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Get the hell out of my face. I talk nice to people cause I want to. There is nothing between you and me so keep your crap for the next guy you are gonna make miserable. We owe nothing to each other. I gave an honest opinion. Save your condescending b!tching for someone else. Whoa. A little grumpy tonight, Krupa? This doesn't fit with your talking nice to people, does it? I created this thread to get opinions, yet you don't like mine, so you come in here telling me to get out of your face? Yes, that makes much sense. You're welcome to your opinion, just as I am welcome to mine. You can call people whatever you want. Others can like it or dislike it. Just because we don't all feel the same as you, there's no need to be condescending and talk down to those who don't. I'm certainly not telling you what to call people. I'm just giving my opinion on the use (over use) of these terms. |
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I dated someone once who ALWAYS used things like sweetie, honey and so on. But, that's how he was with everyone. It wasn't special at all. I would have preferred him using my own name, which would have meant more, since used those names with everyone. Yep, it becomes obvious when they don't mean it genuinely. And that's why I'm not a fan of using these terms all the time. Those who do are not genuine about it. Being called the same thing that they call everyone else isn't a great thing. How about your family? Do they use them? Mine don't but my family is weird anyway. My family doesn't really use them. If it's someone I'm close to, I'm ok with it for the most part. But, I really don't know a lot of people who use them all the time. So, when I meet people who do, it's always really weird. you look like mona lisa in that picture! She sure does. |
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It is all in the delivery. I have to disagree that it's all in the delivery. It may help, but it's not going to make me not roll my eyes when someone overuses them. Then you don't have the slightest clue. You said it yourself...You don't use terms of endearment in your family. We do. I will go on experience on this one instead of someone who was raised without using affectionate terms regularly. Your family ripped you off by not talking to you better. Probably why you keep trying to talk down to people. I don't think singmesweet had you in mind when she voiced her opinion. It was her general experience. Was it really that bad? Krupa... come on now. |
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I dated someone once who ALWAYS used things like sweetie, honey and so on. But, that's how he was with everyone. It wasn't special at all. I would have preferred him using my own name, which would have meant more, since used those names with everyone. Yep, it becomes obvious when they don't mean it genuinely. And that's why I'm not a fan of using these terms all the time. Those who do are not genuine about it. Being called the same thing that they call everyone else isn't a great thing. How about your family? Do they use them? Mine don't but my family is weird anyway. My family doesn't really use them. If it's someone I'm close to, I'm ok with it for the most part. But, I really don't know a lot of people who use them all the time. So, when I meet people who do, it's always really weird. you look like mona lisa in that picture! She sure does. haha. Never heard that one before! But, thanks ladies. |
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I don't think singmesweet had you in mind when she voiced her opinion. It was her general experience. Was it really that bad? Krupa... come on now. You are correct. I was talking in general. I'm not trying to offend anyone here. Just wanted to see what peoples' opinions were. I get that things are much different in different parts of the country and even just with different people. We're not all going to agree, though. What works for one, may not work for others, so it's silly to get offended about this. |
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I grew up in AZ and spent the majority of my Adult Life moving around from place to place with my ex . .Co,Az,Id,Or,Wa I never really used pet names except for my kids. Then I moved to Texas :) Everyone here calls people hon or sweetie or baby. . . and the kids are taught to say yes mamm and yes sir, its just apart of their culture and I love it. :) |
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In Turkey, where I was born everyone calls each other as if they were relatives and family. Depending on the age and gender, taxi drivers, merchants, practically everybody would call total strangers, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, sir etc...
When it becomes a cultural custom it's hard to say if they are still considered endearment. |
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I grew up in AZ and spent the majority of my Adult Life moving around from place to place with my ex . .Co,Az,Id,Or,Wa I never really used pet names except for my kids. Then I moved to Texas :) Everyone here calls people hon or sweetie or baby. . . and the kids are taught to say yes mamm and yes sir, its just apart of their culture and I love it. :) |
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Are you the one person in Texas who doesn't use them?
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Are you the one person in Texas who doesn't use them? |
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Are you the one person in Texas who doesn't use them? |
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Are you the one person in Texas who doesn't use them? |
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Are you the one person in Texas who doesn't use them? |
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Are you the one person in Texas who doesn't use them? |
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It is all in the delivery. I have to disagree that it's all in the delivery. It may help, but it's not going to make me not roll my eyes when someone overuses them. Then you don't have the slightest clue. You said it yourself...You don't use terms of endearment in your family. We do. I will go on experience on this one instead of someone who was raised without using affectionate terms regularly. Your family ripped you off by not talking to you better. Probably why you keep trying to talk down to people. And you're talking down to me because your family talked to you better? Uh huh. For me I love it, but its not so much about how its delivered, but by who, There are people who call me sweety love gorgeous blah blah blah and it is just a term that they use and its natural, these ones i really enjoy as its just friendly and nice.. Then there are a few who are slimey and it doesnt matter how or what they say, it always seeems like they are looking through your clothes and wanting to jump on you.. So i guess for me I rarely call people by their names, I just call them whatever fits, depending how gooda friend they are. And really I am only ever called by my name if its someone trying to sell me something, or someone is going crook on me.. The rest of the time it is just terms of endearments, very few of our customers would think to use my name, just love, darlin or sweety, ITS Normal here. |
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Yes, it's definitely by who that's more important for me. The same goes for nicknames. It's a familiarity thing.
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