How much of your life routine, your ethics, your desires, your personal interest are you willing for forfeit for the one you love, knowing that someday it may all crash in a divorce.

if you have the attitude that it will all end in divorce- why bother to even be on a dating site or be interested in marriage or anything?? I think most people go into a relationship with the thought that it will last for a long time- or maybe that is just me.

Even though my marriage did not last I would still do it again- I have hope that maybe the next time will be the last time.

Ditto...I have never went into a relationship thinking it would crash and burn... And many times have changed a few things in my routine ect.... At times we just adjust to each other in order to make things work even better....

But no one should give up their life desires...even though many have at times put things on a back burner... We should always do the things that make us happy...

The 3rd time was the "charm" for me! I had 2 earlier marriages that didn't last long. (The 2nd one lasted less than a year.)...I "re-grouped" and spent 12 years alone trying to figure out "who I was" etc...I finally found my "match" and my "last" husband and I were happily married for 24 years. (Until he passed away.)...I think we have to know "who we are" before we can find a suitable and compatible mate...Here's an example: I've loved to dance since I was a tiny tot. But I didn't think about putting dancing on my list of priorities when I married my first 2 husbands. (I didn't "factor-in" a lot of things!)...Anyway my first 2 husbands hated to dance. So I "went without" and never went dancing when I was married to them...I had a list of qualities and priorities later in life by the time I met my "last" husband.. I didn't want to end-up "going without" again. And I wanted to be part of a "win-win relationship" where everyone got their "needs met!"....My "last" husband took pride in being a "dancing machine" all his life! He loved to dance. (On his own.) I didn't have to force or pressure him to go dancing. He was always ready! And willing!!...We went out dancing (and had fun) right up 'til the end. And had fun in other ways too because we were "compatible!"

My question is, Why would a person who they're thinking about the divorce before saying 'I Do'???

It all depends on how well we click. I can't start a relationship based off attraction. Gotta take it slow. I've known quite a few younger guys who only see older women as a sex tool and not much more, so I'm having to keep an eye out to avoid players. Some compliment most women, so I never think they may want me in particular.

WOW......is this question for real???

I will sacfifice NOTHING about me or who I am for anyone!!!

Dude....if they dont like me the way I am....

They don't.....Deserve Me!!!!

I'm not really a pessimistic about marriage but with the high rate of divorce going around, one has to be careful. Marriage has became a fun thing unfortunately...

Maybe for the inheritance, maybe the prenup is really sweetly worded.

Or the guy promises to keep house and scrub her two kids from the other prev marriage every night before bed. Which would not be a big deal, but James is a 100-decibel screamer, and Frankie bites if you go close to him.

or he is a priest or minister, or a high-ranking government official.

Or else... I don't know. He is Ghinghis Khan, and she is Eva Rosenfeld. A good match, if he is willing to convert.

Um, nothing, I would negotiate some things knowing that there is always compromise in love and marriage.

How much of your life routine, <- one routine, no more releasing my load ten times a day into a kleenex. She has to take at least five of the loads. In marriage, the partners should share the load equally.

your ethics, <= I don't give up any of my ethics. Even for a love that is willing to satisfy me every time of five out of ten, and agrees to divorce me when I had had enuff of her. If she goes on her own accord after she becomes widely known, and old and wise, I still won't give up any of my ethics.

your desires, <= I am willing to give up five, of the daily ten, as I have stated previously.

your personal interest <= I can't conceptualize what any of my personal interests might be, beyond sex, food, entertainment, future earning power, maintaining good health, ethical behaviour always, and divorce on my mind when I am tired of a wife.

forfeit <= I forfeit my love to the highest bidder. Or the tallest bidder, if it's me who has to pay him to take her.

"Take my wife. Please."

i can't agree more possibly. it is a sad fact for america, that so many things that used to be chores and hardships, have become quite a good fun and something enjoyable to do. Like you said, unfortunately even marriage has become fun... ah, how can we stand it.

This is a shame that the nation will not live down any time soon.

Marriages are going around like flu in the fall... you know, two of my best friends caught it just recently. Of course what goes up, must come down... you can't get divorced without marrying someone first. Better have two or three kids, too, so the wife won't be lonely when you divorce her at her age of 37-ish, which is the toughest years of raising a trio of children by yourself alone, and also for the upcoming 8-10 years as well... let the biotch go without a man, see if it bothers you. Ha!

One - I wouldn't go into a marriage assuming it would end in divorce.

Two - why give up who I am? If someone is expecting me to do that, they probably don't love me very much.

Most of us agree here that if you have to sacrifice anything... it isn't real love. People should accept all of you. You can not change a person.

I would give up....None of the above!

Some of us already change of what who/what we are, just to please others, it's ridiculous to think we have to give up much more for a relationship or marriage. Compromise is one thing. Changing the essence of who you are is too damn much, I believe. Keep changing who you are to please others, and you will find yourself at divorce court sooner than you think.

Nothing if its goin to end anyway

I refuse to give up anything. Nothing, nada, zip, zero, zilch, bupkis. I am complete, happy and satisfied if I have a girlfriend or not.

I'll give up my penis.....just for her. I mean....that's alot right? Giving it up to satisfy her.