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How many times have you been in the very early stages of chatting to someone and they give you their whole life history in the first few exchanges..How do you react? Do you:
a) Head running for the hills? b) Continue in the hopes that they are just nervous? c) Admire them for being open/honest? d) Tell them that it was WAY too much information? Personally, I would always choose D because I have found what information people are comfortable disclosing differs from person to person. |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Sun 01/08/12 01:42 PM
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"Airing dirty laundry" tends to refer to airing private information/drama/problems in public. So, I guess it would depend on what they're actually telling me.
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Edited by
42BlackBBW
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Sun 01/08/12 01:45 PM
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Well..the usual stuff tends to be around acrimonious relationship break ups. Or a possible minor criminal conviction...
public meaning that they are telling you as a prospective friend/gf. |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Sun 01/08/12 01:46 PM
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Again, it's just going to depend on the specific conversation for me. I can't say now what I'd do during a conversation with someone. I'd have to take it as it comes and decide how to react at the time.
As for airing dirty laundry... I see that as more bringing something up around other people, or on a site like this that should remain private. |
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Edited by
42BlackBBW
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Sun 01/08/12 01:49 PM
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As for airing dirty laundry... I see that as more bringing something up around other people, or on a site like this that should remain private. I think that's about interpretation...mine will differ from yours..as I stated, what some people feel comfortable disclosing about themselves will differ from person to person. |
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I'm going with C.
Although if they tell me too much at once I probably won't remember most of it. My memory sucks. |
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If they can elaborate on how they have grown.....
I will listen.... otherwise..... leave their past in the past. Open up a lil at a time..... but dont lay it on me all at once.... I'll just.... Walk away!!! |
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How many times have you been in the very early stages of chatting to someone and they give you their whole life history in the first few exchanges..How do you react? Do you: a) Head running for the hills? b) Continue in the hopes that they are just nervous? c) Admire them for being open/honest? d) Tell them that it was WAY too much information? Personally, I would always choose D because I have found what information people are comfortable disclosing differs from person to person. In real life, people find me ridiculously easy to talk to. I would tend to encourage it (with some exceptions) because they often have no one else to talk to, and because the whole process of getting to know about someone can be fascinating. Exceptions would be things like insane or incoherent ramblings (this happens more often than I would have expected), pleas for money or clothing or kidneys, instantaneous presumption of impending marriage/kids/trip to Guatemala, etc. |
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As for airing dirty laundry... I see that as more bringing something up around other people, or on a site like this that should remain private. I think that's about interpretation...mine will differ from yours..as I stated, what some people feel comfortable disclosing about themselves will differ from person to person. Right. I was just giving my opinion. |
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I'd like to say that I'd choose C, as I'd much rather someone being honest and open from the beginning. But, if all they do is whine about things, or are just negative about everything, I'd probably run for the hills. So, that's why I said it would depend on what they're telling me.
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How many times have you been in the very early stages of chatting to someone and they give you their whole life history in the first few exchanges..How do you react? Do you: a) Head running for the hills? b) Continue in the hopes that they are just nervous? c) Admire them for being open/honest? d) Tell them that it was WAY too much information? Personally, I would always choose D because I have found what information people are comfortable disclosing differs from person to person. In real life, people find me ridiculously easy to talk to. I would tend to encourage it (with some exceptions) because they often have no one else to talk to, and because the whole process of getting to know about someone can be fascinating. Exceptions would be things like insane or incoherent ramblings (this happens more often than I would have expected), pleas for money or clothing or kidneys, instantaneous presumption of impending marriage/kids/trip to Guatemala, etc. I think that you're right Lex. Getting to know someone else can be fascinating. |
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Again, I would tend to agree with most of the comments..I don't mind hearing about past history but in small doses and not as part of a whinge fest.
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 I would seldon if EVER,,go with D. here.
As I am all about me being open,,and her being open with me.. IF it was a conviction of any kind sure,,let me know THAT right off,,IF that hurt a child,,see ya,,,right off the bat...lol I am straight forward about anything,,and open to here anything,,but never do I want to make someone I don't know yet,,self contious about what THEY have to converse with me about,,,NOW,,later and a second, third, or forth conversations,,,and they SEEM TO REMAIN IN THEIR PASTS,,or KEEP TALKING MORE OF ME than I am comfortible with,,THEN,,I simply TELL UM WHATS UP,,with them NOT hearing me,,on that issue of talking ,,, And then we talk or don't again,,,lol I had a woman from here once who lost her fiance,,and he died suddenly and unexspecting,,that was a year before we were now talking,,and she said,,my voice reminded her of him,,and as we had several more conversations,,I felt she more loved my voice as HIS,,than she really felt ANY real thoughts of who I was as a man,,so we stopped talking after many tries of understand,,but,,o' well,, |
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If my laundry is dirty I am kicking Ruths aaaaaa$$
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If my laundry is dirty I am kicking Ruths aaaaaa$$ 
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As for airing dirty laundry... I see that as more bringing something up around other people, or on a site like this that should remain private. I think that's about interpretation...mine will differ from yours..as I stated, what some people feel comfortable disclosing about themselves will differ from person to person. I guess "c" I feel I revealed a lot about myself on here already. 
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I guess 'c'. I like to know what they think failed in their past relationships. I dont like goin on and on about misery, however. If they whine, I will try to cut the nite short or simply not agree to another date. i second that |
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Well, going with those choices probably a bit of both C & D. I admire people wanting to talk about themselves, but if you want to tell me everything about yourself in one sitting, it makes me nervous. I like the idea of actually conversing and learning about each other over time, what we each like, what makes us tick, our fears, hopes and dreams. I am in no hurry and do not feel anyone else should be either. I want to fall in love with the person, not be overwhelmed by them.
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How many times have you been in the very early stages of chatting to someone and they give you their whole life history in the first few exchanges..How do you react? Do you: a) Head running for the hills? b) Continue in the hopes that they are just nervous? c) Admire them for being open/honest? d) Tell them that it was WAY too much information? Personally, I would always choose D because I have found what information people are comfortable disclosing differs from person to person. In real life, people find me ridiculously easy to talk to. I would tend to encourage it (with some exceptions) because they often have no one else to talk to, and because the whole process of getting to know about someone can be fascinating. Exceptions would be things like insane or incoherent ramblings (this happens more often than I would have expected), pleas for money or clothing or kidneys, instantaneous presumption of impending marriage/kids/trip to Guatemala, etc. I wasn't aware of Guatemala as a honeymoon haven? Or was that not the reason for the trip request? |
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 How many times have you been in the very early stages of chatting to someone and they give you their whole life history in the first few exchanges..How do you react? Do you: a) Head running for the hills? b) Continue in the hopes that they are just nervous? c) Admire them for being open/honest? d) Tell them that it was WAY too much information? Personally, I would always choose D because I have found what information people are comfortable disclosing differs from person to person. these types of premature disclosures tend to make me rather uncomfortable - to me getting to know someone should be more like slowly peeling the layers of an onion than having their life history burst out of a bottle where the cork has been popped
What I would do is attempt to redirect the conversation and if that did not work neither would further dating and I might end the evening early. - nothing like that has ever happened so this is supposition, really |
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