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Topic: TO ANSWER, OR NOT TO ANSWER. THAT IS THE QUESTION
Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Mon 05/07/12 02:28 PM
Ah, so you were exaggerating quite a bit. :) why you check her messages?

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Mon 05/07/12 02:31 PM
I get TONS of emails from men in their thousands. You try answering them and trying to keep up with a guy you're trying to have an email conversation with. Sooner or later, one of em will have to go looking elsewhere. I can't have three conversations at once. If i grab you're attention that you want me that badly, then please have patience. Otherwise it's bye bye from me. woooohooooooo we have a winner:) thousands of of mail 1 min let me message you in mail so it will be thousands and 1 i guess the guess think your such a lovable good looking lady:) cheers

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Mon 05/07/12 02:35 PM
I get TONS of emails from men in their thousands. You try answering them and trying to keep up with a guy you're trying to have an email conversation with. Sooner or later, one of em will have to go looking elsewhere. I can't have three conversations at once. If i grab you're attention that you want me that badly, then please have patience. Otherwise it's bye bye from me. woooohooooooo we have a winner:) thousands of of mail 1 min let me message you in mail so it will be thousands and 1 i guess the guess think your such a lovable good looking lady:) cheers Thanks :) I appreciate your nice compliment. I just don't wanna come across like i'm bragging or anything.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48983	Mon 05/07/12 02:43 PM
What are these "messages" that you speak of?

Bravalady Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 1034	Mon 05/07/12 03:23 PM
I don't answer ones from men out of my age range, and those are all I get. I really don't understand why a young guy in his 20's would e-mail me when I'm clearly old enough to be his grandmother, and especially when they're on a different continent. Even if they "just want to be friends." I mean, get real.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 05/07/12 03:29 PM
I don't answer ones from men out of my age range, and those are all I get. I really don't understand why a young guy in his 20's would e-mail me when I'm clearly old enough to be his grandmother, and especially when they're on a different continent. Even if they "just want to be friends." I mean, get real. I get a lot out of my age range as well. Those are also the people who have told me they liked my profile. When I asked if they read the part about the age, they tell me "baby, age is just a number!"

LeeInFL Joined Fri 04/20/12 Posts: 41	Mon 05/07/12 03:30 PM Edited by LeeInFL on Mon 05/07/12 03:34 PM
I won't send a message to someone until I have read her profile from beginning to end. I expect the same from those who message me. If you're really interested, you will want to know as much about me as possible before initiatiing contact....if you don't, then why bother? "I get TONS of emails from men in their thousands." Well, once a man hits 1,000 years of age, he will pretty well message everyone he can. It's hard for the old guys to get the attention of the young ones!

alookat101 Joined Fri 12/12/08 Posts: 17442	Mon 05/07/12 03:32 PM
Well not in their thousands. It's not like i'm a major celebrity. . About ten a day, more like. Boy-O-Boy I'm jealous of you right about now.., if I can get just one e-mail a month I'll jump for joy.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Mon 05/07/12 03:36 PM
I get TONS of emails from men in their thousands. You try answering them and trying to keep up with a guy you're trying to have an email conversation with. Sooner or later, one of em will have to go looking elsewhere. I can't have three conversations at once. If i grab you're attention that you want me that badly, then please have patience. Otherwise it's bye bye from me. woooohooooooo we have a winner:) thousands of of mail 1 min let me message you in mail so it will be thousands and 1 i guess the guess think your such a lovable good looking lady:) cheers Thanks :) I appreciate your nice compliment. I just don't wanna come across like i'm bragging or anything. no your not bragging my friend i know exactly what you meant, some may try to twist it into a brag, cause some maybe don't get a lot of messages or they may be jealous of you lolll but i think its awesome that you do ,and your a good looking lady you should get tons of messages :) cheers:)

whatssuup Joined Sat 10/25/08 Posts: 690	Mon 05/07/12 03:38 PM
If someone takes the time to message me then I will take the time to reply...... But you will get back what you put into it, I find it very easy to figure out how genuine a person is by their response .

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 05/07/12 03:42 PM
If someone takes the time to message me then I will take the time to reply...... But you will get back what you put into it, I find it very easy to figure out how genuine a person is by their response . That's pretty much how I work as well. If I get a "hi" they will get a "hi" in return. If I get a well thought out message, I'll take the time to respond.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Mon 05/07/12 03:47 PM
I don't answer ones from men out of my age range, and those are all I get. I really don't understand why a young guy in his 20's would e-mail me when I'm clearly old enough to be his grandmother, and especially when they're on a different continent. Even if they "just want to be friends." I mean, get real. well i guess they respond to you cause you have your settings letting them respond:) and some younger guys love older women and some older women love younger guys, i think if i were you, i would set your age settings ,to the age you want people to respond to you, and your problem is fixed you would not get guys in their 20s responding and also if you don't want someone from another Country to respond set them settings as well its simple cheers :)

whatssuup Joined Sat 10/25/08 Posts: 690	Mon 05/07/12 03:48 PM
If someone takes the time to message me then I will take the time to reply...... But you will get back what you put into it, I find it very easy to figure out how genuine a person is by their response . That's pretty much how I work as well. If I get a "hi" they will get a "hi" in return. If I get a well thought out message, I'll take the time to respond. Well if I ever message you I had better come up with something good then !

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 05/07/12 03:52 PM Edited by singmesweet on Mon 05/07/12 03:53 PM
If someone takes the time to message me then I will take the time to reply...... But you will get back what you put into it, I find it very easy to figure out how genuine a person is by their response . That's pretty much how I work as well. If I get a "hi" they will get a "hi" in return. If I get a well thought out message, I'll take the time to respond. Well if I ever message you I had better come up with something good then ! haha. It doesn't take much to send a decent message. Reading profiles helps out quite a bit.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Mon 05/07/12 04:02 PM
If someone takes the time to message me then I will take the time to reply...... But you will get back what you put into it, I find it very easy to figure out how genuine a person is by their response . That's pretty much how I work as well. If I get a "hi" they will get a "hi" in return. If I get a well thought out message, I'll take the time to respond. wooohoo its follow the leader lolll .....but myself if i get a hi i leave them a nice long message and say just a hi i got at the end of my long response back cause i am optimistic that there was a reason behind just hi :).... lolll i mean 2 negatives don't make a positive, its better to be optimistic about the hi, then having Pessimism view that you can only say hi back :) but then again some are not optimistic about things as others are :) cheers

Charles1962150 Joined Tue 03/13/12 Posts: 3403	Mon 05/07/12 04:04 PM
I get TONS of emails from men in their thousands. You try answering them and trying to keep up with a guy you're trying to have an email conversation with. Sooner or later, one of em will have to go looking elsewhere. I can't have three conversations at once. If i grab you're attention that you want me that badly, then please have patience. Otherwise it's bye bye from me. OK, Don't take this the wong way. I'm not picking on you. This is people in general. If you are talking to someone and you like that person, Why not hide your profile while you're dealing with this person? I mean, It just seems like common sense to me. That way you will not be getting tons of messages you can't answer or don't want to answer. That way guys in general will leave you alone. If it turns out that X guy is a prick,Un-hide your profile and keep going. It's what I do. That way for me, No woman ever feels ignored by me. I'm not having to make up excuses either. Which I know some people do.

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Mon 05/07/12 04:07 PM
How do you " hide " your profile without deactivating?

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Mon 05/07/12 04:14 PM
How do you " hide " your profile without deactivating? Put a blanket over it.

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Mon 05/07/12 04:16 PM
How do you " hide " your profile without deactivating? Put a blanket over it. Why didn't I think of that?

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Mon 05/07/12 04:16 PM
I don't answer ones from men out of my age range, and those are all I get. I really don't understand why a young guy in his 20's would e-mail me when I'm clearly old enough to be his grandmother, and especially when they're on a different continent. Even if they "just want to be friends." I mean, get real. I get a lot out of my age range as well. Those are also the people who have told me they liked my profile. When I asked if they read the part about the age, they tell me "baby, age is just a number!" simple fix your age category that you want your response from and then you won't get them, out of your age bracket lolll but age is just a number that is true :)when i was 23 i dated a 43year old lady that looked like 25 :) when i was 19 i dated a 31 year old lady that worked for Victoria Secret :) to me it depends on the 2 involved age hardly means that much as long as they are legal to think age matters so much thats negative thinking :)cheers