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Topic: Best way to meet someone who is real on this site
JAW1984 Joined Sun 10/07/12 Posts: 5	Wed 01/09/13 05:50 PM
I've been on Mingle a few months and have ran into my fair share of let's say less than honest and or authentic people. It seems almost impossible to meet someone who is really interested in a REAL relationship. HELP!

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Wed 01/09/13 05:51 PM
Just like in real life, it takes time.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14969	Wed 01/09/13 06:08 PM
I've been on Mingle a few months and have ran into my fair share of let's say less than honest and or authentic people. It seems almost impossible to meet someone who is really interested in a REAL relationship. HELP! I have met a few real men on here, and I only been here a couple of months. Of course I talk to MEN. Many are not on these Forums. Same people most on here.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Wed 01/09/13 06:11 PM
I've been on Mingle a few months and have ran into my fair share of let's say less than honest and or authentic people. It seems almost impossible to meet someone who is really interested in a REAL relationship. HELP! Wow a few months and this is only your second post in the forums? You are sure giving it your all aren't you? (Sarcasm) Tell me, what do you consider to be a real relationship? Please describe that for me.

JAW1984 Joined Sun 10/07/12 Posts: 5	Wed 01/09/13 06:20 PM
Real? For starters honest, be from where you claim to be and your picture be really you! Every relationship that amounts to anything must be based on honesty, trust and respect... that takes time to develop and nurture.. nonetheless it's the bedrock of real relationships that can sustain and nurture friendship, romance, intimacy and love. A real relationship loves unconditionally and is committed for the long haul as it says "for better or for worse." A real relationship has a climate of compassion, forgiveness and a willingness to go the second, third, fourth mile... whatever is needed. Also known as unconditional positive regard.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Wed 01/09/13 06:32 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Wed 01/09/13 06:32 PM
Real? For starters honest, be from where you claim to be and your picture be really you! Every relationship that amounts to anything must be based on honesty, trust and respect... that takes time to develop and nurture.. nonetheless it's the bedrock of real relationships that can sustain and nurture friendship, romance, intimacy and love. A real relationship loves unconditionally and is committed for the long haul as it says "for better or for worse." A real relationship has a climate of compassion, forgiveness and a willingness to go the second, third, fourth mile... whatever is needed. Also known as unconditional positive regard. That is a very nice definition. You will find many honest people here on the forums, but probably not in a few months. Its the same in 'real life." And as you said above... its takes time to develop and nurture. Keep reading the forums and welcome to Mingle2! P.S. get a photo that does not cut off your head. And smile.

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Wed 01/09/13 06:36 PM
Real? For starters honest, be from where you claim to be and your picture be really you! Every relationship that amounts to anything must be based on honesty, trust and respect... that takes time to develop and nurture.. nonetheless it's the bedrock of real relationships that can sustain and nurture friendship, romance, intimacy and love. A real relationship loves unconditionally and is committed for the long haul as it says "for better or for worse." A real relationship has a climate of compassion, forgiveness and a willingness to go the second, third, fourth mile... whatever is needed. Also known as unconditional positive regard. Oh lawd, is that a real relationship? Where do I find that??? We're all doomed!!!

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Wed 01/09/13 06:39 PM
P.S. get a photo that does not cut off your head. And smile.

JAW1984 Joined Sun 10/07/12 Posts: 5	Wed 01/09/13 06:56 PM
How's that? And you asked where do you find what I described? Your looking at him!

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Wed 01/09/13 07:08 PM
How's that? And you asked where do you find what I described? Your looking at him! Much better!

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Wed 01/09/13 08:40 PM
Keep it at e-mail for awhile, back and forth, get to know them...No different than real life, only typing instead of talking.

JAW1984 Joined Sun 10/07/12 Posts: 5	Thu 01/10/13 02:24 AM
Good advice. Better to not have any expectations, have fun with meeting lots of people, I know I will know it when someone comes along that there is a genuine spark and connection with. Again, at the end of the day... it's not so much in finding the right person as it is in becoming the right person... that's my responsibility... being my best for myself and the people that God blesses me with in this life.

gunij Joined Tue 01/01/13 Posts: 1	Thu 01/10/13 03:56 AM
Can you date me for me i love you

theraparadise Joined Thu 12/27/12 Posts: 5	Thu 01/10/13 05:09 AM
Just be patient and pray, good luck for you

teebee79 Joined Wed 11/07/12 Posts: 2179	Wed 01/16/13 07:36 AM
Can you date me for me i love you HAHAHAHA!!! I'm sorry,I shouldn't laugh!!! but REALLY, MOMMAS???? What is this Dudes name? I'll wait!

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Wed 01/16/13 08:27 AM
Nobody here but us chickens!

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Thu 01/17/13 03:42 PM
Maybe I want to meet an artificial person. Someone real probably has expectations.

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21824	Thu 01/17/13 04:09 PM
I'd just like to find a fembot who cooks, cleans, and irons shirts.

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Thu 01/17/13 11:30 PM
Good advice. Better to not have any expectations, have fun with meeting lots of people, I know I will know it when someone comes along that there is a genuine spark and connection with. Again, at the end of the day... it's not so much in finding the right person as it is in becoming the right person... that's my responsibility... being my best for myself and the people that God blesses me with in this life. Real and Honest I think most of us want that who are on the forums. Allot of scammers out there that aren't. I've found friends on here the people are who they say they are but we've taken time to know each other and meet, but not relationship wise seen a few on here work out but as I said few. Good you have a sense of faith. I see your separated might be a little bet of the problem. Try the over 50 group not a bad group of peeps.

Willow28 Joined Tue 01/01/13 Posts: 14	Thu 01/17/13 11:57 PM
I can agree, I came into this seeing where things might lead... I now come away with well crap.. still single.... and done expecting anything but being disappointed. I swear I am not a mutant... :-P haha. It would be phenomenal to actually meet a guy (all things take time much agreed) that is truly interested in me, not what I will do for him. There is always room for friends in my life, I welcome attaining new ones. I am just at that point in my life where, I want to finally find someone that I can at last say "AH HAH!!" and be able to say that each day thereafter. I have met (most if not all just chatting through messages on here) some nice guys, but when it comes to putting in that effort to want to come see me.... yeh riight. is it stupid to have my first date be: he comes to me first then I will go to him next? Just trying to see if I am being unreasonable given my circumstances (single mom, rarely get out when I do its when my daughter is in school or when on rare occasions she is with family.) I just dont know what to do anymore....