I'm sure we all have different preferences when it comes to first dates. What are yours?

Do you like to dress to impress or keep it casual?

Do you keep it simple to where you can sit and talk, or do you like to plan it out to keep busy?

Do you have preferences on who pays? Do you discuss that beforehand, or assume you or the other person will pay?

Keep in mind, there are no wrong answers. We all will have different preferences. What works for some may not work for others. I'm just curious as to what others think.

I never dress to impress. The closest I get to dressing up is when I go to weddings/funerals and I dig a shirt out of my closet that buttons up!

As far as where to go/what to do, it really depends on how that date came about and all the circumstances around it. At least for me, every first date seems to be different.

I tend to prefer to keep it 'dutch'. At least for the first date. It tends to cut down on the amount of people only looking for free lobster. Seriously though, it takes away any of that thinking of "Hmmmm....He paid, so now I owe him something.....".

My answers are along the same lines as yours. I tend to keep it more casual, at least at first.

I'm not too picky about where to go on a first date, as long as it allows us to chat and get to know each other. Not big on movies for first dates or long fancy dinners.

I will also always offer to pay my half on a first date. Some guys would rather pay, which is fine. But I'll still offer.

I've never been on a date, so I don't know ^_^

To be honest, with all the female attension I've had. Dating is the last thing on my mind

They either want me to jump into bed with them, or leave them alone. I will not be used for pleasure. I'm an old fasioned Gentleman. I like to keep my reputation and dignity, thankyou. The slags of the world can keep well away! :P

So, you like all the attention or you don't? And why don't you want to date?

I don't like the attension. I am after what does not exsist in todays world. I am after a fair "well to do" Lady.

I don't want to date, because I have lost faith in the modern girl. If they are not drooling over me, then they are not doing anything at all.

So, what is this "well to do" lady that you're looking for like?

Well first dates come in many ways. Depends on how you meet where you agree to meet ect..... Setting it aside. I do actually like getting a little dressed up.(Imagine that a leo who likes to show off) It also really depends on the girl and what she's like from what you know about her. I tend to cater towards the kind of things she'd like because I can have fun doing just about anything really.

I keep it very casual and down to a coffee meet...

what I'm wearing isn't gonna to be a factor after 15 minutes

of conversation, nor is what he's wearing going to matter.

Yes, I know first dates can go many ways. You do what she wants because there isn't anything specific you actually enjoy? Or, you just like her to decide?

Yeah, I can see how that would work. If it goes well, you set up another date and if it doesn't, there wasn't a whole lot of time/money wasted.

As a person interested enough to suggest a first date. My goal is to learn about her. So I prefer to do the kinds of things that she likes. You learn more about a person when they are in their own element no? Also its not that I don't enjoy anything but I can find enjoyment in anything .

attire would depend on the environment for the date. nice restaurant would require better clothing than a coffee shop or a bookstore.
i would prefer to go someplace where we can converse, so a movie is out.
dinner is ok, but i think for a first meeting a bookstore or a coffee shop is a better environment. you can talk over a cup of coffee and if there's no connection early on you don't have to wait for the appetizers then the meal then the check just to get out of there. a bookstore tells a little about the kind of person they are. do they read gossip mags or classic lit or sci/fi....whatever it is, it still gives you something to talk about.

if it's dinner, i feel awkward not paying. not sure why, but unless we had been dating for a while and were actually in a relationship i'd be uncomfortable with paying anything less than my part of the bill.



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That is among one of the most difficult questions, I have ever been asked.

I don't know how closely acurate I can describe this person, but I will try my best!

1. Is able to sustain her own life. Not depending so much on other members of her family.

2. A Lady of nature. Forget the the technological Lady. A Lady of life will do.

3. Has good manners and a kind heart. Knows the difference between right and wrong. Intelligent, but refined.

4. Will not judge others. Stands up for herself. Never holds anyone too highly.

5. A good gentle friend, when in need. Always honest and true. Appriciates the good in a persons heart, and always tends to see that side of them, despite any flaws.

I don't know if I could write that up again

All in all, a fair and gentle soul. I have yet to meet such a person. But I don't mind fate deciding if I do or not. I'm certainly not going to look for such a person.

There's only one Girl I came across close to this. But she is another story

That's cool, I can understand that. I went on a first date once where the guy refused to say where he wanted to go or what he wanted to do, so I picked. He was nice enough, so I said yes to a second date, but told him I wanted him to let me know what he wanted to do. I did this for much of the same reason.. to learn more about him. He chose to not decide and I got tired of waiting, so there was no second date. I like when both people are able to give ideas for dates. Indecisiveness bothers me.

I wish you luck in finding her.

Well if I do go on a second date thats usually where friends come in. For me a first date is where you decide if its worth pursuing any further. The second and third dates are usually where the introductions to each others friends happens. I wouldn't want to put her on the spot to soon so A double date with a couple friends is usually a good idea for me(works well for first dates too). but really it all depends on the type of girl she is for me at least. And yeah being indecisive is unmanly. If she asked me where I wanted to go I wouldn't have any problems choosing either I'd just prefer to let her decide.

Meeting friends on the second date? That sounds like a lot of pressure.

Thats why the double date works so well. Cause it can be one of her friends and one of yours. A couple who may have helped set the two of you up. It really could go a couple of ways and they are usually tied up in each others conversation its a lot less like being on the spot.

I'm not a big fan of double dates in the beginning. I'd rather get to know the person first. Then add in other friends as we go. Then again, I haven't been on a double date in a long time. It was more of something my friends and I did when we were younger. To each their own, though!

A couple weeks ago, I was at a local bar for trivia and overheard the next table talking about their friend who was coming there on a blind date. That seemed like a ton of pressure to put on a blind date! It all seemed kind of awkward from what we could see. I don't think I'd put my date on the spot like that so early on.