i don't know how or who to trust.
teach me how to do it.
thanks.
(:

Ya gotta say the magic words!

the magic words.

its not safe to trust anyone, to be honest with you....

oh.
well that's comforting.
haha.

sorry, reality bites.....cant trust anyone but yourself. But its nice to have people around so what can ya do----

well what i don't get is how people always tell me that silence kills.
i'm not suppose to keep everything all bottled up or whatnot.
who do i tell though?
the people who tell me to talk are the same ones who don't want to listen.
i guess i'll keep talking to the people in my head.

Girl, this is why i joined mingle. I just posted a site for 2kids mom too. I go there for something else but its a site with every support group. When your family and friends are not there for you...it helps to talk anonymously sometimes, get things off your chest and talk with people who are in similiar situations.

Trust is earned, so basically you cant really trust to begin with, you can hope.
But trust is knowing you are safe with a person, that you can just be who you are.
There are very few people who I know personally that I trust, normally because they will talk about someone else or just not make me feel safe with thme..

I guess the first thing is trusting yourself to be able to see who genuinly likes you for who you are..

And migle is my spot where I can just be me,

yeah.
i post stuff on other sites,
but it only seems to help for a bit.
maybe it'd be the same with humans though.
i don't know.
i was kind of hoping it would be better.

It will get better as you get older...there will always be an obstacle in ones path. Each time you step over it you gain something new and continue on. if you need to talk, you can always write me

thanks.
and not be an *** or anything,
but if i had a dollar for each time someone said that,
i'd be a rich motha ****a.
haha.
i don't really believe it gets better as you get older.
you're just dying.
damn.
aren't i just a little ray of sunshine.
haha.

well to an extent a portion of that is right. Things do get better as you get older, because you are wiser and able to ***** the situation better. There will always be a situation, but as you get older you are USED to handling situation, so it does get easier. not to say it goes away, it gets easier. Like walking up the same hill evryday, by day 21 it's a breeze....endurance!

i don't think i want to get used to it.
getting used to it seems a little sad.

What kind of trust are we talking about?

I've learned not to rely on other people to be competent. There are precious few really competent people, and if I place too much of that kind of 'trust' in people, I am always let down. Its cool though, I just lower my expectations and do more things for myself.

I can't trust anyone else to never lie to me, because everyone I've ever really gotten to know was lying to themselves about something (and therefore lying to me about it). Its cool, though, I just become more objective about it and accept that I never really know. I have known people who never lied to me -on purpose-. I really appreciate them.


I've learned that there are very, very few people who I can trust to be appropriately discrete. Its cool though - discretion begins with me. I've learned to be smart about what I share with everyone.

There are so many other kinds of trust; trusting people to be there for you when you need them, trusting people to not steal from you, etc.

I've learned to trust people to be themselves, and to not expect them to be otherwise. Once you've come to know someone well enough, you can start to trust them to follow their own values - which means you can trust them a lot in some areas, and very little in other areas.


What kind of trust are you talking about?

Like I said, Reality BITES--

Dang i cant believe they blocked out the word, aszess--(uh-sess) because the form of the donkey butt was in the spelling. Retarded.

simple trust.
plain, 100% trust.
i think i'd trust a good human.
good humans won't **** you over.
they won't steal from you.
they won't lie to you.
[well they won't tell lies that will hurt you.]
they won't ignore you.
bla.
bla.
bla.
that's the best i can do at explaining it.

First part of trust is tru-----------------TH....
look for TRUTH in ANYONE you want to befriend...then at least you know its not a CON-JOB from the get go
AND ANY MISSED TID BITS FROM THEM,,,IS A BIG FLAG!

and just to be saying here,,
NEVER TRUST ANYONE WHO DOESN'T ALLOW YOU TO SEE ALL OF THEIR FACE,


OH,,,and make SURE they have MANY pic's WITH their fave showing in them,,,and I MIGHT even ASK them to send ME A RECENT ONE,,,just because THAT SHOULDN'T be an issue?

Your 20,,YOU NEED TO BE ALWAYS ON GAURD,,,lots of FREAKS run this NET!

Thats,,like,,,lol,,the BAD FREAKS,,,not that cool,,sexy FREAKS,,ok?,,lol But their all here TO......

Just have fun and meet no one alone w/o someone seeing you both,,,even IF its just a short look,,,for THATS something to go by,,,IF you never are seen again.... just saying...
Good luck and be safe and STILL,,have a great time on here.
HEARTS that open all the way,,,seem to get crushed easier??
YOU have all the time in the world to find the right one who really CAN CARE about YOU....

Place trust in yourself! (to handle whatever happens)

i wasn't really talking about trusting people online.
all you people are creepers.
haha.
i'm not looking for 'the one' either.
i'm talking about basic human relationships.
i'm starting to think those will remain in my imagination though.
might be better that way.
and i guess i can't trust myself either.
i can't see my face.
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