Must have been mighty inconveniencing, leaving your tongue in her mouth when you wondered away from her in a shopping experience at a mall.

Like how do you order a beer without a tongue to show for it in your mouth? And you can't say tongue-in-cheek jokes to the beer waitress. "Fowwy, miff, my pohng if im my giw'f moof."

... still continuing on that: You must have put yourself at a disadvantage for a promotion with the boss, too, at work, if your girl still kept your tongue for the shift.

The above silliness was meant in jest, in good humour, not in insinuation of dishonour or stuff like that. Just joking, man, no hard feelings to be generated.

I swear around my lady, when there is one, like a drunken sailor. I come off very polite and measured just at first, and the lower they get lowered toward the ground off the platform of the pedestal, the more foul-mouthed I become. Yet, I don't like swearing in bed. I like to use swear words as connectives and adjectives, but I like it when my lady uses them in their proper, god-given meaning.

The whole thing has to do with taking things I used to covet and clamor for granted, and to do with desacrating a female idol by sex. I am sick, I know, and so do those who are unlucky enough to get in a close personal-emotional relationship with me.

But enough about my mental illnesses and social-psycholo-emotional and socio-sexual failings.

Wait for the rigamortis to pass.

wow, i had to google that one, I learn at least a new word every day.



haha, it's hard to knock me out of balance. The worst you gonna get is heavy sarcasm and me playing a circus clown on the forums.

I'm with you & Soufie on this one

I see nothing wrong with being a trashwhore in bed - definitely - especially if he likes it- and if he doesn't I'll tone it down some -

but it is a matter of personal preference -not right & wrong- and finding a partner who shares those preferences. folks who like it mild just hafta find each other

but that's a private matter that stays between my partner & me as most bedroom stuff is - I certainly am not going to talk at the grocery store the way I do during sex

ummm not really

rape is actually a crime of violence not a sex crime - it is a violent rather than perverted act - like an exhibitionist for example

a pervery exhib prolly won't rape

but a violent offender very well may

it is an act of violence against women with issues of hatred of females, and is often associated with other violent offenses and control issues such as kidnapping, assault, homicide and forcible entry, and weapon offenses

date rape is a little different, but nonetheless a crime of violence with issues related to negativity toward females and an insanity rooted in a desire to control women, and needs to be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law more often



why I avoid men who are negative about women, with negative attitudes about women and who complain about women using generalizations or have a bad attitude about women overall

a man who hasn't had any in awhile knows the difference between a score and a rape. A man who rapes is a criminal in need of prosecution confinement and treatment

and possible sterilization

Wow. You found it? I think it's spelled rigor mortis or rigour mortis. So now Wiki has it under rigamortis as well.

That''s big news, actually. AND I am putting my neck on the line, too, because I am not 100 percent sure I am right about this "rigamortis" business.

But hey, no pain, no gain. A man has got to risk losing some of his valuables sometimes, this is one of the bigger ones of what being a "man" is all about.



Glad to hear that!!

Power, brother!! I mean, "bro".

EEEEEEWWWWW!

I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I can attempt to explain why I am (was?) one of those 'rigid' girls you speak of...

You listen to your mother tell you 83 bazillion times from a tender age, and I emphasize the quotes here, "NOBODY should ever see you naked!!" Now I grew up in a house with 3 brothers and she had all the best intentions when she said this as she couldn't have me streaking thru the house. There were further age appropriate explanations along the way, but basically the conversations always ended with this statement. I could kick her for not throwing in "Until you meet the man you love."

So fast forward through childhood with certain sexual scripts instilled by well-meaning parent(s) and viola, you have a teen that starts getting busy with the boys and momma's voice rings out loud and clear when the clothes start being removed... "NOBODY should ever see you naked!". For me, this created conflict. It sure feels good, and this is going to be hard to do if I can't be seen. It's pretty dang hard to turn the moon off if ya know what I mean!

I've LEARNED to shut momma's voice off, over time, but it took me YEARS to accomplish this. I'm not nearly as reserved as I was initially with sex, but I had to work at accepting different ideas about it than I was taught. I also think that sex and intimacy are two different things. Would I drop to my knees for any dude?...hell no. Would I engage in oral sex with the man I committed my heart and life to?... absolutely. So for me, the bedroom antics are completely dependent on my emotional connection with the person. If I'm f-ing you, things are going to be different than if we're making love.

Some women that are rigid also may have suffered sexual abuse. This is much harder to quiet than Momma's voice. The girl who won't go down on you may have suffered a painful incident related to this specific act. Does she love you less? Doubtful. Is it a reason to toss the relationship out? Guess that depends on how much you value that act. To me, it's just one means of expressing feelings. And talking about what you need is the only way to understand each other. If your sexual scripts differ dramatically, the relationship is doomed, in my opinion. But remember, we're all learning and changing everyday....it's the beauty of life, which ironically starts with the sex act. For some, that act is about positions and vocabulary, for others it is something much, much deeper. JMO, albeit a very long-winded one.