Girl, you just need to try a new class of guys. maybe go out of your comfort zone a bit. You never know what you missing til you try something new.

Good Luck!

still, you've no control over anybody else's behavior. you only have control over your own behavior. now if you've given up because of the behavior of men then that makes sense as you've no control over men's behavior and if you're convinced that all men behave similarly then you now have two choices. give up on men as you've done and find happiness alone in your life, or alter your behavior to accept what men are and find one that's right for you. but you do, of course have a third option which is to look at how you think of men because i can assure you that most women do not see the issues that you see in men and have not given up.

watch it now, IM forty two and still waiting,,lol

but, I have learned I dont 'need' it,, it would be exciting to have it (like hitting the lotto) But Im not planning life around it anymore,,,

Draw a little wisdom from your feelings...
If you want relationship, don't run from it, move toward it.
Back to the basics, again? Perhaps... so what?

But if you wanna be a get around girl... I reckon that's fine too,
Luck...

LOL yea i feel like i'm getn to that point. i think i should go out and be a 'lady of the evening' cause i ain't dead yet, but if i keep going like this, i will be LOL. but no, seriously i still have needs and i don't want to be alone forever. but right now, at this point, i'm tired of searching. u know, like on these sites. i see some cute guys and all but um, seems like what's interested in me is all these middle aged over weight caucasian guys <--- no offense to anyone. but that's not my style, i think one tried to IM me, had to turn that off. i've liked guys that weren't black, but they weren't interested in me. but yea, i can't search anymore.

if you are really at the point of giving up, this may help

http://youtu.be/oHg5SJYRHA0

OMG i used to LOVE that song......thx

BINGO

I've seen this same thing happen in that area over and over. It runs from Cinn city to D town. While touring (no kidding) I've taken girls out of those cities moved them into my place and after a couple of months they are hanging with new crowds and married before long. I've done this with 3 women. 1 in Cincinnati and 2 in Detroit. Once the gals see there is a better way with better people they will either slide back or move forward. All 3 of my friends who went through this moved forward.

I should say we because my wife was in on it too. Mia had a huge heart when it came to this type of thing.

Amen to that. You go through about 90 entanglements, all ending up the exact same way -- with the person trying to change you into the polar opposite of who you are -- there comes a time when you just have to figure it's more trouble than it's worth.

Don't get me wrong, I'd love to find someone compatible. But I'm convinced there simply isn't anybody like that. There isn't anyone who wants me as me -- they want to change me into Mr. Cleaver. And I'm not gonna do that.

Mzcat, with the general theme of your threads,
you don't strike me as being in a place to be
having a relationship at all right now.
You've victimized yourself and keep
attracting the same man..just in a
different package, if ya know what I mean.

Take some time for yourself, time for healing.
Instead of putting your energy into figuring
out why these men are what they are,
work on why you keep allowing them into
your life.

The lesson keeps coming back until we learn it.

wow alrighty then

Why would a lovely lady like you be giving up? Even if you give up on actively "seeking", I'm sure some lucky guy will find you and be all that you hope for. I speak from long time experience.

well it hasn't happened yet. lol

had someone kinda crazy about me, but he wasn't worth two cents LITERALLY. but it is what it is. some ppl aren't just meant to be with anyone.

what she said.

Come on sister, step up that pace! You know you ain't gonna give up on love. Your either gonna walk right back in that same door you just came out of or your going to get up the courage to love yourself the way you deserve. And right now your not doing that cause your focused on the bad. Now you can stay focused on that negative spin that so many women stay trapped in cause they feel like there is no love for them (real love) and yet you know there's a whole world out there waiting to open up to you.

You act like you have a need to act fast so why are you moving so slow to get rid of the bad? The bad in your mind is going to choke the life out of that little heart of yours. We can be a part of loving you into a new place but only if your going to step up that pace with us.

LOL i was saying OOPS at how i worded that last sentence lol

I was talking about the whole picture baby girl. Life is a good thing, and love is just as fine. But we can't dig a hole and throw love in it without water. It won't grow. You got to grow it and work it and find the good side of it. The wrong men are pigs, Pigs, PIGS but if you feed them you ain't changin a thing. Men don't need an excuse to look at a fine woman and treat her with disrespect when what they should be doing is helping support her need for help.

Nooooo, never give up. Never. You never know when Mr right will turn up. Mainly, it's when we least expect it. So i have stopped expecting any man to want to date me. I know it's so ironic when you're looking for love, and people tell you to stop looking, but actually, i've known it to be true more often than not. Keep your head up, and your humor. Humor goes a long way.