hello all.
i came upon a thought when dared to tell a girl that i thought she was gorgeous.
it seems to me that when you tell a girl that online it has a negative effect with the other party thinking your just saying that to get somewhere- it is online dating i know.
On the other hand when you tell a girl she is pretty/gorgeous etc.. in person there is a slight awkwardness but then a warming if you state the reasons why you think this. I beleive it shows a confidence to put yourself out there, does it not?

I think the issue is that online people tend to overdo it with compliments. Or they start off immediately about looks. That may be what bothers people about online dating. Whether it's online or in person, just make sure the compliment is sincere.

Complements I rarely use both online or live

I like a man that is a charmer and somewhat of a flirt, especially online. It shows confidence. IMO
I do not like boring men. I am somewhat of a flirt myself, but it only goes so far, and I have to be really attracted to a man to flirt.

Beautiful women are told that kind of thing all the time. It's better if you talk to her a little first, find out about her and complement her on something other than her genetics. There really is a person inside that gorgeous body. Get to know her and what you say will have a deeper meaning.

I agree. I am put-off by cheap compliments.

I agree with TS, I think when you send an email, your already showing interest in their looks, and find some type of attraction. So to focus on that part so early, is probably gonna get you thrown into the red flag, or player zone. Why not try talking about things in their profile that connect with your likes, interests and other commonalities. Save the compliments on their looks for later and maybe in person, once you meet and get to know her...

Hello frnd how r u and whats up

Are left handed (or underhanded) compliments cheep? They have usually cost me more than I wanted.