Why is it such a crime for a woman to be about her man today? Why does she have to be more into her friends and running around town than spending time with her man? I don't get it, when im with someone i want to be with them all the time, i can't seem to find anyone who shares this

Not generalizing anything nor pointing fingers but I'm honestly
Finding the same problem with men .. Eventually I gave up

Maybe the girls your interested in aren't necessarily the ones
You should date
A woman who likes partying is way different than the girl who will
Say home and read a book ?
See my point ?

I think that down to earth means something different to me. I view down to earth as someone that is honest, hard working, kind and giving. Someone that is wise to the ways of the world and still knows how to say it like it is with a soft, caring voice.

Still, finding someone that wants to spend as much time with you that you want to spend with them takes time. When the right woman comes along you will share your dreams and goals. There will be no time for everynight gal pals and going out stag. The right person for you will be willing to travel the same path as you because you both have same goals... to carve a life together. Other wise all other gals are just wrong. jmo

In my experience, its the men who have behaved this way. Needing to be with their friends or their boys as much as they were before we met. But its not to say women cant also be this same way. Not everyone wants to spend every moment with a signifcant other, its just about finding compatible partners who DO want the same things from a relationship.

I would only want to spend the majority of the time with my BEST FRIEND. Too often, our partner is second to whomever our 'best friend' is,,and that can cause problems. Not so much if your partner IS your best friend though.

I cant spend ALL My time with anyone at this point, and many people cant because they have families and friends and others who they have to SPLIT their time between and that should not be cause for alarm. I know that I have CHILDREN who still need quality time with their mom, and I have a big family who I like to keep a part of my life.


I too dont get why anyone in a healthy relationship would prefer to 'hang out' with persons other than their partner on a lengthy basis. I tend to INCLUDE my partner when Im out,, but some need to get away. Everyone is different, and thats not such a bad thing.

Yes you make a very good point, but why is it so hard to find the ones who will stay home and read? Where do you meet them? They aren't out anywhere to be met ya know?

Yes i have heard this before, and tho i agree with it, im tired of waiting

That's because we are at home reading. Not out on the town.

This is a problem for both sexes. It seems that it no longer cool to be "in love" and being proud of the fact that your happy in your relationship. I know me personaly- when in a relationship, I usually want to spend as much time as possible. I mean some time apart is healthy-- But didn't you get into a relationship for a reason?

You don't think that your woman should have a life outside of you or that you have one outside of her?

my point exactly ...

So, what you're looking for is a woman who will only spend time with you and no one else? Do you want her to give up her friends and activities she enjoys? Don't you have friends you want to spend time with as well?

Try a bookstore?

Yes i know, so hard to meet you though. Can't just go knocking on doors hoping to run into you ya know?

I believe when your with someone there is no my life/her life, there is only our life

then maybe you should message me

So you don't spend time with any of your friends you had before the relationship? You don't ever do anything on your own?

I feel differently about that. I couldn't date someone who didn't have his own life as well. I'd wonder about him if he just dropped his friends the minute he got into a relationship. And if he told me to do the same, that would be a huge red flag.

lol thanks for the offer hun, but i don't think you are my type

Oh I know I'm not. But it was worth a shot.

True true, and mostly i'm looking for someone who lives closer to me as you are pretty far away

Very true. But there is nothing wrong with a friendship.