My former wife would leave the cap off the toothpaste.

What drives you up the wall?

those who equate love with sex - not me, but I prefer sex; a.s.a.p. too. Love can wait.

those who equate rudeness with honesty - not me, especially if someone else is doing the equating.

those who expect more from others than they give to others - this is me.

grown folks with their pants hanging off their butt - this is me, but not the pants but the shirt bottoms falling out. Hang on to your rockers, nothing else falls out.

grown folks who act like bratty children, in general -- this is me, big time.

grown ups who are always victims - not me.

grown ups who are bullies - not me, but inadvertently I may appear so.

people who utter the words 'JUST get a job', as if jobs grow up out of the sidewalk - not me. Finding a job is harder than finding love, if you have been out of either for five years or more.

adults who dont take any responsibility for kids who arent their own -- definitely not me. Hold -- I don't have kids. Does it mean I bug you if I do take responsibility or if I don't take responsibility for any kid? Am I supposed to take responsibility for all kids? Or take responsibility for not even one kid? As a childless adult, what is the optimum number of kids I ought to take responsibility for, and the optimum number for which I ought not to take responsiblity for? And specifically, what are their names?

I don't understand your assertion, I am afraid, or else your expectation is bugging me. I refuse to take responsibility for any number of children that are not my own. There is no moral, social, or legal grounds in which you can guilt-trip me to take responsibility for anyone else's kids. They made it, they take care of it -- as simple as that. I don't want any part of the care giving of children of complete strangers. --- if I score a gf who has a child who needs me occasionally, sure, I'll help him and take care of him or her and take responsibility for their well-being. But for Mr. Shwangahili's four-hundred twenty seven children in Bangla Desh I will never take responsibility, unless one of his wives leaves him and comes to live with me with her kids from him.

professionals who have no class about them -- well, to a Ph.D. a class is a job, so you are -- I am sorry to say so -- a bit hypocritical, inasmuch as you are saying in effect, to Ph.D.-s, "JUST get a job" when you say "just get some class."

and wux, ,,

Thanks, it makes sense, now.

However, it is impossible or inadvisable for me to do so in the prejudiced social climate of today's world.

Let me explain.

I am a poorly dressed, largely unattractive, short and wide greaseball of a middle aged male. My shirt buttoms more times than not stick out and fall over my pants. If I were to approach a kid in my town in any situation, the parents would kill me before I reached their children to save the kids from drowning or from walking into fire or from sharing hypodermic needles needlessly.

thats terrible, I agree that our climate has become very unfortunately UNACCEPTING of men playing any role in childrens lives beyond their biological fathering role,,,,


my dad chastised and feed and spoke to children whenever he saw the 'need'

of course, he was six foot four and built athletically, so noone would hardly confront him ..lol