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1. One way NOT to achieve this, is to provide categorical excuses to how you won't do it. Someone said, "get a dog". A sound and good advice. So far the best on the thread. You came back immediately, "good advice, but I can't take it, because I can't have a dog." I say if you are capable of changing your situation to be able to have a dog, then do it. You will lose some benefit, time, you'll have to extend effort, sure. But if you want to enhance your life, that's exactly have to do right now, in order to get a dog which is guaranteed to enhance your life. At this time, I am unable to extricate myself from my current living arrangement. I would if I could. And I've been trying to find a way to do it for the last two years. While I have no doubt that a dog would be a great asset in my life, I'm not in a position to do anything about that. 2. The other way NOT to achieve this is downplay the enhancements to your life that would be available and real. ""But then came the issue of whether the "enhancement," as such, was a real thing or strictly a fleeting delusion, based on hormones, convenience, money, opportunism, etc."" I can't possibly imagine how you conceptualize "enhancement" of life, if it is not expressed in pleasure such as hormonally based sexual or gastronomical pleasrue; if it is not expressed in relaxation such as convenience of lifestyle; not expressed in money, which would help you ensure many things that I would classify as enhancements to life, such as clean clothing, good meals, quality transportation and a decent place to live in, as well as social and cultural pursuits that would otherwise be impossible or unattainable, if you had no money; not expressed in opportunities, such as, in case of a "relatinship" enhancing your life, a widening of your social circles by annexing your gf's circle of friends as your own, an opportunity to have your own children and enjoy the joys of parenthood, an opportunity to live a stable life with the mutual support of a partner. You see, the problem is largely that you don't see these as "enhancements", but you see these as "fleeting delusion", which they are not. Sure, they are or can be ephemeral, temporary and you can lose them at any time; but that does not equate "fleeting". I think you would do well if you re-examined your evaluation of what constitutes "good" and what constitutes "boring" in a person's life. I'm basing "enhancement" on a bottom-line conclusion of "My life is better with you than without you." That simply doesn't happen to me for more than a brief span of time, usually no longer than a few weeks or a month. We can debate "fleeting" but that's just subjective interpretation -- I call it "fleeting" if it's inherently temporary and based on a willful deception, because at that point it has no chance of sticking. Your listed "enhancements" are, to me, largely irrelevant, and in some cases abhorrent. I've heard the "joys of parenthood" argument a million times and I'm not interested, nor will I ever be interested. Frankly, I find it a little insulting that you would even put that out there -- it's as if you're telling me my standards are wrong and I need to rethink them. But I've rethought them over and over again, and I'm not about to become a parental unit just because a lot of people believe that the "norm" is the right answer for everyone. |
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