ok i been talking to this girl on here for a couple weeks who shall remain nameless, well she is twenty years old and is eight months pregnant. She lives with her parents and apparently her dad is lil pu*sy who likes to physically abuse her she told me he punched her in the face tonight, and she has a black eye. Well i have developed feelings for her , granted its only been a week or so but she is a really sweet girl and i like her and her situation has me very irate. i'm really angry and wish i was closer i'd tell her dad if he wants to punch on somebody try me. i just have never known someone who was in this situation and dont know how to react except to get pissed cuz thats not right as u all know... any and every feedback will be greatly appreciated thx for letting me vent


- chris

aww i know how that is poor thing the my heart goes out to her and you :( i was in that situation for 10 years

Awww...
Give her the best advice you can to get away from it if she can!

i never told anyone growing up just had to hide bruises except one time my father broke my nose right before school i had to endure it for three weeks

how the f*uck can u hit a girl especially a pregnant one.. god that makes me mad

God idk hope her baby is okay

Not sure mate, have her contact county services or the police when she feels safe. Boys like that.... never mind. My prayers for your friend and you.

wow im so sorry for you guys. maybe she could call a crisis help line. she really needs to be safe through these last months. its not only her life at steak.

im sorry alanna that must have been really hard..


good luck to all of you guys

so do i.. she is apparently been f'd over by eveyy guy in her life cuz the asshole who got her pregnant isn't around it makes me wanna tell her to come live with me do u think that would be too soon to say? i'd take care of her and her baby

She needs to get away from him, move into a shelter if necessary until she can get established on her own. Sounds like he is supporting her now and she takes it for the money and support. Once she gets away and gets into a shelter, the people there would help her get into programs to help her with financial support for her and the baby and help her find housing, get her counseling to deal with the abuse, and any medical she would need too.

It is a hard step, but if he does that to her now, who knows how he will treat the baby, she needs to get out now and make herself and her baby the priority. She could call the cops and dad could go to jail for hitting her - at least in most states domestic violence will put him in jail.

see it's all about how tough her situation is.. if she can run away would it be worth it? thats why i shut my mouth had too much hanging in the air if she wants to get away mention it to her ~Alanna

such sad stories.... i can understand your anger Chris.


I agree with Marie, the best thing you can get her to do right now is get her out of where she is. Shelters are great for helping women get on their feet. Her father can and should be charged.

Focussing on her safety would be my priority.

I hope things work out soon

if you two really are serious for eachother, i think it would be a great idea to get her out of there. you never know it could save her and her babies life. if you are really ready and willing to put your self into that situation. and if that is what happens it might not be a good idea to let her father know where she is going, he might try to follow.

CJB - yeah, I think it is too soon for you to have her come live with you. You don't know her well enough. She has been battered and needs counseling to get over the issues around that, until she deals with those issues she won't be able to have a really good relationship with any man - you just said that every man she has been with has messed her over. She needs counseling to get her head straight - then you can pursue a relationhip with her. She is not ready for a real relationship yet, has too many issues and too many scars to heal first.

It is nice of you to care for her and want to help her, but she has to heal first or it will just be a real mess and a huge hurt when she takes the baby and walks out after you have fallen in love with it. She needs to heal herself first, then you can work on a healthy relationship and future. You can still be her friend and support her all the way, but way too soon to move in with her.

well i did invite her to stay with me but she hasn't wrote back i it might have been too forward for we barely know eachother i am just doing what i hope someone would do for me .. i hope i didn't scare her off

write her another email. express to her how you really feel about the situation.. hopefully she will listen to reason.

yeah i know but i am not a stranger compared to a shelter.. i think iwould rather stay with any of u guys than go to one of those.. i dont think she would go to a shelter marie but i agree 100% with every thing u say

Marrie is right, move her out now! As far as moving in with you. Both of you need to sit and talk that one out!

has she told any sort of authority figures?? if not she needs to just to put his violence on record and then she needs to get as far away from this guy as she can..fathers are not meant to beat their children no matter the situation.

her dad needs to get knocked out for hitting a woman.sounds like she is in a broken home,and needs to move in with you.