Rate me beautiful ladies (;

First I am not a lady.

But I'd like to say that, #1, I think it's awesome that you're exploring your sexuality and finding out who you are and what you like. You got online, said who you were and put it out there for responses. I'm 10 years older than you, and I didn't have that kind of courage at your age.

#2, Chicago is awesome. I was raised there until 12 in a south suburb called Homewood. We had snow during Christmas. Sledding. Ice skating outdoors. Good pizza. The Metro. Freakishly smart people. High schools better than Florida Universities. Oh, and no alligators devouring our pets and toddlers. Don't move.

#3, make sure you analyze your own motivations for seeking out female partners. I was raised by an abusive male, both physically and psychologically. I just happen to be a male myself, and so my hatred of the male sex is mistaken as socially acceptable macho/competitive male behavior. The truth is that I feel a deep, burning desire to murder every adult male I interact with. The last male that tried to impress his girlfriend by swinging a chair at me lost control of his hand. As he swung I calmly slid my 4 inch black pocket knife across his forearm. It severed his tendons. The blade was so sharp he didn't feel it.

Anyway, back to the point: you might still be sexually attracted to males despite the kind of hatred I was conditioned with. Sexuality seems to exist independent of male/female hatreds that develop after childhood abuse. Be honest with yourself and with your partner about how you feel and what you want. Tell them you are not sure about your own sexuality and want to explore it. You don't have to identify yourself as gay or straight to any potential sexual partner you encounter. You are learning about yourself and your sexuality, and there is absolutely no obligation to define who you are to your partner at your young age.

Sex is a wonderful, beautiful thing two humans can share with each other. Partners can be the same or opposite sex. It is based on honesty, mutual respect and trust. If someone lies, don't have sex with them. If they don't respect you, don't have sex with them. If you feel like you can't trust them for any reason, don't have sex with them.

Be yourself. Find out who you are. Remember the previous paragraph. If anyone tries to force a sexual orientation on you or control you physically, message me. Illinois prisons are 5 star hotels compared to Florida ones.

Good luck!

Wooow.., that's very messed up that you were abused as a child -__- .. and well yeah you're right on everything. Thank you so much for your help ((: