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Topic: Putting Your Heart Out There
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 02/29/12 12:20 AM
Live and learn. Never again. there you go wait for a man brave enough to be a man and actaully DO something besides message and say something like "what are u wearing?"

Aysexy Joined Tue 02/28/12 Posts: 3	Wed 02/29/12 12:27 AM
I did but for the wrong person and it was a bad blow cos she has never even had a slightes thought about me.wat i saw that made me open up to her was not ment for me but for mx brother.and i now live every day with it cos they are married and i get to see her now and then which hurts more.......bad u say

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Wed 02/29/12 01:09 AM Edited by Jeanniebean on Wed 02/29/12 01:14 AM
There is nothing to lose in telling someone you care. Unless you are expecting something in return. Give freely. I'm calling self-righteous bull on this one. Sounds good on paper, but just quite doesn't work out. It was 100% sincere and I practice it myself. Its called detachment and free love.' Free love is when you love someone and don't expect anything in return. It's not hard really. If you give anything and expect something in return... then it is NOT GIVING. It just seems like an infinite loop. You can only give so much. Unrequited love is just foolish. UNREQUITED? WIKI: "Unrequited love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such, even though reciprocation is usually deeply desired." That is not "free love" when you expect to be loved in return or if you expect anything else for it. If you think you can only give "so much" love, then you have no idea what love really is. Love is unlimited. If you let love flow, there is an infinite amount of it. there is no such thing as love of any kind with detachment interpersonal detachment is actually a symptom of possible mental illness or personality disorder and/or cause to be referred for treatment or evaluation for treatment emotional interpersonal detachment is a commonality shared by violent offenders and sex offenders That is bull crap. By detachment, I mean that you can love a person without getting all involved with their personal business and life and accept that they are responsible for their own decisions. Just because you love someone that does not mean that you have to take on all their problems or get sucked into their dramas. You can respect them enough to let them live their life. That is what I mean by detachment. Of course if you want to spend your life living the dramas of every person you care about and getting involved in their daily lives, business, and petty problems..., well, good luck with that.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Wed 02/29/12 01:13 AM
There is nothing to lose in telling someone you care. Unless you are expecting something in return. Give freely. I'm calling self-righteous bull on this one. Sounds good on paper, but just quite doesn't work out. exactly not in real life anyway Also bull crap. If you can't give freely ITS NOT GIVING. It becomes a trade off or bargain. It is love with strings attached. It is: "I love you so you should love me back." That's immature.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Wed 02/29/12 01:24 AM Edited by Jeanniebean on Wed 02/29/12 01:27 AM
It is a very liberating feeling to give FREELY without expecting something in return. It is an unselfish act. (Of course you have to actually truly feel real divine unconditional love in order to do that. That is probably pretty rare.) If it ever happens to you, you will know what I'm talking about. I'm not trying to be "self righteous." It is when you want nothing but happiness or the best for a person without needing or wanting something for yourself, or something from them in return. To me, that is real love.

MorningSong Joined Mon 02/11/08 Posts: 4505	Wed 02/29/12 02:06 AM
God's Love is Like That, Jeannie.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/29/12 08:41 AM
You fire a shot in the dark. If it doesn't hit anything it won't make a sound. When the line of communication is cut, it never happened.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Wed 02/29/12 08:48 AM
You fire a shot in the dark. If it doesn't hit anything it won't make a sound. When the line of communication is cut, it never happened. (((Audrey))) I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. I've been there. I know it will take some time, but I hope one day you will feel strong enough to put yourself out there again.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/29/12 09:41 AM
You fire a shot in the dark. If it doesn't hit anything it won't make a sound. When the line of communication is cut, it never happened. (((Audrey))) I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. I've been there. I know it will take some time, but I hope one day you will feel strong enough to put yourself out there again. Hmm, that's life. Some are strong, most are weak. Can't help what you are. But I don't see that happening in this life.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/29/12 09:42 AM
Live and learn. Never again. there you go wait for a man brave enough to be a man and actaully DO something besides message and say something like "what are u wearing?" Usually I say clothes in answer to that. I'm halfway there!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 02/29/12 03:51 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/29/12 03:52 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum. Rum wit Coke mo betta. Girls Night!!!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 02/29/12 03:56 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum. Rum wit Coke mo betta. Girls Night!!! Absolutely;; girls night out sounds like a great idea.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/29/12 03:58 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum. Rum wit Coke mo betta. Girls Night!!! Absolutely;; girls night out sounds like a great idea. Rose, I'd so hope a plane to Canada now....

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Wed 02/29/12 04:01 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum. Yup, I've given up too. I will spend the rest of my days writing books, and hopefully some people will get some enjoyment out of them.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/29/12 04:02 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum. Yup, I've given up too. I will spend the rest of my days writing books, and hopefully some people will get some enjoyment out of them. And this is what I told him: its writer's fate for me.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 02/29/12 04:14 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum. Rum wit Coke mo betta. Girls Night!!! Absolutely;; girls night out sounds like a great idea. Rose, I'd so hope a plane to Canada now.... Well, you certainly would have a place to crash as I have lots of room in my house.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/29/12 04:16 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum. Rum wit Coke mo betta. Girls Night!!! Absolutely;; girls night out sounds like a great idea. Rose, I'd so hope a plane to Canada now.... Well, you certainly would have a place to crash as I have lots of room in my house. Thanks! Now I feel welcome. Bailey's Cream is my preference. Does Canada has any male strippers available? Put a request in por favor.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 02/29/12 04:20 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum. Rum wit Coke mo betta. Girls Night!!! Absolutely;; girls night out sounds like a great idea. Rose, I'd so hope a plane to Canada now.... Well, you certainly would have a place to crash as I have lots of room in my house. Thanks! Now I feel welcome. Bailey's Cream is my preference. Does Canada has any male strippers available? Put a request in por favor. As I recall; there is a place down town with male strippers. I will put in a request for you and maybe my friend from the Fire Department can send us some guys from the Hot Stuff Calendar. LOL I love Bailey's too.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 02/29/12 04:21 PM
Update: I've officially given up. I tried. Now my head hurts, where's the Whiskey??? I am with you as I too have given up but I really would prefer Rum. Yup, I've given up too. I will spend the rest of my days writing books, and hopefully some people will get some enjoyment out of them. Hey Lex, maybe we should start a "Given Up" club.