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I have never stood anyone up but have been stood up a couple of times...I recently agreed to meet a guy that I met on another site.. He actually lived 1/2 mile away...(that almost never happens) We had talked a long time online and then agreed to meet at Wendys for lunch(not much in this small town).. He called about 1 hr before the meet to tell me he had reviewed my profile again and noticed I had a cat... He said he was sorry but he was deathly allergic to cats.. I was disappointed but better than having to call 911 at Wendys.. What luck..
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Edited by
Bravalady
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Sun 01/08/12 05:40 PM
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I have never stood anyone up, to the best of my memory. I did call at the very last minute and cancel a first date when I got cold feet. Then, next thing I knew, the guy showed up at my house anyway. And was holy hell to get rid of. He seriously believed that since he had driven a couple of hours to come over there, I was going to let him spend the night. Nope. You canceled last minute because you had cold feet, knowing he had to drive that far? I was the one who was going to drive. Then he took it upon himself without warning me. |
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sun 01/08/12 08:37 PM
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true so far as the information is exchanged - we had just got to talking and forgotten to get each other's numbers - I did have a phone at the time - just not a cell I dated someone recently who was FRANTIC cuz I didn't have a cell at the time (got my first cell phone about 3 mos ago believe it or not) anyway all I can figure is that he had been stood up a few times...but I did not and would not do that either and my answer was just with respect to dating - I had a boyfriend a few yrs ago who would blow me off from time to time and then he'd show up out of the blue all lovey dovey - it was the main thing that I eventually broke up with him for but he does not know that - I just told him I wasn't feelin it any more - truth was it was disrespectful and it was too stressful dealing with him being unreliable Did you ever tell him you thought it was disrespectful and stressful to deal with? no I did not tell him that at the time I broke up with him. And no I had not ever told him that - I told him several times that I was disappointed, and he did stop being unreliable - I have to give him credit - he really did change that aspect of himself, and that was great! We had an excellent communication when we were together - but not so much when we were apart |
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I have never stood anyone up, to the best of my memory. I did call at the very last minute and cancel a first date when I got cold feet. Then, next thing I knew, the guy showed up at my house anyway. And was holy hell to get rid of. He seriously believed that since he had driven a couple of hours to come over there, I was going to let him spend the night. Nope. You canceled last minute because you had cold feet, knowing he had to drive that far? I kinda thought the same thing - I had a guy drive an hour & a half to meet me - no way was he not invited to stay (but we had been talking for a really long time) |
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Have you ever been stood up? YES,,MANY TIMES AS TO BE MEETING ON THE ROAD FOR LUNCH. Have you ever stood anyone up? If so, what was your reasoning? I've had friends on here,,who have said I'D LOVE TO MEET YOU FOR SOME COFFEE OR LUNCH,SOMETIME,,then,, when I'm really close to where they live,,,POOF,,they do a vanishing act,,and no calls,,and no answers IF I try to call them? And THAT,,,is very discouraging,,when its been planned and I'm there,,looking and LIVING,,until I know whats uo,,or just say,,who knows and leave,,,But my thoughts have always been,,WHY would someone say SURE,,COOL,,and then,,NOT follow through with that,,and not bother to call me and say what happen? People are freaking nuts sometimes,,,and by the way here, Two of those were guys who were my friends on here,,so THAT even more makes no sense,,,,lol I could see a woman being shy,,or even maybe a little scared,,but a dude,,PLEASE....lol If anyone has the answers to THAT,,PLEASE,,open my eyes to them,,,, |
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true so far as the information is exchanged - we had just got to talking and forgotten to get each other's numbers - I did have a phone at the time - just not a cell I dated someone recently who was FRANTIC cuz I didn't have a cell at the time (got my first cell phone about 3 mos ago believe it or not) anyway all I can figure is that he had been stood up a few times...but I did not and would not do that either and my answer was just with respect to dating - I had a boyfriend a few yrs ago who would blow me off from time to time and then he'd show up out of the blue all lovey dovey - it was the main thing that I eventually broke up with him for but he does not know that - I just told him I wasn't feelin it any more - truth was it was disrespectful and it was too stressful dealing with him being unreliable Did you ever tell him you thought it was disrespectful and stressful to deal with? no I did not tell him that at the time I broke up with him. And no I had not ever told him that - I told him several times that I was disappointed, and he did stop being unreliable - I have to give him credit - he really did change that aspect of himself, and that was great! We had an excellent communication when we were together - but not so much when we were apart I always try to be honest with someone. If they're doing something repeatedly that has been disrespectful or caused me stress, I let them know. I'd expect the same from them. |
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Iv been stood up many times but only on these dating sites,what is the reasoning hmmm unknown. you're doing it wrong. Hey...you asked. |
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Iv been stood up many times but only on these dating sites,what is the reasoning hmmm unknown. you're doing it wrong. Hey...you asked. You're not doing it wrong. It happens to all of us. Whether we get stood up or people disappear. Men and women both do it. But, I do think it happens more when meeting people online. So, just be careful, keep trying and realize that finding the right person is going to take time and probably a little heartache. 
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I cant remember actually ever being stood up but have had guys cancel the last minute. Ive never stood anyone up and never would.
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true so far as the information is exchanged - we had just got to talking and forgotten to get each other's numbers - I did have a phone at the time - just not a cell I dated someone recently who was FRANTIC cuz I didn't have a cell at the time (got my first cell phone about 3 mos ago believe it or not) anyway all I can figure is that he had been stood up a few times...but I did not and would not do that either and my answer was just with respect to dating - I had a boyfriend a few yrs ago who would blow me off from time to time and then he'd show up out of the blue all lovey dovey - it was the main thing that I eventually broke up with him for but he does not know that - I just told him I wasn't feelin it any more - truth was it was disrespectful and it was too stressful dealing with him being unreliable Did you ever tell him you thought it was disrespectful and stressful to deal with? no I did not tell him that at the time I broke up with him. And no I had not ever told him that - I told him several times that I was disappointed, and he did stop being unreliable - I have to give him credit - he really did change that aspect of himself, and that was great! We had an excellent communication when we were together - but not so much when we were apart I always try to be honest with someone. If they're doing something repeatedly that has been disrespectful or caused me stress, I let them know. I'd expect the same from them. I guess when I was planning to break up I got past the point of going into it as I hate to argue...if things are constatnly coming up between us that we have to argue about I will put some distance between myself and that person - if it's a boyfriend I will friend zone him & distance myself - break up if I have to I won;t stay close in a relationship that is constant disappointments or arguing - as I will not argue |
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I cant stand the thought of being the cause of someone feeling hurt. I couldnt ever stand someone up. I just envision the whole scenario. I have been in the predicament of something causing me to be late. Totally out of my control, not apprehension, mind you. I had their cel number which I would recommend to anyone actually meeting for just that purpose. I texted them that I would be there in moments and I was so sorry for my lateness. I even hate being late. I worry they think it means Im not interested. Im sure it speaks to evaluating my character too. Hopefully, if the relationship moves forward, they will see that Im not habitually late. I was late once too -we were meeting half way in the middle of nowhere at a park facility in the mountains here and I got lost. He almost left but also he knew it would take me a long time to get there - once I got there it took me forever to find the meeting place he had described. Fortunately he came back around to check before leaving and there I was....leaving a message for him with the hostess.... |
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Iv been stood up many times but only on these dating sites,what is the reasoning hmmm unknown. you're doing it wrong. Hey...you asked. You're not doing it wrong. It happens to all of us. Whether we get stood up or people disappear. Men and women both do it. But, I do think it happens more when meeting people online. So, just be careful, keep trying and realize that finding the right person is going to take time and probably a little heartache.
Unfortunately, some people online are very flaky and seem to think that making plans with someone on a site like this does not need to have any follow through. |
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true so far as the information is exchanged - we had just got to talking and forgotten to get each other's numbers - I did have a phone at the time - just not a cell I dated someone recently who was FRANTIC cuz I didn't have a cell at the time (got my first cell phone about 3 mos ago believe it or not) anyway all I can figure is that he had been stood up a few times...but I did not and would not do that either and my answer was just with respect to dating - I had a boyfriend a few yrs ago who would blow me off from time to time and then he'd show up out of the blue all lovey dovey - it was the main thing that I eventually broke up with him for but he does not know that - I just told him I wasn't feelin it any more - truth was it was disrespectful and it was too stressful dealing with him being unreliable Did you ever tell him you thought it was disrespectful and stressful to deal with? no I did not tell him that at the time I broke up with him. And no I had not ever told him that - I told him several times that I was disappointed, and he did stop being unreliable - I have to give him credit - he really did change that aspect of himself, and that was great! We had an excellent communication when we were together - but not so much when we were apart I always try to be honest with someone. If they're doing something repeatedly that has been disrespectful or caused me stress, I let them know. I'd expect the same from them. I guess when I was planning to break up I got past the point of going into it as I hate to argue...if things are constatnly coming up between us that we have to argue about I will put some distance between myself and that person - if it's a boyfriend I will friend zone him & distance myself - break up if I have to I won;t stay close in a relationship that is constant disappointments or arguing - as I will not argue I wasn't saying to stay in a relationship with someone who is constantly disappointing you. I was just saying I prefer honesty about what's going on. |
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Iv been stood up many times but only on these dating sites,what is the reasoning hmmm unknown. you're doing it wrong. Hey...you asked. You're not doing it wrong. It happens to all of us. Whether we get stood up or people disappear. Men and women both do it. But, I do think it happens more when meeting people online. So, just be careful, keep trying and realize that finding the right person is going to take time and probably a little heartache.
I haven't had too much problem with it - but I also haven't accepted many dates recently either - so not a lot of basis lately for comparison - I guess I had talked to most of the guys for awhile so thre was a connection of friendship there, and I think that helps I wonder if that happens more often when people decide to meet after just one or 2 conversations..? |
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true so far as the information is exchanged - we had just got to talking and forgotten to get each other's numbers - I did have a phone at the time - just not a cell I dated someone recently who was FRANTIC cuz I didn't have a cell at the time (got my first cell phone about 3 mos ago believe it or not) anyway all I can figure is that he had been stood up a few times...but I did not and would not do that either and my answer was just with respect to dating - I had a boyfriend a few yrs ago who would blow me off from time to time and then he'd show up out of the blue all lovey dovey - it was the main thing that I eventually broke up with him for but he does not know that - I just told him I wasn't feelin it any more - truth was it was disrespectful and it was too stressful dealing with him being unreliable Did you ever tell him you thought it was disrespectful and stressful to deal with? no I did not tell him that at the time I broke up with him. And no I had not ever told him that - I told him several times that I was disappointed, and he did stop being unreliable - I have to give him credit - he really did change that aspect of himself, and that was great! We had an excellent communication when we were together - but not so much when we were apart I always try to be honest with someone. If they're doing something repeatedly that has been disrespectful or caused me stress, I let them know. I'd expect the same from them. I guess when I was planning to break up I got past the point of going into it as I hate to argue...if things are constatnly coming up between us that we have to argue about I will put some distance between myself and that person - if it's a boyfriend I will friend zone him & distance myself - break up if I have to I won;t stay close in a relationship that is constant disappointments or arguing - as I will not argue I wasn't saying to stay in a relationship with someone who is constantly disappointing you. I was just saying I prefer honesty about what's going on. yes I understood. and I agree, I prefer knowing what is going on too. It's just at that point we were breaking up anyway, I am honest with people. I think it's best. I am not certain that he was honest with me - I tend to try to work on communication when I like the person (or man), but as soon as I see red flags I will become pretty tight lipped.... |
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Iv been stood up many times but only on these dating sites,what is the reasoning hmmm unknown. you're doing it wrong. Hey...you asked. You're not doing it wrong. It happens to all of us. Whether we get stood up or people disappear. Men and women both do it. But, I do think it happens more when meeting people online. So, just be careful, keep trying and realize that finding the right person is going to take time and probably a little heartache.
I haven't had too much problem with it - but I also haven't accepted many dates recently either - so not a lot of basis lately for comparison - I guess I had talked to most of the guys for awhile so thre was a connection of friendship there, and I think that helps I wonder if that happens more often when people decide to meet after just one or 2 conversations..? The last guy who stood me up was one that I didn't know well. The other two, I had already been out with and had a good time. |
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Unfortunately, some people online are very flaky and seem to think that making plans with someone on a site like this does not need to have any follow through. I think thats true. I think some people dont understand that they are talking to actual people. Maybe they are just practicing to see if they can get someone to agree to meet them. Confidence booster. Mission accomplished. No need to interact further. I think they are terribly misguided. I have seen that mentioned on here before - that we are talking to "actual people" how could they not know this? I mean, maybe it's because my family is such a bunch of computer nuts, but...I just don't see how people could NOT realize this |
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I cant stand the thought of being the cause of someone feeling hurt. I couldnt ever stand someone up. I just envision the whole scenario. I have been in the predicament of something causing me to be late. Totally out of my control, not apprehension, mind you. I had their cel number which I would recommend to anyone actually meeting for just that purpose. I texted them that I would be there in moments and I was so sorry for my lateness. I even hate being late. I worry they think it means Im not interested. Im sure it speaks to evaluating my character too. Hopefully, if the relationship moves forward, they will see that Im not habitually late. I was late once too -we were meeting half way in the middle of nowhere at a park facility in the mountains here and I got lost. He almost left but also he knew it would take me a long time to get there - once I got there it took me forever to find the meeting place he had described. Fortunately he came back around to check before leaving and there I was....leaving a message for him with the hostess.... Cool. I hope he caught you leaving the message. Excellent character in my book. I would be impressed. no I don't think he did, but the hostess said something about it when we went in |
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Unfortunately, some people online are very flaky and seem to think that making plans with someone on a site like this does not need to have any follow through. I think thats true. I think some people dont understand that they are talking to actual people. Maybe they are just practicing to see if they can get someone to agree to meet them. Confidence booster. Mission accomplished. No need to interact further. I think they are terribly misguided. I have seen that mentioned on here before - that we are talking to "actual people" how could they not know this? I mean, maybe it's because my family is such a bunch of computer nuts, but...I just don't see how people could NOT realize this I don't know. I get the feeling that some people don't take sites like this seriously, though, as if it's not quite real. |
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Hate being stood up its for many reasons one guy told me guys get nervous thats why they dont turn up.hate when they leave you waiting dont text let you know your cold dissapointed and upset i always show up its politeness
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