Topic: In need of advice. Any takers?
MissMap's photo
Fri 09/07/12 07:15 AM
Years ago, I got the point in a relationship that I realized I needed to just step back and find me first. I spent about 5 years doing that and I recently found myself in a good place and ready to get back to the dating scene. Ive tried but I seem to just get slammed with one liners and guys who just wanna have a one night stand. Being someone who is laid back, out to just enjoy life and someone who wants the best friend as well as the relationship I am finding this whole dating thing much harder than I had assumed it would be. I'm at a point where I am almost ready to call it quits again but I figured some advice may help me out here.
I have no clue where to start, where to meet people (good ones to boot) or how to find someone who is laid back and not into drama.
Can someone throw me some rope here? Thanks for the help in advance.


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Fri 09/07/12 07:37 AM
i could suggest a few things, and i will. if i'm reading you correctly (and i am) traditional dating, or "courting" is what you are looking for, so here are a few places you may find a gentleman.

1. at a funeral. sounds strange, i know, but punks don't go to pay respect. they don't have any. the difficult thing is the only funeral you are likely to attend is one for someone you know or are related to. the later is even more difficult because you are most likely going to be related to most of the single, available gentlemen there. let's move on

2. at work. you will meet gentlemen that have a job, should have reliable transportation, and generally have a place to stay. STAY AWAY from these guys. never ever mix business with pleasure. it will be very tempting, but don't do that. i guess number 2 isn't a good suggestion after all

3. through a friend. this is one of the best ways to meet a gentlemen, unless your friend is into practical jokes. your friend should know you and therefore will weed out the gentlemen that are not really compatible. the only drawback could be that you have no friends. in that case, take some free classes, or join a book club or other clubs or organizations that interest you. don't look for a gentlemen right off, make some same sex friends. they will have relatives or friends that they will introduce you to later

4. hit the forums here on mingle. pick a topic you like and comment on it, or start a thread on a subject that interests you. the gentlemen that frequent these threads will read your posts and either begin to comment on threads you are on, or message you privately. there are some really cool cats here, and maybe a cool doll will message you and direct you to someone she already knows and trusts. i guarantee i guarantee that if a mingle lady messages you and gives you the 411 on a cat here, you will be getting some sound advice

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Movie07's photo
Fri 09/07/12 09:54 AM
Hello n welcome,try libarays,museums,art shows
N good in ur seach...

Dodo_David's photo
Fri 09/07/12 01:43 PM
Can someone throw me some rope here?




Sure. Catch!



You humans still confuse me.

pyxxie13's photo
Fri 09/07/12 02:57 PM
Hmm. I don't want to throw you a rope. You might try to use it on your neck. noway

The more you focus on trying to find something ..the harder that something becomes. Just make friends and go out and do things you enjoy. There are people all around you. At one point that friend may turn into the person you were looking for all along.
You are too young to throw in the towel.
Best of luck to you!

PacificStar48's photo
Fri 09/07/12 06:56 PM
Hey you are nice looking young lady and I think you just have to realize it is a weeding out process of playing the numbers.

Joining the forums with funny or upbeat comments and your mail box will start filling up.

Pop on line early in the morning and after work to catch some of the "employed" crowd and then get out and enjoy what you like doing in the real world on the weekends.

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