Hmmm this sounds strangely close to what I said.

I would like to make something clear One of the things I like about Mingle is the fact that
I really don't care if someone says explicitly what they want or don't want. I don't think it is smart or safe but if you are of age and want to say you are horney as an alley cat in full blown heat, blow kisses, and not saying OP did this flash whatever part of your anatomy you think will get who you want falling all over themself for you I think you have every right to go for it. This is not Sunday school and it is suppose to be ADULTS only site so it doesn't offend me either way.

AND I will defend to the death for her, or anyone else to say what they want so that is NOT the issue.

Be very clear you don't put any words in my mouth like I said she "should" or "had to" or even "needed too" I said she did not like the responses she got she "MIGHT" want to. It is a choice and some choices/or lack of them often get linked together wheather it is desireable or fair.

Or for that matter even legal. Sadly the rule of law only exists when people are willing to follow it. It is all well and good to walk on the wild side, don't anyone kid themself I have had my buck wild times in my life, and taken my lumps but I didn't get to be the fat old broad I am setting back and watching the world go by repeating things I learned were mistakes.

Let it be known if someone does go over the top and threaten you, even remotely suggest they are going to do you any harm, or force you to do anything even anything you said you wanted right up to the last split second and you wanted to change your mind and say NO I do support that RIGHT. Don't think that means much because rarely "rights" are any more than lip service when you get out there in the real world where if you play with the rough crowd you can get roughed up and most won't care.

And no I wasn't suggesting any kind of slang for anal sex, don't have a clue what movie you are referenceing sorry. And I am too far out of the loop to know what all the current references are even if I did try those kind of references tend to change.

Maybe it sounds a little too maternal I kind of hope you don't end up knowing all the terms or references even I know. Believe me it is not all it's cracked up to be.

Being horny is not a bad thing. Nor should someone have to be attacked for rejecting someone else who is horny.


LOL No being "horny" is not a bad thing. Natural, normal, I would say pretty much expected and a given for anybody so saying it seems kind of redundant.

What "Should" happen is clearly already not what did happen so we are not dealing with "Should" but what typically going to happen with the type of profile markers OP used.

She was asking "why" are some people haters? You sexually frusterate someone they are going to be cranky. You choose the behavior you choose the results.

I agree. You can't be interested in EVERYONE! It's their problem, not yours and don't take it personally. Good luck to you.

i think it's easy for people to not understand how this site works untill the good people here give you honest and helpfull advice,i'm taking note of such advice and feel my own posts were actions taken before understanding. from the very few dating sites i have looked at before,people have been crude and simplistic about what they are,therefore get responses that they my never of expected. so mybe us newbies need to just sit back relax and update our profiles as we move along.intime we should find that we become more respected and the lovely people on here will become friends,until then i suppose we need to exspect some confrontations and rejections.hey,i think i'm getting the hang of this,good luck to all newbies

If someone is sexually frustrated by a few words in a profile, that's their issue, not the problem of the one with the profile. There's no need to take it out on the person with the profile, just because the sexually frustrated person didn't get what they wanted.

Just ignore it.

True :D

I'm english. Do not expect me to be perfect. Yes. You are right. Who would wanna be perfect anyway? What's perfect? :P

Chocolate ice cream?

Now I want some ice cream.

You clearly are not listening to my point. No people should play nice, Do they? Nope. If it is un-nerving, un-pleasant, or just mistifying my answer is hey you play a certain way on line you are going to often get results that are a drag. And little or no explanation is going to prevent it so disclaimers or qualifiers are kind of a waste of breath.

Would Katy get the kind of response she always wants by modifying her approach? No; there will always be the creepizoids that show out but it does tend to tone down the number and seed the bed for support if someone goes over the top.

In the real world being stalked really sucks and a sexy profile tends to bring those type out of the woodwork and shy away people who are a little bit more conservative but not so uptight that they can't or won't let her be her real authentic self. Which I highly recommend newbies think through what is. Nothing wrong with being a little, or even a lot, provoacative if that is what you want to do. But what goes up on the Web is here forever to answer for so even if you later find the tract you want to take is less so you may have a cost of doing business this way. Sadly haters exist for any number of reasons and I have proferred a plausable reason. Doesn't mean I support it, excuse it, or even like it but I can't see that is getting through so think what you want.