well I guess we have to ask the professor how to get there first..."Ohhhh professor sir..."

New question: everyone has a deal breaker list. some are more extensive, some are more superficial, and some people lie about having one. Agree/disagree?

touche. Sounds like an LF literary prop involving temporal origami if I had to guess.

Actually, it's a hypothetical explanation for the missing spatial dimensions required by m-theory.

Agreed... how about parallel parking on the left hand side of the street? (one way streets) Now THAT is talent.

String theory Again? (stifles yawn)

m-theory combines several versions of string theory.

And, as far as I'm concerned, true parking creativity would best be exemplified by vertical parking. Master THAT, and you can do a whole series of instructional DVDs.

oh and it would be really cool if the parallel universe was in the 1950s so I could drive an edsel

speed of light people - how to measure time in space

Sigh. Point taken, I guess I'll keep my day job.

In this economy, it's probably the best option.

Ok. Since I get the feeling you are calling me out here, let's chat. BTW...I was joking with my comment. Anyways...back to Coffee Talk With Goof.

I have a "list" of what I look for in a woman. And, to answer your question, we all have that. However, do we ever find someone who gets all checkmarks from our lists? I'd say the percentage is low. Which leads to us settling for someone who is close enough. Or, to better phrase it....we accept someone who scores high in certain areas, but needs some work in other areas and therefore we "hope" they will evolve.

And, yes...some people just look for the physical and want to get laid, so these people's lists aren't that extensive. Or, as you put it, they lie. They say all the right things in the hopes of getting what they want.

So, I will agree with what you said. But do note that as politicians do, I have the right to quickly flip flop. Haha!

I do not have a long list of criteria

I do not "just" want to get laid (but that's a start )

I do not lie

Agree. I'm unconscionably superficial and I'm OK with it. As for "extensive," I suppose it depends on one's perspective. A lot of people have deal-breakers based on smoking and tattoos and income and all that sort of thing, and none of that means anything to me one way or the other. But I won't have anything to do with a parent or a drinker. Priorities.

As a parent, I can respect that. I want nothing to do with someone if they aren't on board to **eventually** be cool with my daughter... whatever that may mean... gotta be open to the idea at least.

I think we're on the same page here... I hear women list 20 "deal-breakers" and think, "poor girl, you're going to be alone for a VEEEERRRRRRRYYYYY long time..." My list was what, four, maybe five things? I only include things that I know from experience that are incompatible traits. I've been married before, I've learned myself. But I try not to be unrealistic.

i think that everybody has dealbreakers but not everybody has a list

fkuc punkchewation and spawlin i can do it better than almost anyone
and it has nothing whatsoever to do with the worth of a person

videogames are fine once in a while as is tv

crafts are good for the brain like puzzles except with unusual pieces

my preferences are very pedestrian - no jail problems or drug problems,
no unkindness, no shallowness, no venal, no humorless

For me...

No kids - And as Lex stated it so succinctly, I'll leave it at that.

Must like animals - Really like them, not the BS you think I want to hear and pull a "me or them" ultimatum later. I and my animals will be gone so fast it makes your head spin.

No smoking or other drugs - I'm allergic. Nasty stuff!

Religion - Atheist or pagan please. I've stopped trying to get along with any of the mono religions. And the whole agree to disagree doesn't work. Tried it.

Grammer, spelling - please know it. Glitches are understandable, even some language mistakes in translations are too, but constant errors just irk me like fingernails on a chalkboard. And this crap about text form and dropping letters is just idiotic.

I think those are my biggies.

I think most people have Deal breakers even if they don't take the time to put them in a list....

I won't date anyone who:
- Smokes
- has an addiction or drug habit, illegal or prescription, or alcohol
= wants children (I am done having babies and don't want to raise anyone elses)
= if there isn't mutual physical attraction
-has a job and can bring at least an equal amount to the table that I do
- Is articulate and can hold an intelligent conversation both in person and in writing...
-Has to be an active Christian living for the Lord

I know it's a lot, but it is what it is.....

Deal... list... semantics. And I'm not judging anyone's worth by how well they've mastered the written word, I just appreciate someone who takes the time and care to do it right. It's frustrating/aggravating/not worth my time to try to decipher someone's version of shorthand... but I'm a nerd like that, so it matters to me, it may not to someone else.

Ya'know Lex, I don't see you as at all superficial. I've read your profile (not recently though), and all of your deal-breakers seem reasonably well thought-out and logical to me. Issues like not wanting kids are incredibly important to establish at the beginning, for the future happiness of both parties. Superficial (to me anyway) would be saying something like "I won't date anyone with brown hair".

I think establishing deal-breakers (and making sure your potential mate knows about them) is very important. I'd rather know NOW if someone hates dogs (for example), then find out the first time I invite him over.