They usually don't gimme a chance to ask that question,rather they start telling on their own...how & why are they STILL single,anyways if they makes me to ask that....

I usually add STILL to that question....

i.e : Why are you STILL single....??


and I never forget to look into their eyes then....

I usually don't ask why someone is single but I get that asked a lot. I understand as they see it that I am not good relationship material when they find out I have never been married. Its a fair question actually as they don't want to waste their time with me.

"I am not willing to settle."

Here we go with that statement again. Will someone PLEASE tell me exactly what that means?

I wish women were asking me if I'm single.

I think it means being with someone for the sake of being with them because you are afraid to be alone when you know damn well; they aren't right for you. Well, that is my perspective of it.

Oh you poor people in your 30's.

Are you single?

I am actually a widower, meaning that someone considered me worth having . . . and I'm back on the market.

Well; there you go. Someone asked if you were single and yes you are very marketable.

I don't ask...Quite simply, I hardly care.

If anything is to happen from here on out, it will have to happen on its own...I'm done trying.

Aww goof; didn't you know that people expect you to be perfect especially when they aren't?

So it's considered a "negative" to go through life without being married? How is this supposedly "worse" than people who end-up divorced multiple times?...So it boils down to being "chosen" somewhere along the line or not? Weird!...If I met a man my age who had never been married I'd be "intrigued." Obviously he must be self-sufficient. (Versus dependent or "needy.")...My only concern might be: "Is he set in his ways to the point that it might be hard for him to share his everyday life with a woman?" We'd have to talk about all of it in-depth before there were any "mergers." But I wouldn't automatically write a "never married man" off!

I wouldn't want to get involved with a man who had tons of "old baggage." So I pay attention to what a man says about his former spouses and earlier relationships...If he's a total "blamer" or "bad-mouther" this is a sign to me that he hasn't taken the time to try to "heal" from his past..Or it could go the other way...One time a widower wrote to me and we wrote back and forth for a little while. When I asked him about his deceased wife he "cut me off" and said he couldn't "go there."...So he hadn't really "worked through" his issues and feelings from the past either...I wouldn't want to start a relationship with someone "new" when there are tons of goblins and ghosts "stuffed away" in the closet...Or get involved with a man who held a "secret grudge" against all women based on how he was treated by women in his past...I'd be looking for someone who had done a certain amount of "processing" and "healing" in regards to his earlier relationships in life.

If they start off with such a question, it would be a turn off in my opinion. It sort of implies there must be something wrong with you, being single.

I think the difference with you is that you are open-minded; most people are not. They can't think outside the box and are brainwashed to think like the general public. I used to try and explain that I was busy with a military career and never stayed in one place long enough to meet someone but I found I was wasting my breath. Never being married means not relationship material according to the masses. So, I don't bother to even try dating anymore.

Hell...I figured that out just last week. I was getting to know this chick and so I called her one day last week just to chat...no answer. No biggie. We all lead busy lives. Now, she tried to call me back two hours later while I was busy. I didn't answer.....and about two minutes after she called she sends a text stating...."FINE! Don't talk to me"! I thought it was a joke until I actually did call her back and she was still pissed that I didn't answer when she called.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet with that nutter.

True. Next thing you know she is gonna be boiling my bunny rabbit while proclaiming, "I'm not gonna be ignored"!

Aww poor Goof. Just know I am there for you buddy.

navygirl...It seems like sort of a "follow the crowd" type of mentality to reject someone because they haven't been married before...Kind of like "following trends" or ?? Or going with who or what seems "popular."...Would you describe it like this?..People who have strong individual selves don't need to have their choices validated by others. (Or society.)...It's not about being "in" with the "in-crowd" or "popular" with the masses. (As you put it.)...It's about making choices that fit "who we are" as an individual in our own "right."...Don't you think? Sorry you've run into so many "crowd followers and pleasers" during your life!