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Topic: Nerves
MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 12/12/11 06:00 PM
This topic is hopefully ageless. Does anybody get nervous or shy when they first meet someone in person? Is it normal to react that way even if you've gotten to know them online comfortably? Its just different online. Not everyone is looking at me, you know I'm not being scanned by their eyes. Are first dates always like this? What's your experiences on this?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 12/12/11 06:05 PM
no I do not get nervous in this situation

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Mon 12/12/11 06:06 PM
I hear that it is normal. And seems we can talk for ages online and the person isn't always who we had in mind when meeting. I have never been nervous. I figure they like me or they don't. I am myself and very relaxed when meeting others, whether it be meeting a friend I have met online, or a stranger here in town. Be yourself, and you can't go wrong. If they don't like who you are, their loss.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 12/12/11 06:07 PM
zzzzactly

patsfan64 Joined Fri 03/14/08 Posts: 1258	Mon 12/12/11 06:14 PM
I used to be nervous about being rejected but have become very comfortable just being myself and enjoying the experience. First dates can be a lot of fun!

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 12/12/11 06:14 PM
I've heard of guys saying its endearing if a girl is shy or humble. Then other times I hear because the girl isn't confident or kind of quiet, the guy can interpret that as she doesn't know what she wants. I feel like guys judge so much on the first impression without giving another chance. They want someone to be "WOW! that's the girl I want in my life." I'm just me. I mean, its nuts to judge someone based on one meeting. Especially if it went well, you know? Well enough to do it again and try something else next time. Unless of course the date was SO bad, for a number of reasons. Ugh, so confusin

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 12/12/11 06:19 PM
if things go pretty well, and there's only one date - it means he was looking to score and nothing else - most likely

patsfan64 Joined Fri 03/14/08 Posts: 1258	Mon 12/12/11 06:20 PM
Becoming friends first takes a lot of that anxiety away.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Mon 12/12/11 06:21 PM Edited by iam4u on Mon 12/12/11 06:22 PM
One MIGHT not see it,,or feel it,,but I KNOW IT!!! I will ALWAYS be very nervous the first five to ten minutes of meeting ANYONE.....Its a ME thing,,,but YES,,I DO,,But seldom can anyone really feel that from me,,,pssssst,I cover it,,REALLY WELL! <----through this,,,,,,

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 12/12/11 06:21 PM
if the whole friends thing is honest, yes

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Mon 12/12/11 06:22 PM
I've heard of guys saying its endearing if a girl is shy or humble. Then other times I hear because the girl isn't confident or kind of quiet, the guy can interpret that as she doesn't know what she wants. I feel like guys judge so much on the first impression without giving another chance. They want someone to be "WOW! that's the girl I want in my life." I'm just me. I mean, its nuts to judge someone based on one meeting. Especially if it went well, you know? Well enough to do it again and try something else next time. Unless of course the date was SO bad, for a number of reasons. Ugh, so confusin As I said...be yourself and you can't go wrong.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 12/12/11 06:22 PM
Once again:

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 12/12/11 06:36 PM
Becoming friends first takes a lot of that anxiety away. I tend to get friendly before. Getting to know them does take away being so redicent.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 12/12/11 06:43 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Mon 12/12/11 06:44 PM
Once again: zzactly love me some glove great picture

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Mon 12/12/11 06:46 PM
Becoming friends first takes a lot of that anxiety away. I tend to get friendly before. Getting to know them does take away being so redicent. If you have talked to them for awhile, the easiest thing to do is give them a big hug when you first see them...it will put you both at ease...works every time

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 12/12/11 06:55 PM
If you have talked to them for awhile, the easiest thing to do is give them a big hug when you first see them...it will put you both at ease...works every time Yeah I like doing those things to break the ice. But some guys, you know, in getting to know them, online they're this way, and when you meet them, they just look so scared of you. Like the vibe I'm getting. But I love giving hugs.

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Mon 12/12/11 06:59 PM
Never know...might just get one back

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 12/12/11 07:07 PM
I think I did that with one guy and I think he was surprised I did it and hugged me back even tighter.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 12/12/11 08:30 PM
Being a little nervous is normal. When I've met people from here, I was a little nervous leading up to it, but once we met, I realized they were the same person I got to know here and the nerves went away.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 12/12/11 08:30 PM
Becoming friends first takes a lot of that anxiety away. I tend to get friendly before. Getting to know them does take away being so redicent. If you have talked to them for awhile, the easiest thing to do is give them a big hug when you first see them...it will put you both at ease...works every time Actually, this works pretty well!