I have been through several different cunselling sessions with my ex-wife, and I can telly ou that some of it made quite a lot of sense.
The first thing, is teaching people how to effectively communicate.
First and foremost yuo have to remember the other person CAN NOT READ YOUR MIND. So even if you think it is obviious you have to tell them what you are thinking about.
Second is you have to learnt o listen. And I mean really listen, not just wait for a sudden silence.
Here is a good way to go about it. And we used what is called "the floor". It can be abything you want to use, but whoever is holding it is the only one allowed to talk; period.

1. person A gets the floor. Person b shuts up, and LISTENS.
2. Person A says ONE thing and stops, then gives floor to
person B.
3. Person B paraphrases back what person A said, then states
their opinion on the matter. After this they give the
floor back to person A.

This is a very simple three step p[rocess, yes but MOST people forget to follow it when they are upset. Try it sometime and you willsee a major differance and probablylearn a lot.

I dunno holding my breath and plugging my ears has always worked for me!

And if that doesn't work, try brats and bananas.

fingers in ears .. LALALALALALALA!!!!

<--- threatens to bend stahns over his knee (or rather the couch mwahahaha)

lalalalallalala

haha

It sounds good, but after 2 divorces, I wish I had every second of my life back that I spent in marriage counseling, for all the good it did.

I am no neccesarilly advocating marriage counselinghere, however I AM advocating open communication, and learnign HOW to communicate.