Is it a deal breaker for you when your chatting with someone and you feel more like a suspect being investigated than actually trying to set up a date?How much is to much?

Sometimes it's so bad i begin to think they are a scammer with all the info they want to know about me.

yo, what's with all the questions?



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Well, as a general rule - If you have to ask, then it's too much.

Not only that but I can tell it makes you uncomfortable, so when it reaches that point... here's your sign!

my dog ate that paper i had written down your social, can you give it to me again? slurp slurp

I dunno, there probably doesnt need to be too many questions, but the person could be either cautious or paranoid. It depends on the questions they are asking...obviously no-one needs your address, ss, or driving record.

But I mean what's left to talk about on the date-SHEEZ...

well this post was more for people to tell their stories if they have had experiences like this or if some are the ones who like doing the interrogating,ya know like "Coffee Talk" discuss amongst yourselves

I like asking questions. I should've become a detective

some people have this addiction on doing background checks,but they need some info to search for you and if you tell them "woh i ain't giving you all that info" they have it in their head you have something to hide so they bail.I just don't undrerstand why they are so paranoid and expect people to immediately give them their personal info.Then again that could be another reason they are single.

pfffft, NOW you tell ME!

Most guys don't ask me crap---they just want to know if i want to have relations with them or sex chat....I guess I know what I'm good for in life---

I got one, he keeps asking for my name and picture??????wtf?

I do that. It's not paranoia for me though. I just like to know that, I am not going to go out with someone, less then myself.

Only now and again. Just don't give much info away, until you're comfortable knowing them properly :)

Oh you mean its NOT socially acceptable to ask for their drivers license, social and address on the first conversation. DAMN. knew I was doing something wrong.


But seriously as one who has had the misfortunes of dealing with a few scammers, who obviously thought they were pretty slick. I tend to ask more questions if I'm scared that they aren't real.
You don't mean like the normal questions like "So what do you do?" Have any siblings? What do you do for fun? Or what kind of music you listen to? RIGHT?

I don't like when all they do is ask question after question as if they're interviewing me. Those kind of people tend not to have much to actually talk about.

And what is less than yourself?

no i don't mean preferences i mean like what you typed in your first sentence

I think this kinda pretentious behavior is more of a red flag for me than any kinda "background" someone might have.

Just sayin'.

I have a question for you, RIKIST

If you were my boyfriend, would you loan me $4000 so I could fly to Australia and visit my "brother"

I didn't get where I am today, stood on a shoe box

goes to look for flag...just sayin