushing my teeth, he be right behind me,washing the dishes right behind me doing you know what.Freakin 10 times a night he be trying. But never the affection or emotions first.I used to try and sneak in the house late after work and try not to wake him,but as soon as my head hit the pillow he was wide awake.I needed the affection and emotions.If that would of been there,maybe things would of worked out different. Who knows.

you mean your exes initiated it??? wow, what a novel idea.

yes phk....I agree. Never the affection or the love I was craving...so i left and he still blames me.

OMG mine too we've been divorced 10yrs, and he still tries and wants me to meet him. No thanks

Gwen would come sit on my lap, couldn't ignore that.

I would be just reading my book and not bothering anybody. She would sneak up behind me and be very distracting. Eventually she would be so distracting that I would have to come up from my book and ask her, "May I help you?" Sometimes my book would fall and I would lose my place in the book.

no desire to do it with my ex either..

Very funny old sage and hillfolk. No interest in doing my ex anytime soon.

Was thinking of the past and that thought entered my head "wanna fool around". I could barf just hearing it now. LOL

Sex was always good.........everything else sucked

damn, did i get the only dud? the one who got upset cause we never had it, but never once was the initiator??? dang, i knew my life sucked....

When my ex and I met, it was a given that if we were alone in a room together, we were going to have sex. Neither of us had to say anything. I lost 15 pounds from all that sex! After we were married, he would say something corny, I guess. Can't remember. Wasn't impressed, I guess.

Jump, I heard that one a lot too, "Wanna fool around?" Got tiring.

My ex was real slick, if he wanted to know if I was having my period, he would ask me "are you sick?" Took me awhile to figure out what that meant. "No, I am not sick." Thought he meant did I have a cold or flu or something, thought the scum bag may have actually been concerned. You see, his "mommy" had told him if he had sex with a woman while she was on her period he "could get an infection in his 'little man'." Heck, wouldn't that be terrible if it rotted off??? Not, would have been just desserts for him.

For the last 5-6 years of the marriage, he would come home in a drunken rage and do what he called slapping me around, basically beating me up, and then say "let's go to bed" - that was my cue that we were having sex.

No, no desire to ever be with the scumbag again, besides he drank himself to death at the ripe old age of 45.

This is just my opinion. I'm happy for you,but for me it was just sex.Not making love,there's a difference.

Hmmm, there must be a difference in fooling around and serious sex. Taking notes.