I feel like for the most part most men just LIE without batting an eyelash. I'd like someone out there to make sense of this please.

It really boils my blood to think a man would just get away with lying about the fact that he's in a committed relationship. Not really sure how long he's been with her but I am JUST starting to get to know this guy and now he tells me he is taken and only wants a FWB. Makes me really hate it that I'm straight sometimes. It'd be so easy to settle just to keep him around but its so wrong, I'm never doing that again.

lying is easy.
as a compulsive liar,
it's really easy to get away with it because people don't have reason to believe it's false.

Sorry to hear that you were used and abused... humans, go figure, huh? They're rather inhumane.
Not all are like that though.
Give 'em a chance. Keep tryin', okay..

Hi & Welcome, too.

I can understand how it can make you hate that you are straight. She is probably a wonderful lady that he is being away from when he spends time with you. The chances are good that you and her already have something in common which is him. Since you already have that in common it might be interesting to find out what else you two have in common.

Yeah it comes from being so damn trusting over the years. Because I really don't think people lie and when they do I get shocked all over again. Its like a cycle. I only wish people weren't so willing to treat people this way and just be honest for once. I value honesty above all else. If I'm ugly, then tell me (well don't, we hate that), you know if you aren't looking for the same things TELL ME. If you're already in a relationship and you know point blank thats what I ultimately want, then omg tell me. Wow.

This happens a lot.

That's why it's SO important to know as much as you can (realistically) about someone before things go too far.

And I have found it's just as bad in real life as it is on line. The difference being that sometimes it's a little easier to look into things in real life.

I always recommend some healthy skepticism. There may be some decent people out there, but they're well-hidden.

I sort of already said goodbye to the guy. A little too late for that. Plus he lied there is that. And once they lie, they're out. Too many people just lie already. Enough is enough. Surround yourself with people who will treat you will respect and honesty. That's my MO.

Ahhh, you are a trusting, romantic...
fool.
You'll fit in well here.
Stay true to yourself, hun.
Best of luck.

Yeah the thing is I only had just a handful of conversations with the guy. Never really gotten to know him as a person. Then all of a sudden he sprouts this bit of info and I was about to scream out of frustration into my computer. Thanks for wasting my time buddy. Truly appreciate it. Its every girl's dream to be lied to.

Decent people exist, I know this. The trick is peeling back the layers and see what happens next.

Well I agree with that much. Some days I don't know you know? I feel like its my fault for not being careful enough. I was so close to giving him my # too. It got that heavy. I started to really like him because I am highly attracted to intelligence. Ah well, you learn so many things in life. Its just sad that the more you get hurt, your trust starts to decrease to point of not trying anything anymore.

Thanks for the welcome in the midst of crazy/drama life. :)

Thanks. I know I am fool. And its too bad for that! lol

Aww, sweetie... you are welcome for the welcome.
"tis not your FAULT though... just life, right?
Careful/scared... what's the difference, huh?
You tried and succeeded in that... be proud.
And you learned something too!! Whatta gal you are.

Okay, you're hurt. Welcome (again) to Mingle.
Balls to the wall, baby...
make the boyz cry.

I am sorry to hear that. You missed out on a possible women's support group. Where I live they love to compare notes. It is like, "So that lying cheating bastard is now cheating on you. I wonder who he will cheat on next." My friend who used to work here had this happen to her. The guy was complaining how the one he left her for was hard to live with. She said, "Don't come complaining to me. If you weren't such a lying cheating bastard to begin with maybe you wouldn't have that problem."

It's not just men, dear. I have watched as married or committed women lie and cheat too. Today's generations just don't care to know the meaning of respect. Especially since the divorce rate is so high. Too easy to get a divorce. People treat marriage as a joke now.

Haha, I don't think I have the capability of making boys cry. Who knows. I may leave one who I think may be falling for me and find him running to me @ the airport telling me don't go. Sorry I cliched that, was the first thought that popped up. Thanks again!

Good thing the bloke never got me to cheat with him. It truly changes everything. I really don't believe in open relationships either. I guess being an old soul isn't the norm of today's world. Huh? Who knew?

This guy, just to add a little tidbit, said the girl he's in a relationship with never gave him a happy. And he picked me, wow. His opening email was a little strange too. The Subject line said "You're the Best" even before I viewed or said hi to the guy. And he also admited that he googled me. Which I find extremely stalkerish and weird as frick. lol Ladies do you agree? I mean, whatever happened to just having conversations? You go, I go?

you're the best

Sad reality. Just hits you inbetween the eyes when it happens specifically to you.