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Topic: Dumped and can't work out why ...
msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Thu 08/25/11 07:21 AM
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Niceladyrealy Joined Sun 05/29/11 Posts: 279	Fri 08/26/11 03:22 PM
You most likely didn't do anything wrong. He may well have just had a change of mind...as we all do at times. Don't give up on relationships....and don't be scared or avoid the pain in the event of a relationship failing. You have got to experience the pain to appreciate the happiness....without the pain we have nothing to measure happiness against. I am a firm believer in what is meant to be will be and what isn't won't be. He wasn't meant to be. Good luck, stay strong. Someone will be out there for you.....there are worse things than being single hm yes and sometimes you can change your own destiny. I think gotalkto him and ask himaybe theresomething you cando to change his mind,and maybe not,maybe he got new toys2play whith.either way go hava chat,at least you willget closure and rmbr some guys whleave you4 anew toy even ifyour the nicest woman inthe world and aftr a while hel get bored with it. Some aready and wiling4longterm relations and other nothose that seek excitment elsewhr is not mature for a long term relation anyways.

MrDolla Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 122	Fri 08/26/11 03:25 PM
He probably wanted to hook up but nothing serious and just didnt want to tell you those were his intentions. Just my take on it though of course and I could be wrong.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 08/26/11 07:35 PM
He probably wanted to hook up but nothing serious and just didnt want to tell you those were his intentions. Just my take on it though of course and I could be wrong. really if guys were more honest about that they'd have more fun - actually finding women who share their "no strings" preference when they lie about it - it just causes unnecessary drama

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 08/26/11 07:39 PM
He probably wanted to hook up but nothing serious and just didnt want to tell you those were his intentions. Just my take on it though of course and I could be wrong. really if guys were more honest about that they'd have more fun - actually finding women who share their "no strings" preference when they lie about it - it just causes unnecessary drama amen,,, before 'evolving' a bit more in my standards, I considered the option of just asking guys straight out if thats what they wanted... 'Hey, Im so flattered. Are you interested in getting to know me or are you more interested in the sex that may come after, cause I wont hold either intention against you.'...lol

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 08/26/11 07:44 PM
He probably wanted to hook up but nothing serious and just didnt want to tell you those were his intentions. Just my take on it though of course and I could be wrong. really if guys were more honest about that they'd have more fun - actually finding women who share their "no strings" preference when they lie about it - it just causes unnecessary drama amen,,, before 'evolving' a bit more in my standards, I considered the option of just asking guys straight out if thats what they wanted... 'Hey, Im so flattered. Are you interested in getting to know me or are you more interested in the sex that may come after, cause I wont hold either intention against you.'...lol Oh I have definitely gone there but then they want breakfast and if u make that they wanna hold ur hand and hang around all day men what r we gonna do with them harmony???

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 08/26/11 07:48 PM
He probably wanted to hook up but nothing serious and just didnt want to tell you those were his intentions. Just my take on it though of course and I could be wrong. really if guys were more honest about that they'd have more fun - actually finding women who share their "no strings" preference when they lie about it - it just causes unnecessary drama amen,,, before 'evolving' a bit more in my standards, I considered the option of just asking guys straight out if thats what they wanted... 'Hey, Im so flattered. Are you interested in getting to know me or are you more interested in the sex that may come after, cause I wont hold either intention against you.'...lol Oh I have definitely gone there but then they want breakfast and if u make that they wanna hold ur hand and hang around all day men what r we gonna do with them harmony??? lol, I dont know,, its SURE not like in the movies though so much guess work,,,,,,,

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 08/26/11 07:52 PM
He probably wanted to hook up but nothing serious and just didnt want to tell you those were his intentions. Just my take on it though of course and I could be wrong. really if guys were more honest about that they'd have more fun - actually finding women who share their "no strings" preference when they lie about it - it just causes unnecessary drama amen,,, before 'evolving' a bit more in my standards, I considered the option of just asking guys straight out if thats what they wanted... 'Hey, Im so flattered. Are you interested in getting to know me or are you more interested in the sex that may come after, cause I wont hold either intention against you.'...lol Oh I have definitely gone there but then they want breakfast and if u make that they wanna hold ur hand and hang around all day men what r we gonna do with them harmony??? lol, I dont know,, its SURE not like in the movies though so much guess work,,,,,,, no no no don't say that!!! I want it to be just like in the movies TBH I think this is why I am taking so long this time around....that's what I want this time that I didn't have before - certainty - a man who KNOWS I AM what he whats (and vice versa) just like in the movies

kre8karma Joined Wed 05/04/11 Posts: 334	Fri 08/26/11 08:13 PM
You're a smart lady. London sounds really exciting for you too. I never regret falling in love. It teaches me that I am capable of wonderful feelings. Im grateful to all the men Ive loved even if it doesnt work out for whatever the reason. I agree wholeheartedly. And you articulated it so well.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 08/26/11 08:20 PM
He probably wanted to hook up but nothing serious and just didnt want to tell you those were his intentions. Just my take on it though of course and I could be wrong. really if guys were more honest about that they'd have more fun - actually finding women who share their "no strings" preference when they lie about it - it just causes unnecessary drama amen,,, before 'evolving' a bit more in my standards, I considered the option of just asking guys straight out if thats what they wanted... 'Hey, Im so flattered. Are you interested in getting to know me or are you more interested in the sex that may come after, cause I wont hold either intention against you.'...lol Oh I have definitely gone there but then they want breakfast and if u make that they wanna hold ur hand and hang around all day men what r we gonna do with them harmony??? lol, I dont know,, its SURE not like in the movies though so much guess work,,,,,,, no no no don't say that!!! I want it to be just like in the movies TBH I think this is why I am taking so long this time around....that's what I want this time that I didn't have before - certainty - a man who KNOWS I AM what he whats (and vice versa) just like in the movies when you find him, ask if he has any single male relatives,,lol

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 08/26/11 08:28 PM
He probably wanted to hook up but nothing serious and just didnt want to tell you those were his intentions. Just my take on it though of course and I could be wrong. really if guys were more honest about that they'd have more fun - actually finding women who share their "no strings" preference when they lie about it - it just causes unnecessary drama amen,,, before 'evolving' a bit more in my standards, I considered the option of just asking guys straight out if thats what they wanted... 'Hey, Im so flattered. Are you interested in getting to know me or are you more interested in the sex that may come after, cause I wont hold either intention against you.'...lol Oh I have definitely gone there but then they want breakfast and if u make that they wanna hold ur hand and hang around all day men what r we gonna do with them harmony??? lol, I dont know,, its SURE not like in the movies though so much guess work,,,,,,, no no no don't say that!!! I want it to be just like in the movies TBH I think this is why I am taking so long this time around....that's what I want this time that I didn't have before - certainty - a man who KNOWS I AM what he whats (and vice versa) just like in the movies when you find him, ask if he has any single male relatives,,lol well....don't wait up for me.... this could take awhile

actionlynx Joined Wed 08/18/10 Posts: 5448	Fri 08/26/11 09:36 PM
Just found this thread....and there really is too much room for speculation. The one observation I will make based on the opening post is that something was obviously on his mind, and I don't think it has anything to do with you really. This happened on Friday, but he didn't break it off until Monday. He was around during the weekend. The move to London wouldn't work for him. He knew this in advance. ...It's almost like he lost his job, or was notified of being transferred to a different location or something. Like he didn't know how to tell you, and didn't want you to make sacrifices for him. And yet, it could have been many other things too. If he never mentioned it to you, and you never had an argument to spark this, then it couldn't have been anything about you. It seems more like a personal issue which he was trying to insulate you from despite his own difficulties. In the end, I wouldn't beat myself up over it. If he didn't fault you for it, then don't fault yourself. Move on, and be happy with the life you presently have.