Okay...we are all either looking for love or hoping love will find us.
Why?

Me... I miss feeling love. I miss being in love. Love is that warm, AND cool, feeling of such comfort and emotional aliveness. A feeling of such gravity and force that I have only experienced it without a sinificant other, when I saw my first born children. When I touched them and held them.
I miss having that someone to have by my side when it is cold. When I am happy. Having someone to laugh and cry with. I miss the raw emotion of pure love and faithful trust. I miss being loved by someone that wants for me to be happy, and content with him. Having someone that wants to join me in my world, and I his. Growing together, achieving goals that benefit the both of us. I miss that.

Now, you?

Kat

i know how u feel ket

kat

Hey doc.
Does it feel like it just is never go be, again? When does it become less likely that we will know love again? Is there an age that makes a difference?
Does the chances become less because we spend so much time on the pc instead of out in the real world? I mean out there where people are walking and talking all around us?
Do we become less able to trust because we are so into cyber space, than looking around us? Where do we look? I'm rarely out and about except to go to work, and the store. This is my place to meet and talk to people.

Kat

I feel for you guys. hehe i know how you feel! but just stay positive and love yourself! do some traveling, leave the world you know and explore something new.!

I'm not wanting anyone to feel sorry for me. Love is a topic that is discussed here many times. I just wanted to start a topic, and see where it went.

I will say...I have not been in love for many years. I have been alone for so long, that I do think about it a lot.

Kat

I want the same things kat, but my situation is a little complicated, but I can really identify with your soulful remarks. Love can come from anywhere, so keep your chin up and eyes open.

Kat, I think it is dfferent for us widow & widower's. We lost someone, not by choice. Being divorced from frst wife; there was no comparision with the feelings left by Gwen's death. But then the whole relationship was different. I think we have a much harder time finding someone close to what we want. Can't help but compare with what we had.

Is it not that we all want that feeling of being needed as well as feel the love another has for us. To have someone to hold when your down that one you can confide in and know your secrets are safe. The one you can tell your most deepest inner thoughts to and they will not laugh but instead really listen. And meet your needs in the end. Knowing when you awake from a bad dream you have someone next to you to turn to that will without even thinking wrap there arms around you till you feel safe again and drift back off to sleep as your wrapped in there arms. To have someone that you enjoy coming home to or to go walk in the park with. The one you love to sit down and share a glass of wine with. The one that when looking into there eyes you completly get lost in time as if your floating through the air.



Hummmmmmmmmmmm could this be what you mean




Yeppiers DAMN RIGHT THAT IS WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR AND WANT IT!!

I almost could agree with you on the losing a loved one to death, I have lost two. But, I think that divorce and breakups are akin to death. It hurts as much. Maybe it is the finality of it? Divorce is like a death. But, one can still see them, at least walking around.

But, you are right in one aspect. Both of these men were, and are...a hard act to follow. I find myself thinking about how love feels quite often these days. The memory is still very much alive. I still feel it in my heart.
Kat

most of the people feel the same
if not why would we be here

TxsGal, words very well spoken, could not have said it better myself. I too am a widow and long for that companionship that I lost, only I never really had it with my husband. Always wanted it but it was never there for me. He was a workaholic and was constantly after the almighty dollar which we all know is never enough, and what good did it do him, he is gone at the age of 54. Money is good and necessary, but it is not the end all. I too want that feeling I do not think I have ever had in my life and somehow some way it will find me......at least that is what I am told. I am waiting.......

Im2fun, it must be hard on your heart to admit that, being a widow.
I am so thankful I was one of those lucky women in love. Hang in there. Look in all the right places, and it will find you.
Kat

Kat -- after dozens of frivolous, disposable relationships, I finally found "the one." I didn't really understand anything about love until then....

....where you never run out of things to talk about, but you don't have to talk at all....we'd sit in a coffee shop and show each other things we had written that day, and toss around ways they could be improved....the way she would hold my hand in the car, or when we wandered all over Wal-Mart looking for green pens....

....I'd go see her where she worked (Hot Topic at the mall) and she would take a break and we'd go sit in the food court, watching people go by, and we'd start laughing for no reason at all....the card she gave me (which I still have): "You're the first thing I think about when I wake up, and the last thing I think about when I go to bed....the rest of the time, I'm thinking about us"....

....the way I would hold her when her family did something to hurt her (which happened all too often)....when we would go play pool, sometimes just us, sometimes with friends along; it really didn't matter what we did, or where we were, or who was around....

....hours on the phone, hours on the IM, hours spent together talking and laughing and planning....

....all gone now....

....and for awhile I thought my answer, my solution, would be found in going back to the way I used to be, before her, when relationships were easy, simple things that lasted three months and then it was time to move on....

....but I tried that, and it doesn't work for me anymore.

Now I know what it's like to care. And that's a blessing AND a curse.

And I'm skeptical about my ability to ever feel that way about anyone else.

But I acknowledge the possibility, no matter how remote, how unlikely....

thanks Kat, I think I am in the right place finally

Lex...sounds to me that she was a good thing for you. Maybe you grew from knowing her and became the man that a woman will want. You now have the tools and know how to use them. With the memory that you have of the good times and the feelings from the simple things...looks like you have something to give. Gotta give it away to get it back.

Kat