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Edited by
msharmony
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Sun 09/04/11 11:09 AM
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Well i believe it should be a thing of preference but i've seen some profiles like that, streamlining their chances of geeting a date just because of age differences, hence my post. The example sited in my post is just to say that it's acceptable in the society for an older man to date a far younger lady than the other way round, but i guess things are changing now its not taboo to me personally, as stated by someone else, its a preference Just like preferring to date educated men, its just something that I have learned to PREFER over time with experience I like the odds of someone being able to relate to me, and me to them, and the odds are higher if they are in my age group and similarly educated. I also have children of my own and I am of the mind to be married someday so I have to consider the family dynamic caused by too close an age between the stepparent and my children. |
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It depends on how much younger-
I wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone in their 20's or 30's- I just don't know how much we'd have in common... 
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Thus far i've gained from everyone that have posted that it's about preference, sharing similarities, maturity level and being confortable around ones partner, which might give rise to the age differences.
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and as for your 30 yo GF - who was outraged? I'd say that was their problem 
She was a CA swimsuit model. They were JEALOUS and we didn't care! Both of us kind of have an outrageous streak. 
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Edited by
w0m4n
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Mon 09/05/11 07:40 AM
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pardon, but for me a man should not be below 45, just a personal preference, just saying
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Like others have said, it's all about preference. Even a 10 year age difference would be pushing it for me. I totally agree, but the larger society frown at it, don't they? But what the "larger society" thinks, in reality, only has an impact on you if you allow it to do so. |
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I've met really immature older men and really mature younger ones. I've seen guys that were thirty who looked like they had one foot in the grave, and men who were pushing sixty that looked like they could beat an entire high school track team in a fifty yard dash. You're as old as you feel and act.
Age is but a number, kind of like shoe size. It matters not to me personally. What does matter is if they can provide what I'm looking for in a relationship... respect, communication, honesty, loyalty, and attraction... and knowing if they can do that comes with time, not age. |
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I've met really immature older men and really mature younger ones. I've seen guys that were thirty who looked like they had one foot in the grave, and men who were pushing sixty that looked like they could beat an entire high school track team in a fifty yard dash. You're as old as you feel and act. Age is but a number, kind of like shoe size. It matters not to me personally. What does matter is if they can provide what I'm looking for in a relationship... respect, communication, honesty, loyalty, and attraction... and knowing if they can do that comes with time, not age. But what the "larger society" thinks, in reality, only has an impact on you if you allow it to do so. It has to do with the individuals in question |
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Why's it that most women see it more of a taboo to date a younger man? One thing i've noticed is that most of these women don't have a cogent reason but they tend to follow the norm of the society. I've bot seen it anywhere or written in a book that the man must be older than the woman in a relationship. So, how young of a man can you date? Afterall nobody complains if an 80years old man marries a 20 years old lady. Age is irrelevant to me. It's 100% personality and chemistry. |
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Well,,, nowadays,,, whenever a young woman/man married a old man/woman which specifically like a "father/mother/grandpa/(ma) old age" it is just because of money matter.Chemistry is just a B***!!
Actually, there's nothing wrong in dating younger ages as long as you didn't involve any "$$$$" on your mind.. 
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I just had a 21 yr old ims me. What in common would I have with a man that age? I mean come on, I have two kids older than him.
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Well i believe it should be a thing of preference but i've seen some profiles like that, streamlining their chances of geeting a date just because of age differences, hence my post. The example sited in my post is just to say that it's acceptable in the society for an older man to date a far younger lady than the other way round, but i guess things are changing now its not taboo to me personally, as stated by someone else, its a preference Just like preferring to date educated men, its just something that I have learned to PREFER over time with experience I like the odds of someone being able to relate to me, and me to them, and the odds are higher if they are in my age group and similarly educated. I also have children of my own and I am of the mind to be married someday so I have to consider the family dynamic caused by too close an age between the stepparent and my children. I agree I had someone from another site give me a really hard time - for no reason that I could discern - because I said I prefer someone with at least some college education as I felt we'd be more compatible PLUS I place a high value on education.....it is a preference. It doesn;t mean I think badly of people who do NOT have an education beyond high school....but education changes ones life qualitatively even if it is just the esteem of having the achievement and I got blasted. funny thing, I am one of those well educated types who places just as high a value on informal modes of education like self taught and experience....so she (the lady from the other site) really was blasting the wrong person..... but ya regardless it is a preference NOT a requirement. so what |
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I've met really immature older men and really mature younger ones. I've seen guys that were thirty who looked like they had one foot in the grave, and men who were pushing sixty that looked like they could beat an entire high school track team in a fifty yard dash. You're as old as you feel and act. Age is but a number, kind of like shoe size. It matters not to me personally. What does matter is if they can provide what I'm looking for in a relationship... respect, communication, honesty, loyalty, and attraction... and knowing if they can do that comes with time, not age. 
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The way I see it we have a choice to date whom we would feel comfortable with. If that means we don't date those that are the same age of our kids then that is our choice. If that keeps me from having dates then it is all good with me.
I have dated up to 6 years younger I might go up to 12 years younger but that is where I draw the line....And have not went there as of yet and might not...
That would all depend on the guy and if we actually had anything in common and if the chemistry happens to be there... |
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I just had a 21 yr old ims me. What in common would I have with a man that age? I mean come on, I have two kids older than him. I have had that too. I live in OSU territory and I get IMed from the dorms and I just tell the fellas about my sons & their academic accomplishments, and ask them how school is and if they have girls on campus to date etc etc and the ones who just seemed lonely away from home and needing a chat who were polite I told them that they can talk w/ me whenever they like at the same time made it very clear that none of anything was intended romantically or sexually and there was one young fella who IMed me a few times but I haven't heard from him in several months so figure he's adjusted to college life by now. 
not saying you have to bother with it - just saying how I handled it but if they get the funky munky going AT ALL - I block them |
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Well, I'd date a Lady 7 years younger, I'm almost 28 btw :)
But, 7 years younger right now, is still too young for me. In other words, I don't want to date a 21 year old. For they are too youthful, and a liitle rough and childish. Not what I'm looking for. A 24 year old is much better, and more mature. I still got another 3 years to play with, lucky me! :D Also, I wouldn't date a Lady that's more then 2 years older then me. I don't need another old clock in my life :) |
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I just had a 21 yr old ims me. What in common would I have with a man that age? I mean come on, I have two kids older than him. my sentiment exactly,, so much they have to experience that I have already come through and I dont wish to go backwards or to have them skip those important parts of their journey |
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Well, I'd date a Lady 7 years younger, I'm almost 28 btw :) But, 7 years younger right now, is still too young for me. In other words, I don't want to date a 21 year old. For they are too youthful, and a liitle rough and childish. Not what I'm looking for. A 24 year old is much better, and more mature. I still got another 3 years to play with, lucky me! :D Also, I wouldn't date a Lady that's more then 2 years older then me. I don't need another old clock in my life :) You have such a kind way of describing women over 30 years old. |
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Well, I'd date a Lady 7 years younger, I'm almost 28 btw :) But, 7 years younger right now, is still too young for me. In other words, I don't want to date a 21 year old. For they are too youthful, and a liitle rough and childish. Not what I'm looking for. A 24 year old is much better, and more mature. I still got another 3 years to play with, lucky me! :D Also, I wouldn't date a Lady that's more then 2 years older then me. I don't need another old clock in my life :) You have such a kind way of describing women over 30 years old. to listen to biscuit man I'm the equivalent of stonehenge I guess
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I'm pleased you don't take me seriously ^_^
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