Hey; I know how to scare the men away. Its become an art with me.

So funny. I have been on a few of these interview meetings myself. Very uncomfortable and did not meet with them again. I was even asked what prescription drugs I was taking if any....really?

I've never had a first date that was like that. The last date I had was a blind date, and it went ok until the end. He was under the impression that since he took me out to dinner, I should 'give him some'.

Oh no.....you have to wait until the fifth date at least, everyone knows that,lol

5th?!!
oh no, it should be done 'before' the first date.
there would be a lot less confusion this way.

but then there would never be any second dates

true...it's a win, win!

I'm happy to meet someone around here for a beer. It's a no pressure way to chat. If things go well, we stay, hangout and listen to music. If not, it's easy to finish our drinks and say goodnight.

Before scheduling a Meetup, i'd expect some prior virtual exchanges to have taken care of some questions :-) And if the initial email/phone communications have been smooth and regular, I'd expect the Meetup to have a rich source for conversation :-) BUT for the Army Drill Interview stuff, i simply wouldn't cope :-) Better a longer duration light chat chat to fit in the missing pieces in the communication puzzle and to see if the chemistry is right :-)

While i agree some mEN might become scared of you upon hearing of your military background, I personally think it'd only get me more attracted to get closer :-) The tough ladies mostly have a tender heart wren it comes to love :-)

I thank you for that. I think most younger men are a little more open minded to a strong woman where as men my age still see it as a threat rather than an asset.

I like to meet for morning coffee(or breakfast) or lunch.. Then if it goes well and you want to spend more time, you can do something else the rest of the day...I like to pay for my own but if he insists, I will leave the tip.. Lunch lasted almost 5 hrs one time but he lived tooo far and was just getting back on his feet after a bad divorce... He was a really nice guy...

I tried a few of the "interview" meet and greets here in California and found it rather a waste of time. And kind of abusive. Who wants to feel like they are being put on the auction block. And how much skin off someones nose is a lite lunch or even a dessert only date at a Mall food court? With two for one coupons if a person is that strapped they probably shouldn't have made and invitation. And at a Mall there is security and none of that getting in a car with a stranger.

I feel if someone had gotten through the email, IM, and maybe even the Skype stage (which by the way is free), they better be pretty comfortable about meeting me or just give it up. Yes I know there are a lot of looneys out there but it is not like a casual date is a commitment for life.

I do think some people just don't know how to small talk. Seems odd to me if you have talked on line and paid any attention at all to what they said their interests are that you could at least talk about that sort of stuff.

Wow if someone ask me about prescriptions I think I would tell them if they are not my doctor or paying for them so it is none of their business.

I will say that people that have delt with people who are normal on medications and then turn out to be freaking bat crazy when they don't take them are really gun shy. I kind of get trying to avoid another crisis but the ones that are not honest are always going to exist so really all that kind of question is going to do is encourage people to lie.

If fewer people were jumping in the sack from jump street and waiting until they actually know a person's health status they could avoid a lot of the concerns.

My feeling is if a person doesn't respect their health enough to avoid certain behaviors the chances are good that late in life I am going to be bankrupted by certain complications of their choices and more of a nurse than a partner.

It is easy to say that the better of for worse is part of the deal but I don't see why I have to become a scapegoat for years of someone else's irresponsible behavior.

One exception is a person who is disable in service to country or hurt doing a legitimate job. Or maybe born with a condition they have managed for years. There are people who have conditions that I would make every effort to accomodate. But self impossed "stuff"; nada.

My last couple dates were like that. One seemed to be trying to sell herself too hard and the other grilling me with questions. I never thought I would be that guy who says, I'll call ya, at the end of a date just to get away.

We don't scare them away NG...they scare themselves! :-)

I know it is me being strange and the way I was raised, but getting grilled on 30 questions a minute never really bothered me. If I was on a first date and this interview began, I don't think I would have too much of a concern. I see it like this, maybe she was burned hard in the past and is only trying to take precautionary steps before date #2 came about ya know? My only big concern is that if she is doing a drill like this, is it because she is having trouble trusting guys? I personally believe you need to give me a reason to not trust you, not the other way around where I have to prove that I am trustworthy ya know?

He He. That is so true.