Well, I'm sure this has been discussed but is there really a game men and women play with each other in order to prolong a relationship?

Specifically I want to know why men have to CHASE a woman in order for him be at all interested? Why does it have to be so one-sided? Its very confusing to me because I am a woman who shows it when I like someone or tell them in any way I can. But I guess that can scare most men away purely because A: they're not mature enough and B: they don't believe in love until someone naturally amazing comes along and LEAVES their a$$ one day.

I wish men wouldn't play these games and I hope there aren't a lot of good, true men who think and believe this to be their lives. If true, then its setting yourself as this big heart breaker and that's not an attractive quality.

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You will note that in none of my pictures am I holding up a fish.

I do have one somewhere in which I'm holding up a little rubber stegosaurus, but that was intended to be satirical. And I didn't spend $7000 on a boat and poles and worms and sonar devices to catch the little rubber stegosaurus. I spent about two bucks at the dollar store.

Well, I'm sure this has been discussed but is there really a game men and women play with each other in order to prolong a relationship?

Specifically I want to know why men have to CHASE a woman in order for him be at all interested? Why does it have to be so one-sided? Its very confusing to me because I am a woman who shows it when I like someone or tell them in any way I can. But I guess that can scare most men away purely because A: they're not mature enough and B: they don't believe in love until someone naturally amazing comes along and LEAVES their a$$ one day.

I wish men wouldn't play these games and I hope there aren't a lot of good, true men who think and believe this to be their lives. If true, then its setting yourself as this big heart breaker and that's not an attractive quality.

I agree with you that it is not mature if they feel threatened by a woman that shows interest in them. To be fair; women also play the game of toying with a man's heart. I think I would be totally shocked if a man and woman were to act adult enough to discuss what they really want out of a relationship. Myself; I hold nothing back and say it like it is and yep the run for the hills. I never did get why the game playing but I thinks its either society or just the mentality that both men and womem have.

Navygirl,

I am always me. I will after weeks of knowing a guy have him tell me "this is how it's going to be". I say "excuse me but did you meet me more than five minutes ago?" My ex says "have them call me, I could save them a lot of time telling them what happened the last time a man told you that" LOL

You know that is how it should be. That is what I would call a mature response. I often wonder if people aren't influenced by their peers on how to act around the opposite sex. I know that sounds silly as we should be mature enough to figure this out for ourselves. An example is I have been told my both men and women to act dumb so I can meet a guy. This makes him feel good about himself and he would be attracted to me. To me; I am playing mind games with the man if I am to act like a completely different person. I never understood this kind of mentality.

I am incredibly naive and sheltered in some ways and then have an IQ of 170 and all Bs and As in college. But I am a social idiot so I am incredibly hard to deal with and I don't hideit. I mean I try not to pizz everyone off but if you want the PC gf you pretty much learn in 3 seconds that is not me. Like if you want the gf who can use the chemical dictionary, that's me. If you want the gf who will never mention her exs or always say the right thing at the right time, not me.

I don't think you are a social idiot. I think its hard to know what expectations another has. I don't consider myself a social idiot but I am stunned when a guy says I can't date you because you know too much. Again; it goes back to the expectation that I am supposed to be dumb and incapable of doing anything myself. This is what men require me to be like but I am too stubborn to be anything other than myself.

I cannot count the number of guys who have gone off on me for talking about other guys. I live near Point Mugu and the See Bee base. I know more military and vets than you can count. I a "baby girl" to half the Navy. I am basically a good kid and they protect me as such. Ranging from 40 - 75 year old. I have given up on not mentioning my guy friends. I have learned to say friend friend that helps. If I say friend they think that implies more, if I say he's a friend friend that seems to temper it a little.

Well, I'm sure this has been discussed but is there really a game men and women play with each other in order to prolong a relationship?

Specifically I want to know why men have to CHASE a woman in order for him be at all interested? Why does it have to be so one-sided? Its very confusing to me because I am a woman who shows it when I like someone or tell them in any way I can. But I guess that can scare most men away purely because A: they're not mature enough and B: they don't believe in love until someone naturally amazing comes along and LEAVES their a$$ one day.

I wish men wouldn't play these games and I hope there aren't a lot of good, true men who think and believe this to be their lives. If true, then its setting yourself as this big heart breaker and that's not an attractive quality.

I play games. Role playing, board, video, etc. I do not like the word GAMES in relationships as a GAME player for fun, there is ALWAYS A LOSER that is the nature of a game.