ugh you guys i just dunno anymore! sometimes life really sucks!!! i want to do the right thing but at the same time im afraid!! some of u already know this story but see my bf was hurt pretty bad in iraq the first time...hes been in the army for like 10 years to him its more like a way of life hes got the opportunity to quit and secretly i really want him to because i came so close to losing him but at the same time i dont want to be selfish so i've kept my mouth shut but its really getting hard on top of that hes talkin about wantin to go back over there when hes better!

He may want to go back to finish what he started, to join his fellow soldiers, fight next to them, and to maybe show the insurgents that they may have hurt him, but he is back. Its the whole pride issue. He is a soldier and a man. Pride is at the heart of the issue. My ex fiance was in Iraq when the war first started, he was killed. Not a day went by that I wasn't wishing him home he had a chance to get out as well, but I knew that he would not be happy unless he stayed in the military. He was in the Navy Shore Patrol, basically an MP. A sniper killed him. Just pray, and let God do the rest. Hope this helps. Its a tough situation.

it helps a little but it seems the more i pray the more im ignored and i dont really have a lot of friends to help me through it which makes it harder it just scares me so much because i know what they did to him and it could happen again you know but if i say somethin he might think i don't believe in him which i do more than he'll ever realize and by the way im very sorry for your loss

ty, To help myself in the time he was there. I tried to always remain positive, I kept a calender and counted down the days until he would come home. That helped for the most part.

This is a really depressing thread...but Desiree..just keep praying...God DOES HEAR butjust answers in HIS own time...good luck!!

oops.sorry that was for shy princess..

I know you love him and want him with you.but it is up to him
pray and God will watch over him and all the others.

i did that the first time but still my dang anxiety would trip me up this disability makes it 10000 times worse all my family can say is well then you shouldnt have gotten with him its your fault but what was i supposed to say? im sorry i love u but i cant be with you because your a soldier and if u ever go anywhere i'll freak because of my anxiety caused by my disability? i think not! sometimes i do think i dont belong with him though i dunno its just..its hard

gee hawaii im terribly sorry that my fear is depressing you!

Sometimes your family doesn't know whats best for you. If you love him and want to be with him then, keep the faith and know that he will do everything within his power to come home to you. Thats all that you can ask for.

yea your right listen im sorry for bein such a whiner i feel kinda stupid

Don't be sometimes it helps to talk about things. It gets things out into the open.

yea still i realllly wish he'd stay

shyprincess...I would talk to him and let him know excactly how I felt about it...listen to him and hear him out about how he feels....Both of you weigh each option....But leave the final decision up to him.....as hard as that may be...It has to be his decision, or he would always wonder ..what if...

communicate with each other
he has a right to know your fears and your feelings
he can not read your mind
what if he thinks that is what you want??

Shyprincess...you misunderstood what i was trying to say....I said THE THREAD was depressing ....not your FEAR... the stories are sad and I feel for you guys..that was all...sorry about the misunderstanding....i hope all works out well..take care..aloha!!