She will probably take care of HER stuff more. She probably figures that it does not belong to her and that she didn't spend any $$$$ for it, therefore it does not matter. My son lives with me, and when he started paying for his own stuff, he took care of it more....

Yeah countrybelle6471. I do feel better, my eye brows are not touching each othere anymore

Well she came up and appologized and said she will not eat in there anymore. Hell I'm not a hard azz just like to keep things nice while i have it. Anyway i do feel much better and thanks everyone that did reply. goes to show it can be a small thing but that there are people on her thta can understand

I bet she tries to follow you.

Gee Shadow, are you sure you aren't talking about my daughter??

I agree, it boils down to just plain respect. You have been more than generous with her for 4 years, the least she can do is respect your wishes and rules and not destroy the home you let her live in.

Sage is right, she is going to be lost without you, will have to take a quick lesson from the "school of hard knocks."

Congratulations on your upcoming move.

But, I do think your sister and my daughter are twins. My daughter pulled a good one on me this weekend, even worse than what you went through, and cost me a fortune.

Have a good night.

sage, I think she does and don't mean to do some of the things that she does at times and I'm understanding. Just work with me a little. Thats all I ask Man I need to think before I type sometimes lol fingers get ahead of me

Awwwwwwwww My Shadow, truth is hon after 4 years she should have already had her **** straighten out. Problem is some come to rely on others to get them out of a jam. It's time for you to move on in life and time for sister to step up to the plate.

Truth is your way nicer than my brother would be with me and after all these years my little sister and my brother and I have never had not one cross word believe it or not.

But my brother is a clean freak. He will ask you the first time not to do something the second time he will tell you and nope ya don't get a third chance.

Yeah it is a respect thing for sure.

Look at it this way only 4 months so suck up and don't argue with her in the next 4 months best not to have words before you leave to start your new life.

Besides its funnny how when ones no longer have a crutch they can make it on there own

Sounds just like my son.I kept putting up with it and finally did the tough love.And things are so much better with us now.

Hmm I was just thinking about what Oldsage said.

I bet she tries to fllow me I'm moving to Utah. hell if that is going to happen

Marie, sorry to hear that. I do agree with you though, it is a respect thing. Even before she moved in I lived with a couple friends and I always cleand my stuff up in the kitchen or living room after I was done. See before it was kinda a party house. So I waited for them to leave before I would do anything to fix up the house. Hell you don't want to know what it looked like Il just say It was alot of hard work to get it to where it is today. As I was saying, even though I it was a party house I still kept my end up.

MoM This move is going to change my life for the better and less stress on life and the little things like this topic But your right. When i'm gone she will have to step up to the plate. I did what I could and along the way i helped my nephew as well and in some ways he helped me. I gave 4 yours and it's time for me to move on.


Pkh, tough love does work in some situations ,but I guess untill whoever can see it for themselves it will not work at times. Although it has with my nephew and i'm proud about that

Well Baby Boy I promise you your nephew will always be grateful of the last four years you have gave him and helped him in so many ways.

But yes it is your turn to move on. You have found a rare Jewel a Diamond in the rough that will truly make you both shine. The future is waiting for you to start this new life. Grab onto that star and hang on.

Excellent advice txgal but i would for sure NOT give the correct forwarding address in Utah....

Well shadow...jsut proves what a gret guy ya are...
Glad you feel better and got to vent here, your requests are not unreasonable...
Good luck in Utah...yipii..I am soo happy for you!!!