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Topic: Is it shallow?
Wildone4lyfe's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:07 PM
Is it shallow to have preferences based on comfort zones?

For example,

I won't date a man who is in the military (any branch), a police officer, firefighter or FBI. I figured men who are in a direct line of duty are in high risk.

Crap happens and I know I couldn't handle it if he were to die on the job. These occupations also demand many things such as frequent moving (military) long ridiculous hours and schedule(FBI, Cop.

Does anyone else do this besides me?

GIRLYCHIC's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:10 PM
HEY HONEY I FEEL THE SAME WAY ALTHOUGH ITS THERE JOB AND IVE DATED A FEW COPS WELL IVE HAD MY SHARE I REMEMBER ONE OF THEM TELLIN ME U KNOW IF I DONT COME HOME ALIVE IT WAS MY JOB I DONT THINK ANY LESS OF U BECAUSE U THINK THAT WAY... THATS HOW U WANT IT AND THATS HOW IT SHOULD BE HONEY flowerforyou

Wildone4lyfe's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:11 PM
Thank you that means a lot to me girlychic

Queene123's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:12 PM
almost any kind of job is a high risk? so what are you even talking about. if i met a man in a uniform i would stick by there side 100percentflowerforyou

GIRLYCHIC's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:13 PM
UR WELCOME SWEETS :smile: AND IT WOULD BE TOUGH ON ME IF THEY CHOOSE THAT CAREER .... BUT U WOULD REGRET IT I KNOW I WOULD EVEN THOUGH IT WASNT MY FAULT ID FEEL SO AWFUL.... ANYTHING I CAN DO TO HELP HONEY

Wildone4lyfe's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:14 PM
Thanx for the flower and that's your opinion.

Not every single job is high risk. There are incidents on the job but men who work in a field that is crime investigation related or deal with international war have a higher rate of risk.


KAY KAY 's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:14 PM
No, I don't think that to be shallow. I received an email today from a young lady on this site saying that I wasn't true to my race because I have "Race Not Important" on my profile and that I sound desperate I guess because I specified what I want.

sexyneverleft's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:14 PM
I had the same ideals. But then I thought, even though it would be really hard to lose someone you really loved, would you not take that risk for love in the first place? Love is a risk, no matter who your with. And by avoiding said things, what would you have missed from just avoiding something that might not even happen... its something to think about

GIRLYCHIC's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:14 PM
YA I STICK BY THEM 100% QUEENE ON WHATEVER U WANT TO DO BUT WHEN UR INVOLVED WITH THEM IT WEIGHS IT DOWN AND MAKES U THINK WHAT IF?????????

Wildone4lyfe's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:16 PM
sexynever those are some good points. However, yes I would not go there or risk heart ache. I have lost people close to me then why bother if I can help it.

Wildone4lyfe's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:16 PM
sexy that's amazing how ignorant people can be "You betrayed your race." That's pretty crazy.

Stay strong

erinestrella's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:17 PM
I don't think it's being shallow, it's being true to yourself.
:smile:

Wildone4lyfe's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:17 PM
Thank you erin :)

YeaBigsexy's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:17 PM
it just depends on how bad you want to be with that person!!
you know going in
so yea i would think its all up to the individual
i dated a girl for a while and every time i jumped in my race car
and go 180 + she would freak she just couldnt hang so i know kinda
what your sayinghappy

Wildone4lyfe's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:18 PM
Thank you bigsexy. wow I bet she did freak

no photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:20 PM
>>> I received an email today from a young lady on this site saying that I wasn't true to my race because I have "Race Not Important"

Oh my! So being open to people from other races is 'not being true to your race'! laugh

This is funny and so tragic at the same time.

no photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:20 PM
I don't think it's shallow. if you know you aren't comfortable with their job, you aren't. everyone has their preferences.
maybe you will be able to get past it after a while.

I personally would not want to be w/ a "metro" sexual. If they guy takes longer to get ready for me, it's not gonna work.

YeaBigsexy's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:20 PM
your welcome
like i said its not as extrem as being a cop or something like that
just same princeable
but yes your welcomeflowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

don4169's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:24 PM
we all do it to some extent. its human nature. gotta look after your own heart first.
i was a bullet cather in europe for six years and it cost me a marriage. of course i was on the road more then 7 months a year, i'm sure that didn't help.

Wildone4lyfe's photo
Sun 07/22/07 06:26 PM
Don,

I'm sorry it cost you a marriage!

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