You know exactly what to do. And you know it's right.

Edit: "Grieving a 'bad' relationship is just as difficult, or more so, than a 'good' relationship."
Sorry if I didn't make sense.

Sometimes in life, there's nothing left to say or do with certain people anymore. Some things just run their course. It's always upsetting to end things. If he truly respects you, he'll stop acting like an utter disgrace. Saying that, if he doesn't come to his senses, then is he really worth all the pain?

It is worse. Feels like utter hell.

Some guys truly think nothing they ever do or say is hurtful. I mean this when I say EVERYthing he's ever said to me hurt me on some level. You can't save a flailing "friendship" when everything that's happened has been a disaster. And he did nothing to prevent it either.

It's just best to get out with your sanity and dignity intact AND WALK ON. Do not go back into the burning building.

What she said....stay well away from burning buildings unless you are wearing a fire retardant suit and you have back up

Success! I did it! Wow, I actually did it. I got rid of him.

i have someone I need to let go of. Every time I think I'm ready I call him just to be reassured he is there. I think I just can't deal with that pain right now. But I keep trying lol sounds crazy.

If the peace of the decision comes right away great. If it doesn't it more than likely will in time. As you've heard your friends say goodbyes can be hard and painful. I've always thought them best handled not dwelling on the others faults, failures or my faults and failures. Things can get confusing when we try to be judges of emotion. It is what it is and you are who you are no matter how it went down. If I have any advice it would be look at that clock on your wall. It always ticks forward. The only way it goes backward is if you turn the hands counter. Your future awaits you and only you can slow your future down by going back or letting others take you back.

I wish you the best and will be thinking of you.

Wasn't a pantene thing then i take it?

...or a person-retardand suit and a broom stick in your back, up.

(sorry, nothing mean meant, just a play with words. This is my sense of humour, and if you don't get it, then please don't feel bad, nobody else does either.)

On the half way house wall in Hope House was written, "Either you are part of the problem or part of the solution." It has really helped me even today. I know I will miss my boarder but I am so happy for her. I am as happy for her as I am for my ex who found her a wonderful man. My boarder after five years of being here is finally going to be able to move out with her girlfriend to a better place. I am so happy that she isn't happy living here any more. This last December she got off parole and has her restitution down to just a $1000.00 to the county. She told me she just needed a place for the winter five years ago. I am glad that this five year winter is almost over. It will be so nice not having to hear her complain about how bad she has it here. I won't have to be her hero any more. I realize that the empty nest syndrome will set in again but one thing about an empty nest is that you get more room.

Sotty to hear you are hurting. Some relationships are not going to float because no amount of effort to sail can happen if one side is dead weight. It is not always obvious in relationships that it is one sided and leading with your faith in people does get you a few bruises now and then but just lift your heart and you will find it keeps beating and will persevere ultimately. Good Luck.

Taking him back was never an option for me. I never had him to begin with. He will not stop obsessing over her. And I just can't deal with the emotional chit that comes with this. He really was never a real friend. Never cared. Always did what he wanted for his own personal gain. Completely selfish and never willing to talk. Why would I go back to that horror? Would anyone here? Second changes should never exist.

What a great story. In time, I will erase him from my life. Taking on someone elses burden of issues...who wants that mess? There's only so much you can do for someone who just doesn't genuinely care.