Topic: But the sex is good......
navygirl's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:08 AM

Maybe some of the other men and women here will chime in about whether they think bad sex is better than no sex.


I am with you that no sex is better than bad sex. :thumbsup:

TBRich's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:17 AM
Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.

willowdraga's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:18 AM


Maybe some of the other men and women here will chime in about whether they think bad sex is better than no sex.


I am with you that no sex is better than bad sex. :thumbsup:


I would agree here also.

Screening for good sex before sex happens, I have found, is kinda difficult.grumble

msharmony's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:22 AM

Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


could be any number of things,,depending upon what is expected

for me

lack of intimacy(emotional) AND passion(physical) is a 'bad' experience I would rather not have

there needs to be a feeling that I am more than a human dildo for the male,, being used just as a means to their ends,,,,with no intimacy or connection or attempt to pay attention to my own physical indicators and pleasure

I personally dont enjoy silence, I like to know I am being paid some attention and I like the opportunity to pay attention to my partner

there needs to be eye contact, SPEAKING, some type of communication of what is working and what isnt,,,,

,,,,,,just to name a few things


sex without communication or eye contact, for me, is BAD SEX

no photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:27 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Tue 10/23/12 11:28 AM

Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


I don't see how her having two orgasms before he's had one is a bad thing. Him being able to last longer usually good!

Him coming before things barely get started, then being done for the night is a bad thing.

Simonedemidova's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:31 AM
Edited by Simonedemidova on Tue 10/23/12 11:33 AM
Bad sex is when the male never cums, or the female can necessarily feel the male because size is not there, IMO.
grumble brokenheart grumble

My man doesn't have any problems, never a FAIL bigsmile blushing :heart:

TBRich's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:31 AM


Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


could be any number of things,,depending upon what is expected

for me

lack of intimacy(emotional) AND passion(physical) is a 'bad' experience I would rather not have

there needs to be a feeling that I am more than a human dildo for the male,, being used just as a means to their ends,,,,with no intimacy or connection or attempt to pay attention to my own physical indicators and pleasure

I personally dont enjoy silence, I like to know I am being paid some attention and I like the opportunity to pay attention to my partner

there needs to be eye contact, SPEAKING, some type of communication of what is working and what isnt,,,,

,,,,,,just to name a few things


sex without communication or eye contact, for me, is BAD SEX


Ok, its the expectation. I have also had women bark out orders- usually it was don't move stay there! Then tell me I was mechanical in bed. The ex generally acted like a corpse, so I had to add the excitement. Why would you make love to someone who was not expressing affection toward you? and finally can you explain "MORE THAN A HUMAN DILDO FOR THE MALE" seriously please do tell. Otherwise- yeah bad sex is not better than masturbation.

TBRich's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:32 AM


Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


I don't see how her having two orgasms before he's had one is a bad thing. Him being able to last longer usually good!

Him coming before things barely get started, then being done for the night is a bad thing.


Because they rolled off, rolled over and fell asleep

willowdraga's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:34 AM

Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


This could get long here....no pun intended

Bad kissing...opening mouth and inserting tongue as deep as possible getting my face all wet and yucky. Turn off.. might as well not go there.

No foreplay. Might as well not go there unless we are already having sex and need to do a quicky then that is ok.

Doesn't know about the clitoris or how to use it...might as well not go there.

Doesn't make sure that I get at least one before his one...might as well just stick to the bob or shower massage.

Okay not as long as I thought but I am sure I am forgetting something here.


msharmony's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:34 AM



Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


could be any number of things,,depending upon what is expected

for me

lack of intimacy(emotional) AND passion(physical) is a 'bad' experience I would rather not have

there needs to be a feeling that I am more than a human dildo for the male,, being used just as a means to their ends,,,,with no intimacy or connection or attempt to pay attention to my own physical indicators and pleasure

I personally dont enjoy silence, I like to know I am being paid some attention and I like the opportunity to pay attention to my partner

there needs to be eye contact, SPEAKING, some type of communication of what is working and what isnt,,,,

,,,,,,just to name a few things


sex without communication or eye contact, for me, is BAD SEX


Ok, its the expectation. I have also had women bark out orders- usually it was don't move stay there! Then tell me I was mechanical in bed. The ex generally acted like a corpse, so I had to add the excitement. Why would you make love to someone who was not expressing affection toward you? and finally can you explain "MORE THAN A HUMAN DILDO FOR THE MALE" seriously please do tell. Otherwise- yeah bad sex is not better than masturbation.



haaa

human dildo for the male means being used the way a woman uses a dildo

no,, interaction, just action,,,,
just an object thats there to help him get to his climax...



no photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:37 AM


Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


This could get long here....no pun intended

Bad kissing...opening mouth and inserting tongue as deep as possible getting my face all wet and yucky. Turn off.. might as well not go there.

No foreplay. Might as well not go there unless we are already having sex and need to do a quicky then that is ok.

Doesn't know about the clitoris or how to use it...might as well not go there.

Doesn't make sure that I get at least one before his one...might as well just stick to the bob or shower massage.

Okay not as long as I thought but I am sure I am forgetting something here.




Those who kiss very well tend to be good in bed. Bad kissing is definitely a turn off.

no photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:38 AM



Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


I don't see how her having two orgasms before he's had one is a bad thing. Him being able to last longer usually good!

Him coming before things barely get started, then being done for the night is a bad thing.


Because they rolled off, rolled over and fell asleep


That's just as bad as him getting off right away, then rolling over and going to sleep.

willowdraga's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:40 AM



Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


This could get long here....no pun intended

Bad kissing...opening mouth and inserting tongue as deep as possible getting my face all wet and yucky. Turn off.. might as well not go there.

No foreplay. Might as well not go there unless we are already having sex and need to do a quicky then that is ok.

Doesn't know about the clitoris or how to use it...might as well not go there.

Doesn't make sure that I get at least one before his one...might as well just stick to the bob or shower massage.

Okay not as long as I thought but I am sure I am forgetting something here.




Those who kiss very well tend to be good in bed. Bad kissing is definitely a turn off.


Good kissing can even make up for some of the other not so great actions I have found.

It is so much of a turn on I might not need the foreplay and I get to mine quickly from a great kisser too.:thumbsup:

no photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:40 AM



You all are putting way too much thought into this. It is one of the few circumstances that requires less thought. Sex is a base need, everyone wants it whether you admit it or not. Bad sex is better than no sex, good sex is great, and great sex is hard to find.

It's like the devil you know, sure the relationship sucks, and you hate this person, but you'd still rather be getting some than not getting any, so you stick around. The better the sex, the more crap you put up with, until you reach the tipping point. If the sex is good enough, you'll still put your finger on the other side of the scale when it starts to tip.

Animal instinct, we only think we're evolved.


Eh, if it's that bad, no sex would have been better.


seems this thread has a basic difference in percpeption that is gender based

interesting


Absolutely Harmony and there are valid reasons...Men and women are programed (wired) differently... Did you know that most cliches are fact based?...Mars and Venus did not just pop out of a pocket of thin air stuck between someone's ears...The saying was based on fact...Men and women are fundamentally different, so naturally the reason(s) they respond to sex the way they do are going to be different.... Sexual arousal is more closely matched to physiological responses in men then in women...Men's brains and bodies are almost always in agreement when it comes to sexual arousal while women's brains and bodies are most often inconsistent in this area....Score one for the guys when it comes to simplifying!...For them it just feels good, especially ejaculation...For women, it's more complicated.....:smile:


TBRich's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:41 AM




Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


could be any number of things,,depending upon what is expected

for me

lack of intimacy(emotional) AND passion(physical) is a 'bad' experience I would rather not have

there needs to be a feeling that I am more than a human dildo for the male,, being used just as a means to their ends,,,,with no intimacy or connection or attempt to pay attention to my own physical indicators and pleasure

I personally dont enjoy silence, I like to know I am being paid some attention and I like the opportunity to pay attention to my partner

there needs to be eye contact, SPEAKING, some type of communication of what is working and what isnt,,,,

,,,,,,just to name a few things


sex without communication or eye contact, for me, is BAD SEX


Ok, its the expectation. I have also had women bark out orders- usually it was don't move stay there! Then tell me I was mechanical in bed. The ex generally acted like a corpse, so I had to add the excitement. Why would you make love to someone who was not expressing affection toward you? and finally can you explain "MORE THAN A HUMAN DILDO FOR THE MALE" seriously please do tell. Otherwise- yeah bad sex is not better than masturbation.



haaa

human dildo for the male means being used the way a woman uses a dildo

no,, interaction, just action,,,,
just an object thats there to help him get to his climax...





I have often felt that some women treated me like a human dildo. Is that what you mean? Or are you too shy to mention a strap-on? Seriously! I am joking, I know what you mean. But I feel the need to bust on for the comment.

no photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:43 AM
Wasn't the Human Dildo one of the X-Men?

msharmony's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:44 AM




You all are putting way too much thought into this. It is one of the few circumstances that requires less thought. Sex is a base need, everyone wants it whether you admit it or not. Bad sex is better than no sex, good sex is great, and great sex is hard to find.

It's like the devil you know, sure the relationship sucks, and you hate this person, but you'd still rather be getting some than not getting any, so you stick around. The better the sex, the more crap you put up with, until you reach the tipping point. If the sex is good enough, you'll still put your finger on the other side of the scale when it starts to tip.

Animal instinct, we only think we're evolved.


Eh, if it's that bad, no sex would have been better.


seems this thread has a basic difference in percpeption that is gender based

interesting


Absolutely Harmony and there are valid reasons...Men and women are programed (wired) differently... Did you know that most cliches are fact based?...Mars and Venus did not just pop out of a pocket of thin air stuck between someone's ears...The saying was based on fact...Men and women are fundamentally different, so naturally the reason(s) they respond to sex the way they do are going to be different.... Sexual arousal is more closely matched to physiological responses in men then in women...Men's brains and bodies are almost always in agreement when it comes to sexual arousal while women's brains and bodies are most often inconsistent in this area....Score one for the guys when it comes to simplifying!...For them it just feels good, especially ejaculation...For women, it's more complicated.....:smile:





good points

could also be a fundamental difference in priorities

I am personally one that doesnt believe 'bad' sex is a constant and unchangable thing,, I think its more easily changed than a bad relationship actually

I wonder how many people would stick with a great relationship even if the physical part was subpar?

I am guessing more women than men,,,,,

I would, because I think sex can ALWAYS improve if both parties are committed to doing so and most people dont mind trying over and over with the physical part


Simonedemidova's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:45 AM




Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


I don't see how her having two orgasms before he's had one is a bad thing. Him being able to last longer usually good!

Him coming before things barely get started, then being done for the night is a bad thing.


Because they rolled off, rolled over and fell asleep


That's just as bad as him getting off right away, then rolling over and going to sleep.


I think if someone rolls over and falls asleep it wasn't that good, your heart should be racing afterwards, you should both need a serious shower.

msharmony's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:46 AM





Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


could be any number of things,,depending upon what is expected

for me

lack of intimacy(emotional) AND passion(physical) is a 'bad' experience I would rather not have

there needs to be a feeling that I am more than a human dildo for the male,, being used just as a means to their ends,,,,with no intimacy or connection or attempt to pay attention to my own physical indicators and pleasure

I personally dont enjoy silence, I like to know I am being paid some attention and I like the opportunity to pay attention to my partner

there needs to be eye contact, SPEAKING, some type of communication of what is working and what isnt,,,,

,,,,,,just to name a few things


sex without communication or eye contact, for me, is BAD SEX


Ok, its the expectation. I have also had women bark out orders- usually it was don't move stay there! Then tell me I was mechanical in bed. The ex generally acted like a corpse, so I had to add the excitement. Why would you make love to someone who was not expressing affection toward you? and finally can you explain "MORE THAN A HUMAN DILDO FOR THE MALE" seriously please do tell. Otherwise- yeah bad sex is not better than masturbation.



haaa

human dildo for the male means being used the way a woman uses a dildo

no,, interaction, just action,,,,
just an object thats there to help him get to his climax...





I have often felt that some women treated me like a human dildo. Is that what you mean? Or are you too shy to mention a strap-on? Seriously! I am joking, I know what you mean. But I feel the need to bust on for the comment.



Im conflicted

half of me is saying ,, AWWWWW poor thing

and the other is saying


HAHAHAHAHAHA , pervert


u gotta take charge dude,, if being a cuckhold isnt your thing, you gotta step up and communicate YOUR needs,,,,:wink:

but IM sure your training makes you privvy to all that stuff,,,

msharmony's photo
Tue 10/23/12 11:47 AM





Can someone explain to me what is bad sex. Is it "OMG, I can't tell anyone about this woman?"; is it when she rolls off and goes "ooh I came twice already" and you are nowhere near your first?; is it like when you are doing it and you pick her up and the thought comes to you that you are just jerking off, but using her body over your hands? I have all these things and others, but never thought of them as bad or good, they were what they were. To me bad sex is when you are with a bad woman and good sex is when you are with a good woman.


I don't see how her having two orgasms before he's had one is a bad thing. Him being able to last longer usually good!

Him coming before things barely get started, then being done for the night is a bad thing.


Because they rolled off, rolled over and fell asleep


That's just as bad as him getting off right away, then rolling over and going to sleep.


I think if someone rolls over and falls asleep it wasn't that good, your heart should be racing afterwards, you should both need a serious shower.



it depends

if they fall asleep because they are TIRED, thats a good thing

better than them jumping back up to run a marathon after,,lol