I've been out of the dating loop for a while and i'm not sure what to expect.

Curious about how to go about making the first steps in dating.

Not a party person but prefer more quieter activities such as conversation, dining out, going to the movies.

There are no rules written in stone. There is no instruction manual. From personal experience, the best dates, when I had no idea where to go, what to do, I made it up on the fly. The point is to be able to be spontaneous.

For women - do have a preference "I don't know, you tell me - sort of answer really sucks. Most guys don't really like when she just shrugs her shoulders for every option the guy lists - for example- restaurants, favorite foods or other ideas, where to hang out. For guys doing it, it's disastrous.

A few things though:

Movies are NEVER a good idea for a first date, unless it's the 2nd 3rd or 4th..since you gonna be in a place where you watch a movie, and not getting to know your partner.


1. Wear nice and clean clothes.
2. Don't curse
3. Pay attention and show attention.

This goes for men/women.
Everything else follows.
that's it.

Very insightful Atlantis.

Annareese. Pay attention to your date. No matter what your doing. Dinner, dancing, roller skating, working out, walk, bike ride. Any thing that you can talk and get to know eachother better.

Great advice. Thank you both for responding.

..wtf ..there's a loop now..i'm always the last to know...

Jump in...Don't drown.

No risk, no reward.

Fear!

Dict8!

How's it going, man?

Not too bad, man!

Yr elusive....... Are you in witness protection or something?

dont be afraid, be open minded. . . and have fun..

I went hiking a lot with this one guy and it was a lot of fun, because there is a lot of talking involved...unlike the movies. Then of course there is always dinner, if you like eating out a lot. i am getting sick of out to eat meals....i would like to cook a meal together, that would be fun..

Jesus Christ, man! You're supposed to be my attorney, giving out sensitive information like that!

I did get a suitcase though.

Cool. I'm holding yr passport, a few Hawaiian shirts that are yr size....a fifth of Wild Turkey, a pint of raw ether....and some grapefruit.......

Conversation? I prefer even quieter first dates. Like walking my goldfish in lake ontario. Or crawling to the movies, through a long, long, deserted tunnel, with no train service.

Conversation hurts my ears. My conversation partners complain of their brains hurting, and of a heache that can last from two weeks to a lifetime.

In the Loop (Glen Miller and his orchestra): be open minded, be afraid, and have fun. Be frightened of the person you may be becoming. See the dread beconing you.

That's how I always do on a first date.